I recently lost a baby at week 16. This was a 2nd trimester miscarriage. We had thought everything was going well when we found out there was no heartbeat, at my last OB appt. We had not told very many people I was pregnant. Now, we have told a few people that we lost the baby. Very close friends and family, only. The reactions are strange, to say the least. Some were shocked because they didn't know we were pregnant. One person was shocked because she couldn't believe someone my age could get pregnant, and she thought at first I was telling her about someone else's miscarriage. A few close friends did not reply to emails I sent them, telling them about it. Sadly, with a few people I suspect they think miscarriage is "no big deal". Yes miscarriage is a common thing, but so is death of any sort. OR people feel extremely uncomfortable hearing about it. Nobody has sent cards, however, I was planning to put any cards we received in our baby's "memory box". I could choose to not tell anyone, but that's hard to do. When you have been through the tragedy of losing a child, its even worse if you feel you can't tell anyone about it.