Teen Relationship Question!!

[MnRchick]

I was just very curious as to what people would answer and think of this.



is it possible that us teenagers are capable of knowing when they have found someone they would want to spend their life with or is it possible that it is just 'puppy love'? knowing that many older people would disagree and say teenagers dont know what love is and what not, blah blah blah really got me thinking.


what do you girls think?

 

[wannabmamma]

hi, i have only turned 20 and my BF is 19, we broke up a few months ago because we both needed space but we couldnt keep away from each other and saw each other 5 out of 7 days. we decided to get back togther as we know were in love and cant be without each other and now we have never been happier and i know we will always be together and a psychic even tld me we are soul mates

 

[Reedy]

I was 18 when i got together with my DH x we've been together for nearly 7 years now & been married for 5 months x

My sister & her DH got together when they were both 17, they have been together for 12 years & married for 7 they have to beautiful daughters x

I think no matter what age, you just know when its real love x

 

[leash]

i think it depends on the couple...iv thought iv been in love b4 but i think they brain washed me and every guy iv been with has been a loser soo i think teenagers can find love its just about finding that person at that time...

 

[PixieKitty]

It depends on the maturity of the people, not the age. I've seen some of my less mature friends get into relationships and if it reaches past the 2 month mark, claim it's true love forever, then end up cheating/just failing. Then I've seen some people who are quite obviously meant to be together, and they've since stayed together and are just as happy as they were at the beginning.
The difference I've noticed is that the latter tend not to... 'brag' about their relationship lasting. Like they don't make big deals out of a 1 week anniversary for example.

But the same can be said for many relationships, regardless of age.
x

 

[polo_princess]

Sorry to be the odd one out but i think its a rare occurance. Yes some couples do meet young and stay together until they grow old but a higher percentage dont.

At 15 years old i thought id met the love of my life and we stayed together for 5 whole years, yes i really did think he was "the one" but then you grow up and get a bit more "life experience" behind you and realise that maybe you do love your partner but its a different kind of love, and the "one" is still somewhere out there.

I dont mean to be rude but i think when your so young you have little life and relationship experience behind you so its hard to differentiate the two. That doesnt mean a lot of adults dont do it too lol

 

[leash]

i agree with that aswell..

 

[Uvlollypop]

what polo said

 

[jillypoop]

Yeah, i think youre right with the maturity thing. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years and although it wasnt love at first sight (I actually thought he was gay!!) we fell for each other pretty bad within a couple of months. Everyone we know says that we are like an old married couple and I'm only 19 (he's just turned 20). I think that some people are lucky to find someone when they are so young (like me) but the whole world has turned cynical so they dont believe something good! The problem i've found, meeting someone so young, is that I sometimes feel like i may have missed out on things. I know I have gained a lot more than i'm losing out on though. Things like, I no longer feel the need to go into town all saturday night but I do feel left out when all my other friends are in town and im the only one sat at home watching tv! I know its all worth it though, I don't want to be like Carrie in Sex and the City who doesnt really settle down until her early 40's, Im glad im part of an old married couple at 19

xxx

 

[jillypoop]

I disagree with that. Me and OH have changed so much since we met, but if the relationship is strong then you'll change together and get stronger and if its not the right guy for you, you'll grow apart and eventually split up. I think it is rare though. My mum and dad were married when mum was 19 and as horrible as it is to say this, I dont think that they are "meant to be" and I sometimes think they would have been happier if they had waited until they were a bit older to get married, which is one of the reasons we are waiting a few years, just in case! I think that people are waaay too cynical and should let relationships be, I am so sick of people saying "don't encourage them, theyll be divorced before theyre 30" about us to people who think it's great that we have found each other so young. Just be happy, let people make their own mistakes!!

 

[mz_jackie86]

Like others i think maturity is a big thing, if after a month they are the only one for you then no i dnt think it will work, but if ur mature enough to take the actual time to get to no each other and dont force love the it is possible...
Older people always say "your to young to now what love is" they are just narrow minded.

 

[leeanne]

Sorry to be the odd one out but i think its a rare occurance. Yes some couples do meet young and stay together until they grow old but a higher percentage dont.

At 15 years old i thought id met the love of my life and we stayed together for 5 whole years, yes i really did think he was "the one" but then you grow up and get a bit more "life experience" behind you and realise that maybe you do love your partner but its a different kind of love, and the "one" is still somewhere out there.

I dont mean to be rude but i think when your so young you have little life and relationship experience behind you so its hard to differentiate the two. That doesnt mean a lot of adults dont do it too lol

Totally agree with your post.

It's not that it's not love that teens feel but there are different kinds of love too. What you may feel at 16 with a guy (in my case that's when I had my first love) can be entirely different as you get older and find the one.

 

[FierceAngel]

defo agree with polo

at 17 i thought i was ready to marry the guy i was with

we were together 3 yrs and and lived together for 2 and a half..

how much i realise how diff it is with my current partner...

 

[kim'sbump]

I was 14 when i first started dating my husband and 10 years on were still together and have being married 3 years. Don't get me wrong we have had our ups and downs but we have given each the space to grow and it has worked for us. I do feel however that if we had been possesive of each other things wouldn't have turned out the way they have. We both lived our lives and kept good friendships so we didn't rely soley on each other. I do think teenage love can last as longs as you don't believe its all going to be rosey.

 

[tasha41]

My parents have known each other since childhood (their younger sisters were best friends), and they went to the same school, high school, and ended up working at the same place eventually. They got together when they were 18 I believe and were married 4 years later, have been married 25 years now.. honestly I think it's impressive that they aren't divorced since LOTS of my friends' parents were either never married and went on to marry other people, got divorced, or are children in a second marriage. And my parents seem pretty happy.. don't fight much or anything, and sometimes get gross and awkwardly cuddly.. so yeah, I think you can fall in love at any age

 

[Beth_18]

i agree with polo x x x

 

[meztisa]

I guess it depends on the couple. A relationship is two people who really care about each other, looking out for their needs, wants, etc. as much as their own. It would be great to find someone like that young, but many teenagers (especially male) are finding themselves as people. It's a very big world out there, with many different opportunities. Even the girl herself may feel like she is in love, there is no one else, but most likely, there always is. It's hard to compare strong feelings when you have nothing to compare it to.

 

[lesleyann]

i was in a relationshiiiiit (what i call failing or failed relationships ) for 2 years with a guy i thought i loved he "broke my heart" in the end since he ended up cheating on me and hitting me....

but for those whole 2 years when all my friends where telling me i was stupid and stopped talking to me there was this one guy who would always listen to me, try to help me and make me feel better about myself.. yes he was still telling me i should leave *shaun* but part of me thought he was just saying that to go out with me since he had asked before me and *shaun* got together.... but for 2 years while *shaun* was making me cry and hurt he would always be the one there to put me back together.... just after the 2 year point id had enoth of *shauns * lies and abuse so i left him and that guy who was always there for me still stuck by me looked after me and we ended up together

after a just over 1 year of being together *shaun* found out where i was living and started all his lies and abuse all over again to one point where he raped me aand my partner stuck by me though all of it even though that month we found out i was pregnant he was willing to bring up that child with me even if it was not his sadly i had a mc but now im engaged to that man and will of been for 1 year next month and im now pregnant with his child...

i hope ive found the one because he makes me feel so happy and is always there no matter what but the only way to really know if there the one is by time but i dont think age should play apart but only time will ever tell if there the person you truely love and should be with

 

[maddiwatts19]

well i can only speak from my personal experience. i've just turned 20, i met my OH when i was 17. he's now 21, we're engaged and we have a baby on the way. yes we have tough times and we argue, but we ALWAYS get through it..we are getting married in 2010, and i dont really care what other people think, but right now i know i'm in love and that i want to spend the rest of my life with rob.. i have been through a hell of a lot in my life, thought i was in love, when i really wasnt, and i'm finally so happy... IF for some reason it doesnt work out, then fair enough it doesnt... but right now things are perfect. in my opinion, its just all personal experiences. no-ones the same.

 

[sjnams]

I agree with Polo as well, it depends on the maturity of the teenagers involved and those that do find long lasting love as teenagers are the exception, not the rule.
That being said, my mum and dad met as 15 years olds, got pregnant as 17 year olds and married as 18 year olds and are still very happily married 32 years later. It was hard work for them as they did marry so young and did more or less only marry because there was a baby on the way, but their love has lasted the years.
I met my DH at 17, got together with him at 19 and moved in with him at 20 and we will be celebrating 10 years together after christmas this year. So there are teenage couples who last the distance, but thats not always the case.