The stupid things people say to pregnant women! Share your gems!

[sjminimac]

If you keep trying you might get a girl. It took you ages I got pregnant straight away. Are you sure there's only one. It's a condition not an illness (I've been signed off with spd for 8 weeks now and have crutches). I could go on.

 

[HopefulPony]

I've had someone ask if baby was planned - we are a female couple and had sperm donation, but yeah, actually it was a complete surprise!

Someone at work when talking about the constant sickness - "oh you'll feel so much worse when the baby's here" - gee thanks!!!

 

[Rozz1e1]

I've had someone ask if baby was planned - we are a female couple and had sperm donation, but yeah, actually it was a complete surprise!

Someone at work when talking about the constant sickness - "oh you'll feel so much worse when the baby's here" - gee thanks!!!

Lol!! I love that people ask you if baba was planned....I would love to see peeps faces if you said no lol!! heehee Hope your pregnancy isnt too sicky and your feeling ok xxx

 

[lolita1990]

I detest the "was it planned/ were you trying?" comment! How bloody rude and nosy.

A customer in work the other day simply said to me "pregnant?" I replied "yes" and he said "twins then?" WTF? No, just the one baby in there but thanks for that you horrible little man!

I also get comments everyday by work colleagues about how huge I am. How else do you expect me to look at 27 weeks pregnant?!

I'm also finishing work in just under 4 weeks and so many people have said "oh you'll be so bored and fed-up, what are you going to do for 9 weeks? It's better to work right up to when you're due" No. It's not.

 

[baileybubs]

I'm also finishing work in just under 4 weeks and so many people have said "oh you'll be so bored and fed-up, what are you going to do for 9 weeks? It's better to work right up to when you're due" No. It's not.

Me too on this one! I finished last week (32 weeks) from a job where I stood up all day doing heavy lifting and assisting with personal care, bathing etc etc, and quite often whilst helping my residents put on socks etc found myself thinking I should have someone help me do this too coz I can hardly reach my feet!! Not to mention the hip pain and back pain and complete and constant fatigue!! Yet despite all this I constantly got "you're finishing early aren't you? You'll be bored in a week, I didn't finish til I was about to pop"
I'd rather be bored and look after myself and my baby thanks!! And why not finish early and prepare for my baby's arrival? For financial reasons I'd love to have been able to work til maybe 36 weeks but at the end of the day, I am growing a human being, surely I am allowed to rest and I know how much my own body can take!! Especially seen as everyone keeps telling me also that I will "be far more tired once baby gets here coz it only gets worse" lol

 

[addizmnz]

Wow, I'm so sorry you ladies have gotten such awful comments (especially the ones who got them from friends or family members)! Other than a few of the ones where people say "oh wow, you've gotten big," I haven't had too many problems - and I can tell the people saying that are usually just trying to think of something to say, they are not saying it in a mean way at all.

Makes me sad that some people can be so insensitive! Everyone just keep in mind that it is all worth it in the end when you have your lovely little baby in your arms and try to ignore the rude people of the world.

One thing I find funny is the few comments people have posted that others have said about having a "ginger" baby - and that being a bad thing. Is it really considered so bad to have red hair in the UK? I personally hope my baby has red hair as I LOVE it! My grandfather and my husband's grandfather both had red hair and we are keeping our fingers crossed that those genes will be passed on to our little one!

 

[Hangin_On_AGS]

Now that i'm on bed rest i've gotten well you can do that it won't hurt you two that much....

 

[truepurple]

Them: "Oh when you're having another one"
Me: "this is my first and last pregnancy wheter it ends well or not"
Them: "Oh after the baby everything will change, you'll forget everything and be ready to try again"
What I want to say: "Shut up"


Other comments

"You're 9 months? Wow, you don't look pregnant at all, you barely gained wait"
"You can't drink that?" (referring to them thinking i'm drinking coffee but i'm actually drinking tea that i've researched i CAN DRINK).
"Is the baby father involved?" (really)
"Are you breast feeding or bottle feeding?" (then when you say formula, you get asked why? then you get the worst mother of the year award handed to you before your child is being born, along with a live audio version of why you should breast feed, and how your child will be a complete idiot with a low IQ and all these allergies)...Hello..my body...my choice...why ask if you're not going to accept either answer...besides i'm a formula fed collage graduate with a career....oh and I have no health issues...smdh...and I didn't gain anyweight so I guess there's none to loose unlike my friends who did breastfeed who are huge...

"you're hair has really grown, it's so thick, it's those prenatals" (Have you noticed I'm african american and I have natural hair, my hair is always extra thick and the shrinkage is over 50%. Have a seat)

"you have that pregnancy glow" (Actually it's called shimmer and/or bronzer)

"you're not going to be able to do....xyz after the baby gets here" (thanks for making me feel reassured that i've ruined my entire life from being pregnant and i'll never take another vacation, buy another louis bag, or have a life again)

 

[waiting_game]

Lol truepurple about the hair! Some of the comments just make you wonder... And yeah it's funny how suddenly life is ruined.

 

[katieeandbump]

Them: "Oh when you're having another one"
Me: "this is my first and last pregnancy wheter it ends well or not"
Them: "Oh after the baby everything will change, you'll forget everything and be ready to try again"
What I want to say: "Shut up"


Other comments

"You're 9 months? Wow, you don't look pregnant at all, you barely gained wait"
"You can't drink that?" (referring to them thinking i'm drinking coffee but i'm actually drinking tea that i've researched i CAN DRINK).
"Is the baby father involved?" (really)
"Are you breast feeding or bottle feeding?" (then when you say formula, you get asked why? then you get the worst mother of the year award handed to you before your child is being born, along with a live audio version of why you should breast feed, and how your child will be a complete idiot with a low IQ and all these allergies)...Hello..my body...my choice...why ask if you're not going to accept either answer...besides i'm a formula fed collage graduate with a career....oh and I have no health issues...smdh...and I didn't gain anyweight so I guess there's none to loose unlike my friends who did breastfeed who are huge...

"you're hair has really grown, it's so thick, it's those prenatals" (Have you noticed I'm african american and I have natural hair, my hair is always extra thick and the shrinkage is over 50%. Have a seat)

"you have that pregnancy glow" (Actually it's called shimmer and/or bronzer)

"you're not going to be able to do....xyz after the baby gets here" (thanks for making me feel reassured that i've ruined my entire life from being pregnant and i'll never take another vacation, buy another louis bag, or have a life again)

Haha!! I usually get the opposite to the formula, I tell people in going to breastfeed and they look at me in disgust! Usually followed by "ew I'd never do that, reminds me of being a cow or something" !! So I always have this feeling that I'm a weirdo for wanting to breastfeed especially around these people haha! Xxxxx

 

[Mrs5707]

So sick of all the comments regarding my choice to birth naturally/drug free... the "well so and so thought she was going to last without an epidural and as soon as she got in there she was begging for one.. you just wait" I seriously want to shoot the next person who says that to me.

Coworker at lunch says to me today after I made the comment that I hope the dr says I've progressed some at my appointment tomorrow: "well why don't you just go ahead and drink a bottle of castor oil, that's what they did back in the day" I said "well if I really wanted to potentially poison my child and make her shit up my uterus and have her ingest her own feces then that would be a great idea, but I don't think that's a very nice thing to do"... his response "well they used to do it all the time..." thanks to research and some modern medical improvements, we've surpassed some of the ignorant old- school medical fixes that probably killed a lot of babies. Asshole.

 

[foxiechick1]

Oh yes that gets me...when I had 2 months to go I got oh so any day now then!???!?!? Um no my baby would be very early and that's not what I want.

Same woman last week....You not dropped yet? Um no I'm not due for another month! Her: Really doubt you make it....Yeah thanks for that love now I feel huge!

Feel like telling them to Feck off!

Oh and then the whole oh you're all front defo a boy! My Dh dared to question this as we don't know what we were having and he got told oh well never mind you can try again for a girl no way that's a girl she's all front! Bloody minded people!!

 

[kbwebb]

yup, i know the feeling. its 'normal' in this area to formula feed, and both sides of the family formula fed, i dont know one person that didnt. so when i say im planning on breastfeeding people look at me so weird, and i'm also expected to leave the room, even though ive said ill wear a cover - my OH said he doesnt feel comfortable people looking at me, which is fair enough. but he doesnt seem to understand that sometime babies dont like covers.
the only person who hasnt looked at me funny was my sister who said she wishes she tried breastfeeding but because shes very flat chested and paranoid she wouldnt.
my OH has even gone out and brought three tins of formula 'just incase'..

people also seem to laugh when i say i want to try for a natural birth.. yes im aware it hurts thanks, doesnt mean to say i cant do it.

people also say im tiny and dont believe how far along i am.. yes im sure im nearly 30 weeks and yes she IS growing properly -.-

 

[Powell130]

omg i hate the responses you get when people ask you if you're going to try natural. Like why ask me if you're not going to respect my choice! My aunt asked me why I wanted to try to have him "cave man style" ummmayb because that's what we're, as women, MADE to do and i think i can do it and wont know otherwise unless I try!! And she also tries to convince me that I wont be able to get pregnant again so "enjoy this as is lasts" umm not the nicest thing to say to someone who tried for 2+ years for this one!!

 

[MummyMana]

Today I was chatting with one of my friends, saying I've got just over 6 Weeks left, when this girl comes up and says "try having 2 Weeks left" erm... In about 4 Weeks I will?

 

[Lulu]

I just get ' you'll be better soon' from my MIL, EVERY time I see her. Better, why am I ill? There's me thinking I was pregnant, didn't realise it was an illness!

 

[babyface15]

The strangest comment I had was when I had announced that I was pregnant to my work colleagues. Someone actually said to me he had thought I must be pregnant as I smelt different?! apparently his wife's scent changed when she was pregnant with their son and he now notices the changes in other pregnant women. wtf??!

omg I died laughing at this one!!! lol

 

[Jess137]

I'm sick of everyone assuming I want pain meds...I'm planning a natural birth (Natal hypnotherapy) and I'm going to be doing things way different than the norm here. But I don't really want everyone's comments on how I plan to give birth and raise my child.

Also I always thought that you never asked a woman if she is pregnant...apparently none of my patients have heard of this because I get asked multiple times a day. And I swear if I get asked "how are you feeling", "is it a boy or girl", "do you have a name picked out", etc one more time...

Also had a patient say when he found out I'm pregnant - "I didn't know you have sex!"...um, yeah??? He knows I'm married.

Yesterday a girl who works in the office next to me said "wow you look pregnant now!" So I just looked fat before?? I'm a bigger girl but I've looked "pregnant " for months!

 

[Rozz1e1]

I'm sick of everyone assuming I want pain meds...I'm planning a natural birth (Natal hypnotherapy) and I'm going to be doing things way different than the norm here. But I don't really want everyone's comments on how I plan to give birth and raise my child.

Also I always thought that you never asked a woman if she is pregnant...apparently none of my patients have heard of this because I get asked multiple times a day. And I swear if I get asked "how are you feeling", "is it a boy or girl", "do you have a name picked out", etc one more time...

Also had a patient say when he found out I'm pregnant - "I didn't know you have sex!"...um, yeah??? He knows I'm married.

Yesterday a girl who works in the office next to me said "wow you look pregnant now!" So I just looked fat before?? I'm a bigger girl but I've looked "pregnant " for months!

Oh iv had this one 2, the whole u look pregnant now...im also a bigger girl but i know iv looked pregnant for sometime lol! You cant win tbh...iv been not looking pregnant enough or looking too pregnant lol!! Bloody people!!! Xxx

 

[shambaby]

I'm also finishing work in just under 4 weeks and so many people have said "oh you'll be so bored and fed-up, what are you going to do for 9 weeks? It's better to work right up to when you're due" No. It's not.

Me too on this one! I finished last week (32 weeks) from a job where I stood up all day doing heavy lifting and assisting with personal care, bathing etc etc, and quite often whilst helping my residents put on socks etc found myself thinking I should have someone help me do this too coz I can hardly reach my feet!! Not to mention the hip pain and back pain and complete and constant fatigue!! Yet despite all this I constantly got "you're finishing early aren't you? You'll be bored in a week, I didn't finish til I was about to pop"
I'd rather be bored and look after myself and my baby thanks!! And why not finish early and prepare for my baby's arrival? For financial reasons I'd love to have been able to work til maybe 36 weeks but at the end of the day, I am growing a human being, surely I am allowed to rest and I know how much my own body can take!! Especially seen as everyone keeps telling me also that I will "be far more tired once baby gets here coz it only gets worse" lol

That's kind of funny, because I have had the opposite. From my consultant! At my last appointment, when I was 32 weeks, he asked if I was still working. When I said yes, and that I was finishing at 36 weeks he frowned at me and said to let him know if I wanted to be signed off! Now, here I am at almost 34 weeks and I called in sick today because I am just too exhausted, my hips and pelvis are hurting so much, I can't sleep, and I am usually too busy at work to eat or test my blood sugar, which is clearly very bad for my gestational diabetes. My next appointment is next Thursday so I'm thinking I will self-cert until then and then get him to sign me off. Work have tried to make me feel guilty, but so many people have been telling me I have to think of myself and the baby and looking after us, and I have realised they are right. If work care so little about me that they can't make adjustments for me, then I will not waste my time caring about them. So there.