Terrible thread on over 35

[LadyAce14]

How about this perspective ... We TRIED to have a child for 10 years! I was 26 when we started this journey and now 36 when God decided to bless with a baby. I don't feel old and apparently neither does my body which is finally doing what it was designed for. "Too old" ... It's insulting.

 

[LadyAce14]

LOL at Happymama and Poppy! Thanks so much for the much needed laugh, ladies.

 

[DeeM73]

Congratulations!!x

 

[poppy666]

Congratulations sweetie and yes your right it is insulting

 

[happymamma]

happymamma your lucky your only using a cane, im on the zimmer frame

 

[mtnprotracy]

....not gonna read right now, still too giddy with excitement ! That thread, in and of itself, is justification for this little sub-category on this forum.....thankful for all the support and encouragement! I'm just sticking my fingers in my ears and singing, "la, la, la, la, la!"

 

[happymamma]

....not gonna read right now, still too giddy with excitement ! That thread, in and of itself, is justification for this little sub-category on this forum.....thankful for all the support and encouragement! I'm just sticking my fingers in my ears and singing, "la, la, la, la, la!"

Thats what I was going to do also, but then I had to check since it was upsetting ppl. But really, most of the comments there were nice. We should all be giddy and excited now! We have as much right as those 'under 35' do!

 

[April2012]

can someone link the thread here? i have been over to third trimester board several times looking for it...and can't find it!

 

[Gia7777]

Here ya go!

https://www.babyandbump.com/pregnancy-third-trimester/699729-age-too-old.html

 

[April2012]

thanks. here is what i posted.

"Hmmm...having spent my twenties having a blast as a party girl and traveling the world without a care in the world...I will say that the 30s and early 40s sounds ideal for motherhood!"

 

[poppy666]

Here you go https://www.babyandbump.com/pregnancy-third-trimester/699729-age-too-old.html

 

[kmumtobe]

Sorry i dont belong here, i just saw the title on the homepage come up and was curious! But just to say i was 24 when i was pregnant and i got terrible comments for being too young so you really cant win!! x

 

[Gia7777]

thanks. here is what i posted.

"Hmmm...having spent my twenties having a blast as a party girl and traveling the world without a care in the world...I will say that the 30s and early 40s sounds ideal for motherhood!"

Lol. I said something similar

 

[nickyXjayno]

I posted on the thread that age doesn't matter, as long as you are able to provide all a childs needs then that's the only important factor for me.
I think if you have had your menopause and it wasn't an early one (as in 50+) then i think it's natures way of saying it's too late but i think that's quite a common opinion.

One thing i'm confused about is that a lot of girls on here are saying there were posts saying 30+ is too old and i never saw any of that.
There were girls saying they personally wouldn't want children at that age but no one was condemning anyone else for having kids at that age.

I find it just as offensive when I see ladies posting that their going to be a better mum than me because their older etc so swings in roundabouts I guess.

 

[April2012]

I think there were a few posts that strongly suggested that being older was a negative. Regarding your last comment, I am sorry if someone on this board was stating they would be a better mom than you due to age. What I think some older moms-to-be have expressed is that they think personally they make better moms now than they would have/or did in their twenties when they weren't prepared financially, socially or emotionally. For me, I could not have been a mom in my twenties because of my lifestyle...but others are prepared and do so brilliantly!

 

[happymamma]

I think there were a few posts that strongly suggested that being older was a negative. Regarding your last comment, I am sorry if someone on this board was stating they would be a better mom than you due to age. What I think some older moms-to-be have expressed is that they think personally they make better moms now than they would have/or did in their twenties when they weren't prepared financially, socially or emotionally. For me, I could not have been a mom in my twenties because of my lifestyle...but others are prepared and do so brilliantly!

I agree! I didnt see the comment about someone being a better mom cuz she was older either. I personally, don't agree on that. One of my bff's had her kids when she was 16, then 17, and she was one of the best mothers Ive seen! So ya, it all depends on each individual, and when they are ready for it. When I look back, I definately wa far from ready in my early 20's. I used that time to figure out what I really wanted in life. Although, I always knew kids would be a huge part of it. I didn't feel ready until I was 27. For me, that was the perfect age.

I wish ppl could just let ppl have their babies, and mind their own businesses really, who's to say who has more right being pg?

Anyways, I hope EVERYONE has a h&h 9 mths!! xxxxx

 

[poppy]

I think a lot of those attitudes are very old fashioned as nowadays there are many, many women having children in their mid - late 30s, even 40s. I think in the past, women commonly had kids in their 20s, so if your mum or dad was a bit older it would be seen as unusual but now, especially educated women and women wanting careers, it is far more common to have kids a bit later on.

I am nearly 34 and have two children (one born when I was 31 and one born this year when I was 33). I hope (if I can convince hubbie he he) to have a third child, preferably when I am 35/36, so I hope things go smoothly healthwise for me and the baby and hope I conceive easily. One thing I haven't dwelt on is attitudes towards being pregnant in the mid-30s or a child having a hang up having an 'older' mother. This is probably because the majority of my friends (my age and older) are only beginning to have a baby number one now and this seems far more the norm these days.

Good luck with your pregnancies and try to enjoy them without worrying about the attitudes of others.

xxx

 

[hot tea]

I have absolutely no business here seeing as I am so young but I just wanted to say that e majority of that thread is horseshit. It is simply FASHINABLE to have babies younger.

 

[poppy666]

not heard that word for years 'horseshit' lol

 

[Sewergrrl]

I haven't heard horseshit in a long time either! Hot tea, you can be here as long as you're friendly. We don't age discriminate.