dimplesmagee
2 boys,2 angels,expecting
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There's not a day that goes by that something doesn't remind me that I lost two babies within 3 months of each other. May 12 was my first baby's due date. I was driving in the car with my 1.5 year old, imagining there being another car seat there. There should've been another car seat. August 22 will be my 2nd due date. I will be getting ready to celebrate my son's 2nd b-day.
I have been temping the last few months. But after I was three days late this cycle with so many symptoms, I've lost all will to do that now. Maybe I am trying to gain my innocense back of pregnancy. Impossible I know, but I can try. My husband has been gone for the past two weeks. I miss him. Next week I think I will be ovulating. I am trying to not think about it and try to just have fun and enjoy each other.
I so badly want to be pregnant. But being pregnant brings about a whirl-wind of emotions all in itself. A few weeks ago I was with a few of my friends. The began talking about a family who had lost their little girl at 6 months old or something like that. They then began talking about how hard it must be to loose a baby at 7 months pregnant. The way they talked made it sound like the were belittling what I went through. One girl looked at me and said "Not to say what you went through wasn't hard." Then they went on to talk about how "You've already told everyone, and you are excited, making plans." I couldn't speak. My heart was pounding outside my chest. Last night, I was telling this story to someone, and I realized how much this conversation was still hurting me. One of these girls do not have any children, and the other has a little girl.
One should not compare pain or loss. Pain is pain, loss is loss. My 2nd pregnancy I saw my little boy's heartbeat, for a period of time he was alive and with both pregnancies we were excited, and making plans...just hurts.
So, maybe I should start a journal. Thank you for reading. I needed to write tonight.
I have been temping the last few months. But after I was three days late this cycle with so many symptoms, I've lost all will to do that now. Maybe I am trying to gain my innocense back of pregnancy. Impossible I know, but I can try. My husband has been gone for the past two weeks. I miss him. Next week I think I will be ovulating. I am trying to not think about it and try to just have fun and enjoy each other.
I so badly want to be pregnant. But being pregnant brings about a whirl-wind of emotions all in itself. A few weeks ago I was with a few of my friends. The began talking about a family who had lost their little girl at 6 months old or something like that. They then began talking about how hard it must be to loose a baby at 7 months pregnant. The way they talked made it sound like the were belittling what I went through. One girl looked at me and said "Not to say what you went through wasn't hard." Then they went on to talk about how "You've already told everyone, and you are excited, making plans." I couldn't speak. My heart was pounding outside my chest. Last night, I was telling this story to someone, and I realized how much this conversation was still hurting me. One of these girls do not have any children, and the other has a little girl.
One should not compare pain or loss. Pain is pain, loss is loss. My 2nd pregnancy I saw my little boy's heartbeat, for a period of time he was alive and with both pregnancies we were excited, and making plans...just hurts.
So, maybe I should start a journal. Thank you for reading. I needed to write tonight.