Thoughts on Becoming a Mother

Discussion in 'Long Term Trying To Conceive' started by x167346, Oct 14, 2013.

  1. x167346

    x167346 Member

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    These are not my words but I couldn't have said it any better myself.

    There are women that become mothers without effort, without thought, without patience or loss and though they are good mothers and love their children, I know that I will be better.

    I will be better not because of genetics, or money or that I have read more books, but because I have struggled and toiled for this child.

    I have longed and waited.

    I have cried and prayed.I have endured and planned over and over again.

    Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their dreams.

    I will notice everything about my child.

    I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover.

    I will marvel at this miracle every day for the rest of my life. I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold and feed him and that I am not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another shot or cry tears of a broken dream. My dream will be crying for me.

    I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child that my friends will not see.

    Whether I parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads me to, I will not be careless with my love.

    I will be a better mother for all that I have endured.

    I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain.I know disillusionment as I have been betrayed by my own body, I have been tried by fire and hell many never face, yet given time, I stood tall.

    I have prevailed.

    I have succeeded.

    I have won.

    So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort.

    I see it, mourn it, and join them in theirs.

    I listen.

    And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely.

    I have learned the immerse power of another hand holding tight to mine, of other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth and when life is beyond hard.

    I have learned a compassion that only comes with walking in those shoes.I have learned to appreciate life.Yes I will be a wonderful mother
     
  2. Emmi

    Emmi Well-Known Member

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    Blubbing big time at that - it's so poignant and so true. Thank you for that - it also reminds me that my time will come :flower:
     
  3. x167346

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    I was the same the first time I read it, but our day will come
     
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    Emmi Well-Known Member

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    It will:hugs: Sometimes the journey is tough though but we have to somehow gather strength and keep the faith.....
     
  5. blue33

    blue33 Hoping for our miracle

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    Thank you for sharing this, it is so very true!!
     
  6. vermeil

    vermeil Mom to 27 week wonder+DD

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    My story is a bit different in that my son was very premature and I was told he probably wouldn`t make it. If he did, he would certainly be heavily handicapped.

    He did survive and despite great medical hurdles he is going great. I don`t think my son is more *special* than others but he is very, very special to me. I feel just like the above. The four months he was in intensive care I cried and prayed and promised the world I would be the most wonderful, caring mother if only he would make it. It`s hard to even type this without tearing up. I do feel like I am a better mother for it. More patient and caring, I do notice all of the little things that makes my son the beautiful soul that he is.

    It took 18 months and ivf to conceive number 2 and again I feel blessed beyond words

    These words are very true - thank you for sharing them.

    You will all be amazing mothers one day :hugs:
     

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