Gemini19156
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So not even a week after our BFP and I've found something new to worry about!
My fiancé and I originally had planned to wait until after the first trimester to tell our families about this pregnancy - and we had also originally agreed that (unless someone specifically asked) we weren't going to tell them that this was planned.
Well...I'm not quite 6 weeks pregnant and my fiancé has already told his mother and older brother. And he told them how long we'd been trying. They took it so well and were both really happy for us. To be clear - I don't think his family will say anything to my family (they rarely see each other) and I'm not mad about this!
I'm just feeling really torn about what to do with my family. I've told several friends and part of me just wishes I could share this with my mom...I'm just so afraid that she'll have a really negative reaction. I'm assuming that she'll be judgemental that we didn't wait until after the wedding and after my fiancé is done with graduate school. And I know most people wait to announce until the second trimester because of the risk of miscarriage - but she's one of my bestfriends and I don't know how I would get through a miscarriage or a pregnancy without her support. (Darn, now I've gone and made myself cry at work - hormones!!!!) She lives out of town and will be visiting at the end of June, I'm tempted to spill the beans then.
Any thoughts or advice?
Editing just to also add this - my mother is an HR Sr.VP and I would also love her advice on how/when to approach my employer with the news. So complicated!
My fiancé and I originally had planned to wait until after the first trimester to tell our families about this pregnancy - and we had also originally agreed that (unless someone specifically asked) we weren't going to tell them that this was planned.
Well...I'm not quite 6 weeks pregnant and my fiancé has already told his mother and older brother. And he told them how long we'd been trying. They took it so well and were both really happy for us. To be clear - I don't think his family will say anything to my family (they rarely see each other) and I'm not mad about this!
I'm just feeling really torn about what to do with my family. I've told several friends and part of me just wishes I could share this with my mom...I'm just so afraid that she'll have a really negative reaction. I'm assuming that she'll be judgemental that we didn't wait until after the wedding and after my fiancé is done with graduate school. And I know most people wait to announce until the second trimester because of the risk of miscarriage - but she's one of my bestfriends and I don't know how I would get through a miscarriage or a pregnancy without her support. (Darn, now I've gone and made myself cry at work - hormones!!!!) She lives out of town and will be visiting at the end of June, I'm tempted to spill the beans then.
Any thoughts or advice?
Editing just to also add this - my mother is an HR Sr.VP and I would also love her advice on how/when to approach my employer with the news. So complicated!