Teen Relationship Question!!

[Laura--x]

I don't know. I cant say.

I've been with my oh since we was both 14, now we're 17. I do love him, am in love with him and would love to spend the rest of my life with him, but no-one knows what is going to happen, anyday now or in 3 years time i could realise hes not 'the one' or he could.

Just one of those make the most of it things x

 

[LongRoadAhead]

Ooo Thats a hard one. Its easy for other people looking in on a young relationship and say 'Oh its just a phase' 'Its only puppy love' 'You'll grow out of it' But its not like that atall in my opinion, You just know when its love.
When I was 13 I was in a relationship for a year and I really did think I was in love but thinking about it now, Maybe at the time I was but it wasnt a serious thing and I knew he wasnt the one and eventually it died out.
But now, Iv been in a relationship since I was 15, Im now 17 and I know it is love. My OH is 20 and age isnt a problem atall.
ALL couples have disagreements and arguements but that doesnt mean to say you dont truely love eachother.
Its very hard to answer whether you can be in love young cos I know I was and still am but know there are alot of other people who will disagree with this and say Im not.
Only you will know hun
Xx

 

[Booksmart]

Oh, Oh, I want to answer this!

I met my first real boyfirend when I was 12 It was really too young to consider "dating" but we really like-liked (from my 7th grade vocab) each other and no one else. At 20 years old now, eight years later, we are still very much in love and I know we will spend the rest of our lives together.


I think the most important reason we worked is that we both meet at a time when we were at the same level of development (mentally of course ). We grew up together and (cheesy aleart) we are really the same person now. More often then not, I believe that people meet when they are at two different levels of mental development. Some are furthur ahead (know what they want) while others aren't quite there yet.

It can work, it can. It just has to be with the absolute right person and at the right time for the both of you. Good luck to you all!



Also, after rereading other posts, I feel should mention something. A relationship (at any age) is a ton of work. Life throws out one challenge after the next and it won't stop. In my case there were (and still are) lots of little fights and a couple of REALLY big ones (the same in all relationships). If the two of you are able to stick it out and work through it, that is what love really is about.

 

[Happy]

I agree with polo. x

 

[LilMama2be]

my parents met when they were 15/16 ish
so it really depends
they've been together since then.

i know i've already met the one i want to be with
the trouble is, getting him back after i messed things up.

:] but hes supportive of me being pregnant with another guys baby.

 

[dizzy65]

i think teens can find the person the r ment to be with and be in love and all that

 

[Alexas Mommy]

My OH, Michael and I have been together for over 7 years. We got together when we were 13, and by the time we were 16-17 I knew he was the one I was going to spend my life with. I will be 21 on January 1st. We have been together this long and through so much together, as well as having a child together. While it is probably rare, it is possible. Also, I do know some people that are older and have married their highschool sweethearts. The reason a lot of teenage relationships do not last, is because people change, and if you don't change together, then it usually ends up crumbling, but if both partners are on the same page most of the time, it just might work out.

 

[Alexas Mommy]

Oh, Oh, I want to answer this!

I met my first real boyfirend when I was 12 It was really too young to consider "dating" but we really like-liked (from my 7th grade vocab) each other and no one else. At 20 years old now, eight years later, we are still very much in love and I know we will spend the rest of our lives together.


I think the most important reason we worked is that we both meet at a time when we were at the same level of development (mentally of course ). We grew up together and (cheesy aleart) we are really the same person now. More often then not, I believe that people meet when they are at two different levels of mental development. Some are furthur ahead (know what they want) while others aren't quite there yet.

It can work, it can. It just has to be with the absolute right person and at the right time for the both of you. Good luck to you all!



Also, after rereading other posts, I feel should mention something. A relationship (at any age) is a ton of work. Life throws out one challenge after the next and it won't stop. In my case there were (and still are) lots of little fights and a couple of REALLY big ones (the same in all relationships). If the two of you are able to stick it out and work through it, that is what love really is about.

I agree with this. Relationships are a lot of work, and a lot of people seem to think a relationship is over when they run into a problem, rather than working it out, they ditch the relationship. Also many times one partner is more commited to the relationship than the other, and this will also end a relationship after a while.

 

[flump1]

me and my boyfreind got together when i was 15 and he was 17, we are now 21 and 23 and going stronger than ever. we have bin thru alot together and had a lot of ppl tell us we were too young to be so serious when we were teenagers. but we have always given each other space and respected each others feelings and thoughts which i think is the key to a lasting relationship. i do think lots of teenagers do get head over heels in love without thinking and then thats when problems are caused but i agree with polo it is about how mature the teenagers are and if they are willing to truly respect each other.

me and my bf have been living together nearly 2 years, been engaged for 1 year and will be getting married in 2010 and hopefully will have many happy years together (but who knoes, anything could happen so im just enjoying it while i can) i do think it is possible for teenagers to find who they want to be with for the rest of there lives but i dont think it happens very often.

 

[aSh_x0x]

my and my boyfriend met about 2 years ago, and started dating about 15 months ago. I am in complete love, i feel so complete. He lives at my house with my parents and both sides of the family are already suggesting ideas for an engagement and wedding! lol.

i think its totally possible to be in true love when your a teenager and find your true life at a young age. I agree with polo its about maturity. It really depends on the two people in the relationship that can determine whether or not the relationship is strong enough to survive a life time.

 

[Ella]

I think you can fall in love as a teen and that person be 'The One', but I also accept that there are a lot of teens that mistake lust and infatuation for love. I really think it depends on the couple, their maturity and their past experiences where relationships, love and sex are concerned.

xx

 

[mBLACK]

My auntie & uncle were 12 when they first started 'play-dating', they've been together for about 45 years now. It happens but it's very rare, when you're that young you still have so much changing to do and so does your OH. Who knows who you're going to be in 5, 10, 15 years, you could change so much that you may not even like eachother anymore. Or you might still love eachother, but in a different way.

 

[nikky0907]

Of course it's possible,it's just very rare to see...

It can even be true love but people change as they grow up and especially over here,most kids left for college,moved away to different cities/states.
I really think two people need to have a lot of ups and downs,experience and maturity for something like this to work out.

 

[JayleighAnn]

My uncle and Aunty got together when my uncle was 16 and my aunty was 15, their now 39 and 40, been married just over a year with two kids, so yes, I do think we can

 

[adzuki]

I fell in love at 17 and at 20 - and I felt that each guy was "the one." Interestingly, my DH now that I met when I was 29 is a lot like both these other guys, who were like each other in a lot of ways. So I think that I knew exactly what I needed and wanted at 17. Teens have a lot of wisdom, IMHO.

For me, and I suspect for a lot of people, the problem is that from 17-29 (and beyond!), there are a lot of changes and opportunities for changes, and so in order to keep my dreams for my future, I had to give up on these guys. The first one was staying at home for uni, and I went far away. The second one went through a partying phase at the end of his Uni career and ended up frying brain cells and changing as a person.

The challenge, to me, is not necessarily one of maturity, but of stability. If I look at my group of friends, those of us who fluttered around and didn't know what we wanted from life took the longest to get married - we were just changing too much to be stable with anyone. On the flipside, I have two friends that went straight into the career they always wanted from high school, and were married by 19, and they are still happily married. One was in a similar situation, but she was sure of what she wanted, and her DH, even though he thought he was surre, changed his mind at 24 and left her to pursue his dream.

Just stuff to think about! Good luck in life and in love!!!!!


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[LeaArr]

I met my husband when I was 18 and he was 19. It worked out for us. We have been together for almost 8 years now and married for a year and a half(ish). Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Every situation, at any age, is different.

 

[Samo]

the thing with teen relationships, from my own experience anyway, is there is SO MUCH CHANGE that can happen in those years in high school and beyond. You can change a lot, your OH can change a lot and really...later on you may find that you are complete opposites and can't stand one another lol. I look back and think of my prior boyfriends, even some that i dated for a year or 2, and cannot even fathom being with them let alone being friends with them as our lives are completely different whereas at the time i was thinking everything was perfect

that all being said...i met my DH when we were 16, we had class together. We started dating at 17 and married at 20 (although we could have waited longer, we got rushed because he joined the military). We definitely took things slow not rushing anything but as time passed on we were becoming like one person more and more. hard to explain really...i just felt that we could do anything together and i trusted him 100% and him me. It was like we molded into each other and became one lol. 5 years later I cannot imagine being with somebody else, we are absolutely perfect and happy with each other. So i do think it is possible to find the love of your life in your teen years! I did!

 

[xx-andy-xx]

i think it has more to do with maturity than age.

 

[FallenAngel]

Me and OH have been together for about 3 years now, but we were also together 5 years ago for about 6 months. Long story short, we were both very different people then and we changed a lot in those 2 years we were apart. When we got back together we both just knew we loved eachother and it would work out this time. We are planning to get married next year. HOWEVER....I think it depends on the people. Like I said me and OH grew up a lot in those 2 years, we know what it takes to make a relationship work, and we do it. There could have been lots of times we could have broken up and just said F*ck it, but we didn't, we talked our problems out and worked to make them better.

 

[MarshMellow]

I agree it is hard work and life takes it toll but here is my story.


When I was 13 I met a guy who was 16 I really thought this guy was the one. Turns out he was a control seeking nut job.
My DH Mark actualy pulled my ex off me in the street as he was trying to carry me home because I told him no.

Anyway, I was 15 when I met Mark and he was just 18. we got on very well and he wrote me a letter asking me to be his girlfriend. I wrote back accepting and gave it too him at his 18th. I got very drunk and asked his dad if I could marry Mark.
Anyway a year later mark joined the army and moved away and we saw each other every cople of months when we could but talked every day. then When i was 17 he got posted to germany. He was here for a week before he came home for xmas. While away he phoned my mum and asked her If he could marry me. (My mum said I had to finish college but yes)
So over xmas 2004 after being together nearly 2 years we booked the venue. I planned maticulasly for 18 months then on 5.8.2006 when I was 18 and he was 21 we got married I moved to germany and we are still happily married and expecting our 1st child.


I am now 21 and he is 23 we have been married 2 years +3 months and have been inseperable for 6 years in March. Our 1st LO is due 10th May 09.


It can work. We faced ridicul and critisism from both family friends and strangers but we knew what we were doing was right. It has not been easy especialy being so far from home but we have worked at it.


I think If you need to ask is he the one then chances are he isnt.


Well there ya go signing off now as Im alll gabbled out.