Terrible thread on over 35

[Ju_bubbs]

Oh gosh, please excuse a 'younger' lady popping in! Just been to had a look, and I'm shocked that people would say some of those things.. especially knowing that there ARE plenty of 35+ ladies who are TTC and pregnant on here!!

My mum was 30 when she had me, and 40 when she had my youngest sister.. neither of us have ever thought of her as being an 'old mum' and neither of us have ever had a problem with it!!

I'm proud to say that when my lot have grown up.. I hope to meet Mr Right and start a small family alll over again!

 

[Xanth]

I'm not going to read it. I'm sure it will upset me.

I was 19 when I had my first son and vowed never to have a baby over the age of 30. Funny how your opinions change when you get older, I'm now 41 (today). I had my son just before my 40th birthday last year and I'm trying again. I really don't feel "old" and I know I don't look it because my eldest son's friend thought I was his sister on FB hahaha.

It's wonderful this time round (hence trying again) and my two eldest sons and girlfriends are brilliant with their little brother.

 

[MamaD]

I'm not going to read it. I'm sure it will upset me.

I was 19 when I had my first son and vowed never to have a baby over the age of 30. Funny how your opinions change when you get older, I'm now 41 (today). I had my son just before my 40th birthday last year and I'm trying again. I really don't feel "old" and I know I don't look it because my eldest son's friend thought I was his sister on FB hahaha.

It's wonderful this time round (hence trying again) and my two eldest sons and girlfriends are brilliant with their little brother.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! xx

 

[XxChristinexX]

I read it too. I am wondering why the OP posted that,what was she hoping to gain out of it? Other than upsetting people?

 

[April2012]

My mom was 36 when my little sister was born...she was much younger when me and my older sister were born. by far...my little sister had the more comfortable childhood...because our parents had more time and money. I think that is consistently true with children of older parents.

 

[LLbean]

can I add my 2 cents?

I have NOT read the thread cause I will surely go off on the little girls there but you can NOT predict the babies health on age alone

I know someone who had her first child at 17 and that boy has just about every problem you can imagine...autism, legally blind, slight ******ation etc... She has since (at an older age) had 3 daughters that are perfectly healthy...so they are full of crap if they think they are exempt from issues....besides, being a mom too young also does quite the number on your body.

 

[Torontogal]

I only read the first six pages or so, but unless the thread deteriorated significantly afterward. I didn't think it was terrible, although I did think it over-simplified issues around fertility treatments and IVF (a perception which is unfortunately all too common). Most of the young posters were talking about their own choices, which is fine. I remember thinking all kinds of things when I was young too.

Although I admit maybe I am a bit insulated from judgement because I met hubby later in life and just got married in May so everyone knows why I waited, it is obvious... I will have my one and only at 37.

I have told people that I am glad I will be an older mom because I barely feel old enough now to have a baby, LOL I feel a teensy bit bad that my kid will have to deal with me getting older about a decade before I had to deal with my parents getting older, but hey, that's life, it's not exactly the same for everyone and we all do what we can.

And in an extra shout-our to older moms... my Great-Grandmother had my Grandad at 45, naturally obviously, after a long history of multiple miscarriages. My Grandad was her one and only and went on to have a wonderful, very rich life, travel, career, four kids (including my dad), etc.

 

[Torontogal]

Oh, and the issue of birth defects is only germane if you intend not to screen anyway - I would have screened for Downs etc. at ANY age so for me age isn't an issue.

 

[DeeM73]

Completely understand your reasoning, and so sorry for your loss. Looking forward to following your journey - let me know how your children react when you tell them! xx[/QUOTE]

Aww thank you so much I'm at the midwife on Friday,I'll be 9 weeks then.I will certainly keep in touch and let you know Xx

 

[vintage67]

I understand the delay in waiting to tell. We just told our son and my mother in the last 2 weeks! I am a larger lady, so with some baggy clothes, I have just looked like I've gained a bit of weight.

We had 3 miscarriages to get here, so I wanted to wait a good long time to tell our son, and I was afraid of how my mother would react. She took it better than I thought she would!

 

[MamaD]

Isn't that funny, that at our age, we're still nervous to tell mom? I was SO scared she was gonna yell at me!! x x x

 

[Torontogal]

Isn't that funny, that at our age, we're still nervous to tell mom? I was SO scared she was gonna yell at me!! x x x

OMG, me too! I was terrified to tell my parents and in-laws, even though I know they all really wanted to be Grandparents! WTF? A lifetime of conditioning, I guess...

 

[DeeM73]

Will wait til the scan before we tell them.Not sure how my husband's family will react though as he has 4 older children,I know mine will be ok but being honest couldn't care less!!Hope you are keeping well xx

 

[lindblum]

My mum had my youngest sister - who is completely fine, when she was 39, i was 13. I absolutely loved having a baby sister and now I have a great babysitter for my girls

and to be honest, theres a thread moaning at nearly every group in this forum! e.g. too young, too old, too unhealthy, too poor, bad mum etc. you can't win 'em all

congrats to all the new mamas x

 

[deafgal]

that is so silly! people have been giving birth over 35 since the beginning of human time, even before birth control. And there are plenty of healthy kids! Plus, I think it is harsh for women who focused on school and career first before having a child. Their children is no better or worst than those who had kids before age 35.

 

[DeeM73]

Well said Lindblum!xx

 

[DeeM73]

Well said Lindblum!xx

 

[MamaD]

My Mom was 38 when I was born, and my Dad 47. I'll be 38 when this Baby's born, and my husband will be 42. My siblings were always jealous of me, as my parents had more time and money for me than they did for them. Lol...In fact, I was always on their sh*t list, because I got to date earlier than them (by a month - sheesh!), I got to borrow the car and they didn't, etc....

 

[happymamma]

I couldn't resist, I posted on there only because Vintage started this thread, and seemed so upset, it broke my heart. We all deserve to have our babies at whatever age we chose to, and deserve to be happy and excited about it just like anyone at any age! Congrats to all of us 'old farts' lol for conceiving!!! I wish you all the best!!

Tbh, I didn't want kids after 30. Lmao, once you reach 30, its true, you realize it isnt old! I had my 1st at 29, Im now 39 expecting my 6th. I want 10 in all..Kidding!!! Really, this is my last. Its kinda hard to carry a baby with a cane in one hand. Sorry, another joke Im just feeling a bit bitter from some of the comments on that thread. Even though it was only maybe 2% negative, that 2% is upsetting. Some of those girls need a time-out

 

[poppy666]

happymamma your lucky your only using a cane, im on the zimmer frame