The LLTC'ers Moaners thread

[mossip]

Thanks for sharing the STUFU blog its sooo true!!

My moan for the day.... (yup there is normally one a day!) I got another You would think that I'd be used to it by now wouldnt you..

Hope everyone has a good weekend xxx

Aww love i don't think we'll ever get used to seeing them 3 nasty letters .
xxx

 

[fifi-folle]

Can I join in?
Not only did I find out today I didn't get the job I applied for, I also have SIL and BIL coming up with their 2 girls, they announced their second pregnancy as I was miscarrying our first. (Well not really announced, we found out via the wonderful Facebook).
So not only are we childless, I'm still unemployed, and we also have to spend the weekend with the permanent reminder of our first baby that didn't make it. (I love the baby really, she's gorgeous as is her big sister but I just feel so bl00dy useless).

 

[Sambatiki]

Fifi - Thats terrible that they didnt tell you in person... youre family...

 

[fifi-folle]

Worse than that we heard via a cousin in Oz!

 

[dizzikel]

 

[redhead31]

Hello,

I'm new to LTTTC - this week is exactly two years since my ectopic and still here I am TTC. I've been hanging around the TTC After a Loss and TTC forums but everyone around me was getting pregnant so I stayed away for a while. It is funny how many pregnant women still hang around the TTC forums. I know from seeing friends who have tried to conceive for a while and then got pregnant that they are so happy they are preg they can't understand why it would make someone feel sad - even though they were in that position themselves once.
Fifi - earlier this year a friend (one of the ones who was TTC along with me) sat me down and told me she was 14 weeks pregnant. We'd had an agreement that we would tell each other by text if the other one got preg but she decided that I would be so happy for her that I 'deserved' to be told it to my face. Anyway, we were in a pub and I held back the tears long enough to tell her I was pleased for her but I wish she could have told me via text like we had agreed and then I fled. Trust me - finding out via facebook is way way easier that a happy expectant mother sitting you down and telling you her happy news. My 'friend' was unhappy with my reaction and we haven't been the same since.

 

[Sambatiki]

Redhead - Hope you'll be delivering your own happy news soon xxx

 

[fifi-folle]

Me again sorry. I need to vent. 2 years of waking up in pain every night is taking its toll. As is 16 months of failing to have a healthy pregnancy. And our 4 early miscarriages. 1st one would have been born by now. Keep being reminded of my failure through every healthy pregnancy and newborn baby I see. I hate the resentment and bitterness I feel on a daily basis. I don't want to live like this. I want the pain to stop please.
How do you cope?

 

[Sambatiki]

fifi - Ive only had 1 MC April 2008 and for me it was time that helped. It does hurt when I see people with babies around the same age as my beanie would have been... I dont think that the hurt ever goes away... just gets easier. Sending you big

My moan today.... Why do women with pushchairs walk side by side leaving no room on the pavement... not moving to let me pass so I have to walk on the road!! FFS! Why should I walk on the road??

 

[zowiey]

My moan of the day...... women who say "oh you wouldn't understand, you haven't had a baby" Fuck Off!!!

Sorry for the swearing ladies, but my god!!!! I wasn't aware that life experiences only began when you have a child. Idiot woman.

 

[Sambatiki]

zoe - OUCHIE! Thats fucking harsh! Dont worry about swearing either I think as its a moaning thread it should be the law!

 

[fifi-folle]

Zowiey despite being fully qualified to care for 0-16 year olds and having done almost all of my teacher training I always preface advice given (based on evidence from textbooks or from experience in working with children) with "I know we don't have children, but..." and still get the patronising comments that we'll understand when we have children, argh!!!!
Like my SIL, first child has terrible attachment issues (can't bear to be away from Mummy) because she has co-slept since birth until the second baby was born, now eldest niece is being a nightmare and SIL doesn't realise it's because the child has never had to be independent (she's over 3). And she's doing the same with the baby!!!! Although goodness knows how baby was conceived as BIL doesn't get to share a bed with them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[dizzikel]

Well here is my moan:

STUPID, STUPID CLOMID! I thought I had escaped the worse of the side effects this month but OH NO! I could not sleep at all last night and was having terrible hot sweats! AGRH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Sambatiki]

Fifi - Cant wait for you to have your baby and yours is a lovely well balanced child!

Kel - I feel your pain

 

[fifi-folle]

Fifi - Cant wait for you to have your baby and yours is a lovely well balanced child!

Yes, then we get to screw them up in our very own way!!!

 

[Sambatiki]

Fifi -

 

[fifi-folle]

Like it!

 

[mossip]

My Rant.

Im on ATM and when im in the pool im wearing a tankini. My stomache is a perfectly formed pergnant shape and when i go on the slides (Sad i no) im getting really funny looks of the other people and the attendance. IM NOT STUPID, IF I WAS DUFFED UP I WOULDN'T BE ON THE BLIDDY SLIDE. xxx

 

[Sambatiki]

Nosy *******s!

 

[Sbee]

Mind if I join in ladies? After a rather large portion of ice-cream and 3 chocolate bars I'm ready for OH bashing! I feel like I'm doing all the leg work ttc. Don't get me wrong my OH is lovely and very supportive but if he tells me one more time 'to relax' and 'don't think about it' I'll ... I'll ... I'll .... I don't know what I'll do I'm that frustrated! Yes, dear OH I know it's best to relax and not think about it and don't obssess about it blah blah blah but I'm sorry I just can't help myself. I don't know why this is taking so long, why don't I work properly? And just to put the icing on the cake, there's all these bloody cute baby adverts everywhere. Why doesn't he get how hard this is, disappointment after disappointment each month? Or if he does feel it too, then for god's sake show it!

Ah, thanks for that. I can now think about putting the ice-cream tube back in the freezer!