Team 'Pingu' is changing/relocating

[Wallie]

Sorry I don't come on here often, I usually update with my testing dates but that's about it. I find that even though this is a ttc thread everyone still posts when they are pregnant. Maybe that's the problem, us ttc'ers find it hard to keep coming here. I know that I can't go into the announcement section and I've never yet ventured to even 1st trimester .

Anyway I'll pop in now and again

 

[NickyT75]

Big to LM and LeaArr xx

Hiya Su babe its great to see you

April you look fab hun

Hi Petitpas how are you getting on? xx

OUF! I feel a little awkward posting in the midst of such emotion... but hey, someone's gotta break the ice...

So yep, not much I can report on at the mo except that work is really stressing me out and the more tired and stressed I get, the more vile the vomit taste in my mouth becomes. Plus, it doesn't help that I am having to fold the tops of my trousers down because I can't close them. It's all fat and no bump, though!

I am awaiting a number of appointments at the moment. Tomorrow I have an appointment at the hospital with a haematologist. I need to go on heparin injections due to my clotting problems. The main advantage is that it can save my life by preventing another Pulmonary Embolism. If it only prevents a DVT, that stops me from having to go on the pesky Warfarin for life. And hopefully it will help keep this little donkey safe because my genetic clotting factor gives me double the risk of having an m/c.
Next week I am seeing the midwife again. Does anyone know whether they have dopplers in their office and whether it is worth me having a cheeky cry on them to get them to try and hear a heartbeat?
The week after that it's the obstetrician to discuss my 'risky' care.
Then finally, the next week on the 28th I have my first scan. Seems like an age away!

How are you doing? Any more mid-night twinges?

Hiya hun

Im not sure how far on you are? as your ticker doesnt appear to be working? but MW's usually wont attempt to look for the heartbeat any earlier than 16wks as it can be too difficult to find and just causes you to worry if they dont find it

Good luck for your appt tomorrow xx

 

[petitpas]

Yikes! Bad ticker - bad!
I'm 9weeks and 5 days today. Thanks for letting me know about the midwife. Won't embarrass myself for nothing now ;-)

 

[NickyT75]

Sorry I don't come on here often, I usually update with my testing dates but that's about it. I find that even though this is a ttc thread everyone still posts when they are pregnant. Maybe that's the problem, us ttc'ers find it hard to keep coming here. I know that I can't go into the announcement section and I've never yet ventured to even 1st trimester .

Anyway I'll pop in now and again

I dont know what to suggest

im sorry that some of you are upset by pregnant people posting in here as far as im concerned we are a group of friends who are/were all trying to get pregnant... so I dont see how successfully getting pregnant would mean that you were no longer welcome here?

Plus - as im the founder of this thread & obviously pregnant it would be hypocritical of me to continue running the thread

Maybe Team Pingu has run its course??

I dont want anyone to feel pushed out & it appears thats what is happening so perhaps I will ask for the thread to be closed to prevent upsetting anyone else

Thanks to everyone who has been supportive over the years & im truly sorry to anyone that has been upset

 

[123Deirdre]

i had a feeling this debate would end in tears and heartbreak. Not fair! i like reading how the ttc's and pregnancy's are all going. But this isnt about what i want
iby the way my baby is a little girl.

 

[NickyT75]

i had a feeling this debate would end in tears and heartbreak. Not fair! i like reading how the ttc's and pregnancy's are all going. But this isnt about what i want
iby the way my baby is a little girl.

Congratulations sweetheart im so happy for you xx

*edited to add - I will wait to see what the general conscensus is before deciding whether or not to close the thread but if people would be more comfortable we could maybe start a new thread for Pingu graduates? that way we can still keep in touch xx

 

[Lyns]

I will wait to see what the general conscensus is before deciding whether or not to close the thread but if people would be more comfortable we could maybe start a new thread for Pingu graduates? that way we can still keep in touch xx

Why not have both? I think it would be a real shame for it to be lost. I don't see that anyone should be 'kicked out' and I would hope that the pregnant or mummy Pingu's would still pop in, but a graduate Pingu thread would give everyone somewhere to post about the finer points of pregnancy, that may be a bit much for the TTC'ers and LTTTCer's to see all the time.

Congrats 123 Dierdre x

 

[NickyT75]

I will wait to see what the general conscensus is before deciding whether or not to close the thread but if people would be more comfortable we could maybe start a new thread for Pingu graduates? that way we can still keep in touch xx

Why not have both? I think it would be a real shame for it to be lost. I don't see that anyone should be 'kicked out' and I would hope that the pregnant or mummy Pingu's would still pop in, but a graduate Pingu thread would give everyone somewhere to post about the finer points of pregnancy, that may be a bit much for the TTC'ers and LTTTCer's to see all the time.

Congrats 123 Dierdre x

yeah but who will look after the TTC thread? obviously not me coz im pregnant & none of the TTCers take a very active role in here or id be happy to sit back & let them take control

any suggestions welcome? xx

 

[majm1241]

Congrats Deirdre!

I honestly don't know what to say except that I'm sorry for posting my preggo pics and stuff. I don't want to be the cause of someone feeling upset.

 

[subaru555]

Nicky I think a grad thread would be a great idea. I never came in all too often when I was TTC because there were pregnant people too. It is hard because no matter how long someone was trying it's still hard because you aren't iygwim? I've lost a lot of friends too since becoming pregnant but I came on here for support and I've got loads of it xxx

 

[NickyT75]

*sigh*

I couldnt sleep last night for worrying about this & the thing is...

the people who contribute most to the thread are happy & the ones who are complaining hardly even contribute so what assurances do I have that the TTCers will start contributing more on here if all the preggos move elsewhere?

like ive already said... the thread needs someone in charge who has a positive outlook & an active interest in what happens to its members (which I do) in order for it to keep going but it appears that person should also be TTC (which Im not) am I right?

so as far as I can see... unless one of the remaining TTCers wants to take over this thread for me there is no way im gonna be able to please everyone is there?

 

[NickyT75]

Didnt mean to upset anyone here ... I just havent had anything to say lately is all

As I said work has been kinda stressful of late, and ive been so tired of it tbh, and I guess just dipping in/out has been enough to keep me updated on everyone even if not feeling like talking (hmmm diff to explain, but Im sure you understand, or I hope so anyway)!

Note to self: "must try harder"

xx

sorry you are having such a rough time of things lately sweetie

I wanted to make sure I replied to you as your post almost got missed because of all the drama xx

 

[petitpas]

Hi Nicky,
My personal (and rather short) experience on here is that I enjoyed the mix of levels between TTC/LTTC/newly pregnant/ heavily pregnant. This is the only place on bnb that I saw everyone interacting.

I do understand, though, that sometimes people need to take a break and may not feel comfortable with the mix.
Obviously, I am currently not in a situation where I would feel upset so my view is of course biased.

 

[petitpas]

i had a feeling this debate would end in tears and heartbreak. Not fair! i like reading how the ttc's and pregnancy's are all going. But this isnt about what i want
iby the way my baby is a little girl.

How cute! CONGRATULATIONS!!!
Any ideas about names?

 

[Poshie]

I just wanted to come in and support Nicky and the future of Team Pingu. Some of you may know me, some may not but I consider myself to be a Team Pingu graduate (still have the motto in my sig), with fond memories of my time in here I basically stopped coming in here when I got pregnant, as it’s a TTC buddies thread. I then went on to start a new thread in the pregnancy buddies section. I was very grateful for all the support I got in Team Pingu and Nicky has done a fantastic job in keeping the team going. I have seen issues arise before with threads and people being at different stages and it can cause issues. I hope that a solution can be reached to keep the team going. Whether that be Nicky continuing to head it up or someone else taking over the reins? You guys need to decide between you who you would like to take over.

 

[123Deirdre]

cant believe the drama that is goin on all over bnb. I actually have been affraid to log on all day because i didnt know what drama i would run into. Whatever happened to our peaceful supporting team pingu?

And at the moment i like the name Skyla Naomi Rose. Thanks for asking

 

[Lyns]

Well, I also was quite upset last night too, thinking on how this has got our lovely Nicky upset Ironic, how for once this has got me partaking more in a place that I wasn't overly comfortable.

For those Pingu's that don't know my situation, I would like to (briefly) explain why I myself have been reluctant here lately. I joined BnB two years ago, at an already late age of 38, TTC No2, after our first daughter was born with cancer and had quite a battle for her life. In the 2 years since I've fallen pregnant twice, lost both and am now battling cancer myself, which may or may not be a complete end to our TTC our own journey (depending on how my treatment goes). We are not able to try at the moment, as my cancer is gynaecological. We had also started to consider adoption, but the adoption agencies don't like people with cancer either, so our wish for another child may 100% no chance by any method.

I think part of the problem here, is that there are really not that many actual TTCer's involved in Pingu's now. Everyone here is either a mummy, pregnant or an LTTTCer's and for those of you who haven't hadn't to venture into the LTTTC forums, let me explain, it's not really an easy or happy place to be. The hope has all but gone and is often replaced by sadness, even bitterness, and a life full of tests, drugs, artificial hormones and sometimes...despair. The fury that has erupted there in the past when the odd person has dared put their head in an tell us to 'relax' has been ugly, to say the least! LTTTCers don't go elsewhere....we stick to our own little corner, as we feel safest and less of, dare I say it, a failure there.

OK....nuff said, crap over....time for Nicky and all you others to get on and enjoy their pregnancies and babies. The one thing I do know, is that it is the most wonderful time of life and is to be enjoyed!!!!!

Nicky darling.....why not start yourselves a nice little 'Pingu Bumps and Babes' thread somewhere, where all Pingu's are welcome (TTC'ers and graduates) but the bump pics, the baby pics, the pregnancy tough times...anything that may be a little TMI for a bitter twisted ol' LTTTCer to handle, isn't too much in their face. I for one will pop in happily when I'm strong enough, and ooh and ahh over your gorgeous bumps and babes, and I'm sure other's will too when they can.

I will look after Pingus at this, the TTC end, abley helped I'm sure by the others (LM, Wallie etc....who I hope may be happy to do so)....and I expect to see some of you back in here trying for No2 soon enough! Graduates are welcome to come in and chat anytime they want (and especially to recommend new members!!!), but at least then the daily life chatter has a divide to keep more sensitive points in their place.

And one final thing, that to me would be important, and I think Nicky will agree....we are still one team, we are still happy for one anothers successes, and we must support the good and the bad....and no turning off signatures.....anywhere!

Nicky....hope I haven't overstepped the mark going into all this....I'm still very protective of you, you know! Chin up sweetheart....I love you xx

 

[NickyT75]

thanks Lyns but i really dont know if there is any need for a TTC Pingu thread any more?

there are hardly any TTCers left and none of them seem that interested in posting so it wouldn't be very fair to expect you of all people to try and rally them together and cheer them on given your own circumstances would it?

the term "flogging a dead horse springs to mind"

Im thinking of requesting this thread be moved to the groups section? so all Pingus past & present will be able to touch base with each other if thats what they'd like to do

and hopefully the remaining TTCers will find somewhere they feel more comfortable & be more successful in their journeys knowing that we would welcome them should they ever feel like following us xxx

 

[123Deirdre]

yeah it is more of a group than just ttc so maybe moving it would be a good idea just my lil in put

 

[Lyns]

Whatever makes you happiest darling....I just promise I will make more of an effort wherever it is, when I feel up to it I just want you to relax and be happy and look forward to your babygirl

Maybe it'll be easier for me now more people know my current situation anyways...maybe it was that, that was making feel a bit on the fringes IYKWIM xxxxx