Whoops! Stumbled on this and realized its been over 2 years since I updated so best get to it!
These were my previous updates:
2014: Fun thread!
Let's see...a year ago my DH and I were in our second month of TTC (and would get preggo the next month), I was pretty dissatisfied with work and was learning to let go of a very stressful and complicated situation with my brother.
Now, I have my beautiful 9 week old son in my arms, I'm a SAHM and I am the happiest I've ever been (also the most sleep deprived but its getting better lol).
This time next year, my DS will be a little over a year old. Hopefully we have our house sold and are living in a rental while out dream house is being built. My husband will be at the one year mark of having heart surgery to install a defibrillator to protect against sudden cardiac arrest (genetic heart condition that we just found out or son doesn't have!!). We will be around a year out from TTC #2, which will be our last. Hopefully life remains as wonderful as it is now, just in a bigger house lol
2015:Well, we wound up not building our dream house because we found the perfect one already made! We sold our old house and moved straight into this one, so no rental. Ridiculously happy with our home and plan on being here for a long long time (read: until we can't climb stairs anymore
) My husband is getting ready to change jobs in January so that is the next big thing happening. My DS is amazing and continues to impress me everyday with his curiosity, loving and sweet disposition, wit and patience. I have taken an unexpected journey in the last year and have lost 60 pounds! Still have about 10 to go but feeling great so far!
In a year from now, I want to be pregnant with the next baby!! We are going to start trying right after Charles' 2nd birthday in April and I'm hoping for another sweet baby boy (but would also be happy with a girl
). I would like to try and run a half marathon before getting preggo.
I want to be fully adjusted to my husbands new schedule (will be traveling a lot). Im hoping we will have our house paid off, or at least be on track to do so within the next few months. I would also like to have a few house projects done, the biggest being repainting the main level.
For Charles, I am hopeful that he will start talking finally- whether it be on his own or working with a speech therapist. I would like to transition him to a big bed and possibly begin potty training.Looking at my last update and seeing where we are now is a lot of fun!
2018: To update off my last post: In the last TWO years we have had a lot of changes. the biggest being we had another baby! Our sweet baby Calvin was born in January of 2017. He just turned one and is such a happy wild child and makes my heart full. I did not run a half marathon but I did run several 5k's and made a decision at one point to not do a half as I kept injuring my foot during the long training runs. My husband did change jobs and while its stressful with a lot of travel, it has also been such a blessing to us. We are fully adjusted to our life now and things are going great. We haven't been able to do a ton of house projects but we did just get a new fireplace so I'm happy with that! We transitioned my oldest to a bed at 2.5 yrs old and he is fully potty trained which is awesome. We found out he has a speech disorder but has been making amazing progress since we put him in preschool with an IEP. All in all I feel like we accomplished what I had hoped to!
In a year from now I hope to have our house paid off and be starting discussions on whether we want to renovate or build as a next step (though neither option would be happening for a couple years). I want to be doing regular date nights with DH again and have our first trip booked for the summer of 2019 alone since our oldest was born.
For DS1, I just want to see his speech and language skills continue to grow and expand.
For DS2, I want him to be fully weaned and more consistently STTN.
For myself, in my last update I had lost 60 pounds. By the time I got pregnant that number was 71 pounds lost....and then I gained back 68 in my pregnancy...sigh. I've lost about 40 of it so a year from now I would love to have the remaining 28 GONE! I also would like to pick up a new hobby of some kind and intentionally make time for myself.
Finally, the last HUGE thing that I want to accomplish a year from now is to have a decision made on another baby! I think both DH and I feel like we have one more to add to our crazy crew. But we are both leaning towards adoption vs. biological. I'm hopeful in the next year we can make our final decision and either have a TTC date set for 2019ish or be in process of paperwork for adoption (and decide domestic or international!)
Looking at my last update and seeing where we are now is a lot of fun!
2019: Hey, I'm not so far behind in this update...i think for the first time I just have one year in between instead of two lol
Well, not so bad this time around off my goals from last year but also huge updates in the last 12 months. So, to update from last year:
-We are paying our house off this summer so that's a big check off our goal list.
-We have our first solo vacation booked for summer of 2020 instead of this year so really looking forward to that!
-DS1 is doing amazing in his speech and getting ready to start Kindergarten next month.
-DS2 has been fully weaned and STTN for a year so hallelujah for that!
-weight goals are a massive miss. I wound up gaining back 30 pounds of the 40 I had lost. depression sucks.
-finally, we DID make a decision on baby 3 and have decided to go for it!! After exploring adoption, at every turn we were getting blocked. I did a LOT of research, spoke with agencies, watched a lot of webinars etc....ultimately it didn't feel like it was the right path for us. About 2 months ago DH said we can have another once I hit my weight goals (which was a condition I placed on myself to get pregnant again, not him being a jerk)
This last year was a doozy. In my original post I said that DH had just gotten a defibrillator put in to protect against sudden cardiac arrest....well, last summer the worst happened and he went into cardiac arrest and died for 16 seconds before his device restarted his heart. He steadily declined over the back half of the year and this past January had open heart surgery at the Mayo Clinic to correct the excess muscle growth he had in his heart. He is doing amazing but that whole experience sent me into a tailspin. Unbeknownst to me at the time, I have PTSD from childhood that was triggered. This sent me into a pretty bad depression for about 6 months (hence the weight gain). All is well now but what a year.
So looking to the future, this is where I hope to be a year from now:
-lose 30-40 more pounds to get myself where i want to be
-have DS2 fully potty trained
-see more progress with DS1 speech
-be pregnant/TTC #3
-prioritize my mental health. the last month has been a big one as I've been diagnosed with emotional PTSD from two separate traumas. I'm only just beginning to work through this. This is probably my top priority for the next year.
-finally take that solo trip with DH!
2020:Hope everyone is doing well!!On top of it this year...coming in a little under a year. But if I don't do it now, I'll forget and it will be 2021 before I think about it again lol
I'm not on bnb hardly at all anymore but I really love these threads and being able to look back. But...I have no idea how to do the quotes from previous posts correctly now...so I just put all the years on one post, marked the years and called it good
So, looking back at a year ago and those goals:
- weight loss- huge fail. Lost about 18 pounds, lost motivation and gained 8 back. So still down 10 from a year ago, but about 30 away from my goal weight. Injuries and bad food habits have been a hinderance. Maybe eventually I'll get it figured out
-DS2 is MOSTLY potty trained...its been a long road but he's doing great
-Massive speech progress with DS1, couldn't be happier with how well he is doing
-not pregnant or TTC yet but soon!
-no solo trip, thanks to the pandemic. this was the "year of travel" with trips to California, Canada, New York and Bora Bora planned, along with several road trips with the kids. We made it to California for a weekend at the end of January but all other travel is canceled. Oh well. Getting the last 2 months at home with him is better than a week away. We will make it eventually to where we want to go.
The biggest thing from this past year was my work on my mental health. 2018 was the worst year of my life. Between DH cardiac arrest, the depression and anxiety, undiagnosed PTSD....it was bad. 2019 brought physical healing for DH in his surgery, the PTSD diagnosis, realizing I had childhood trauma and the start of processing that trauma (on top of the 6 years of work I've been doing....but the PTSD was its own new beast). I spent 6 months in therapy (with my therapist and a lot of conversations with DH). I learned how to quickly identify when I am triggered and grounding/coping mechanisms to deal with it. I found clarity, peace, understanding, and forgiveness towards my parents, who unintentionally caused a lot of emotional trauma as a kid. I set a goal to have a conversation with them but was sent into anxiety attacks when I would think about it. I was able to work through the anxiety and at the end of the year had an open, honest, healing discussion. They took responsibility for their actions, I found compassion and grace towards them and we all came out of it with actual healing and not just bandaids. It was 24 years of my life dealing with scars and brokenness- but I am stronger and proudly stand in my truth and my story. I am proud of myself, grateful for the loving support of my husband and excited to move forward.
Looking forward towards the next year, here are the goals I'd like to accomplish:
- Lose 15-20 pounds by the time we start TTC
- Have DS2 completely out of pullups, including at night.
- Work with DS1 on social/emotional development. He feels BIG and it's hard to manage sometimes. we both need to learn better ways to process
-Have my next, and last baby! We are hoping to start TTC by the end of summer and am hopeful that within a year from today, baby is in my arms!
-successfully set up and implement a homeschool program - this depends on how things go with the pandemic. I dont know if the boys will be in school come the fall...but I'm going to start prepping now to be set up for a good year of homeschool. we've been managing the last 2 months this year with them being home, but need some changes for next school year
-maintain a good and healthy relationship with my hubby. That man is just the best and I want to keep pouring into our relationship
Hope everyone is doing well and looking forward to reading your updates!
I love watching her grow up!
