spunky84
TTC #4
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DH said last March that'd we'd ttc which then lead to a total freakout and he said he didn't want another one.
Just as I accepted only having 1, preparing to quit my job to be sahm with LO, and possibly return to school in the fall, he decides he wants to ttc now.
I'm still on the fence, trying to figure out how he feels about it (like really feels about it). I've become okay with only 1, so if he decides (again) that it's not what we wants, I'm not going to have a meltdown. I'm letting him initiate all the other than any other time I just want to for fun. I'm keeping it as a "for fun" mind frame rather than ttc so that it's okay if he decides he's not up for it. (and it doesn't put so much pressure on him)
I told him if he really wants to do it now, I'd postpone school until next fall, but we'd have to plan for LO to arrive by no later than the beginning of July in case I need another csection & need that time to recoup - even if I had a successful vbac, I'd still need time.
If school isn't throughout the whole year and has summer break, then if we plan a June baby (not that our families need another June baby! lol), I'd be up for it while I attended school. So it's all kind of up in the air right now. I've not even been accepted yet. I'm just meeting with the school administration this afternoon and will go from there.
If neither of those options work then we'll wait the 2 years for me to complete school and then the extra 6 months to a year for me to get settled into a new job.
I've been off the mini pill since early March. First period was April 30th followed by a 37 day cycle (mine are usually 33-34). I still haven't ovulated yet based on cm and cp. So, I kind of figure any time this summer is going to be unlikely as it seems like my body is taking longer to bounce back from the mini pill than the combination pill.
I considered doing vitex, but I think doing that will push me into ttc mode which I don't think will do us any good, so I think a more relaxed approach is better. For both of us.
Just as I accepted only having 1, preparing to quit my job to be sahm with LO, and possibly return to school in the fall, he decides he wants to ttc now.
I'm still on the fence, trying to figure out how he feels about it (like really feels about it). I've become okay with only 1, so if he decides (again) that it's not what we wants, I'm not going to have a meltdown. I'm letting him initiate all the other than any other time I just want to for fun. I'm keeping it as a "for fun" mind frame rather than ttc so that it's okay if he decides he's not up for it. (and it doesn't put so much pressure on him)
I told him if he really wants to do it now, I'd postpone school until next fall, but we'd have to plan for LO to arrive by no later than the beginning of July in case I need another csection & need that time to recoup - even if I had a successful vbac, I'd still need time.
If school isn't throughout the whole year and has summer break, then if we plan a June baby (not that our families need another June baby! lol), I'd be up for it while I attended school. So it's all kind of up in the air right now. I've not even been accepted yet. I'm just meeting with the school administration this afternoon and will go from there.
If neither of those options work then we'll wait the 2 years for me to complete school and then the extra 6 months to a year for me to get settled into a new job.
I've been off the mini pill since early March. First period was April 30th followed by a 37 day cycle (mine are usually 33-34). I still haven't ovulated yet based on cm and cp. So, I kind of figure any time this summer is going to be unlikely as it seems like my body is taking longer to bounce back from the mini pill than the combination pill.
I considered doing vitex, but I think doing that will push me into ttc mode which I don't think will do us any good, so I think a more relaxed approach is better. For both of us.