I'm sure there are some people who try to conceive while living @ home with their parents and being teenagers, but I am also sure that those cases are the minority. I can't think of many situations where I would support Elyse actively trying to get pregnant while living with me and working part time. I guess we will see when the time comes, and I'm glad that some teenagers in that spot have support. I guess I would rather she was honest with me than deceiving me and going behind my back.. I'd be more prepared.. and I know you can't stop people.. but I would probably try to strike some sort of deal with her, like I'll save, you get a FT job or finish school etc..
But I think those who do not tell their parents what their intentions are, are being immature and selfish
.. I mean, if you and your BF *did* break up, no matter how unlikely you feel that would be, a lot of responsibility would fall on your parents, especially if you live somewhere where you need to be a certain age to receive gov't support or if you're not entitled to any because you are your parent's dependent still. For example, I am sure that at 17 here you are considered your parent's dependent (until 18?) and you could move out and go on welfare but for a single adult it's like $600 per month here, which is pittance to live off of. Most parents would let you stay at home because they love you, don't want you or your child to endure hardship, but it's a lot for them to take on. Even if you can pay for diapers, clothes, formula, etc... they have to accommodate you living in their home; your stuff & the baby's being around, a crying baby at night, etc... though most are glad to do it I think, it is still not 'right' IMO.
This coming from someone who DID live at home until their child was 15mos, I could have left sooner, but my parents really wanted us to stay.. I think to make sure OH & I would stay together and to make sure we got some savings together.. and to help me adjust to becoming a mom etc. I will feel guilty about that for a long time, I've been moved out about a year now and still do. They're really supportive and I'm blessed, they got a granddaughter they adore and love to have around out of all of this.. she's amazing.. but I still do feel that way, that I'll never be able to repay them and I owe it to them to get my stuff together before I have another..
My heart is definitely in turmoil... wanting another child, but feeling like it just isn't right for us right now..