TIE WELCOME JACK, HENRY, DEVON, ROXAS, PENELOPE, MATILDA, THEO and Charlotte!!

[honeysuede]

Hi girls, sorry for not updating, me and OH are seperating and I feel like my whole world is on it's head at the min. Hope all is ok with you ladies, love you all lots xxxxxxxxxxx

 

[waiting2c]

What? How come? Are you ok? So sorry to hear that T!!!

 

[Jess19]

Omg! are you ok??

 

[honeysuede]

Well basically he has a drink problem, he doesn’t drink much in the week but the minute he gets home Friday night he drinks pretty much constantly until Sunday afternoon then sleeps until work on Monday morning. He drinks when he wakes up on Saturday and Sunday mornings. He has gone through phases and it gets better for a while then back to this. It is like having 2 children as he is often sick and noisy and messy. He can also say some really horrible things to me when drunk. Even calling me the “C” word. I have threatened to leave loads of times before, then he gets better and it starts again. He says he does it because he likes it and he does not have a problem and I am unreasonable not letting him have a day of “fun and happiness” I can’t do it anymore, he won’t quit the drink for me and Jack so we have to go. I am heart broken. I have to ask the council to rehome me and Jack and I will get put in a one bedroom dive and will likely have to give up work as I won’t be able to afford the childcare, rent and bills etc. My whole life and happiness taken away due to drink. Jack will lose his father – and he is a good dad. But I know he will carry on drinking so even though I would never stop him seeing Jack SOBER I know he will turn up after having a drink and how can I hand my son over then? Sorry for going on. I am all over the place. I HATE what he is doing to us. Now I have to be a single mum in a council flat scraping pennies. Not what I wanted in life at all. It hurts so much. xxxxxx

 

[Jess19]

im so sorry you have to go through this T we are all here for you. I know how hard it is, I left my ex husband (DS dad) because of his pill habit
its terrible he wont stop for Jack and you, how selfish.
You need to do what's best for you and Jack, maybe he'll realize that once you leave.

 

[honeysuede]

Thanks Jess It's just been so hard and draining and I can't do it anymore I know he thinks it will blow over again like the other times but this is different.
Such a hard, horrible decision to make but I don't see another way xxxx

 

[Jess19]

Do you have the support of his family and friends? Have they noticed his problem?
maybe you could get everyone together for an intervention

 

[harri]

Oh Hun!!! If it makes you feel better, you're not alone!!
Me and DH are having space this week and I'm staying at my parents with Theo!

I know exactly how you're feeling, I wish I could give you a hug. Xxxxx

 

[Jess19]

aw sorry harri, I hope it all gets better

 

[waiting2c]

I am very sorry to hear that T and Harri!!

A drinking problem is a hard one - especially when he doesn't agree he has one. Every single weekend is a bit too regular for that sort of behavior when you have a wee one. Good on you for taking a stand despite the fact it will means sauce changes for you. I wish there was more we could do to help!

Harri - I hope the space helps and that you guys are back on track soon!

 

[wanabeamama]

OMG I'm so so sorry this must feel like your world has caved in I hope something works out you both deserve better than this


Harri I hope the space works I think it must be the moon or something but all men are being douce bags at the min

Big to you both

 

[Jess19]

Omg Laura your 10 weeks now!

 

[wanabeamama]

I know it's crazy

 

[honeysuede]

Harri, sending you massive hugs How are things now? thinking of you. You can fb inbox me if you ever want to chat as I get that on my phone xxx

Thanks for being thereladies, talking to you girls means so much

Things are a bit more settled here, OH has made promiss, ones that I have heard before so I am not too confident, but I have filled out the housing forms anyway, it takes weeks to process so in that time I will see if he means hat he says. He won't get help as he is convinced he can control the weekend drinking, I am not so convinced. I so hope he changes as he will be throwing away our little family, for drink

Jack has been really unwell with teething the last few days, he is cutting 2 at once, he has ear ache and a very high temp and is in a lot of pain, OH and I have been pulling together so it has helped. I am just so upset that after all we have been trhough together he can be such a dick head.
We were meant o be TTC again so that will have to go on hold at the least. Why are men such selfish horrible creatures at times?

Anyway, thanks so much for listeining, I hope you areall ok
xxxx

 

[Jess19]

so glad to hear your DH has made steps and promises, at the very least it shows hes attempting and contemplating trying to make it work

What teeth are coming in? Molars? I've heard that those are the worst I hope Jack feels better and those teeth pop through soon.

 

[Grumblebea]

Hi ladies. I haven't been on in a few weeks. Holy shit Laura...OMG...huge congrats!!!!!! I am soooooooo happy for you! Is there one or two?

 

[wanabeamama]

Thank you Nic there's just one in there I can't wait to see it again

 

[Jess19]

Hey girls how has everyone been!!??
Laura I cant believe your 13 weeks akready!! are you getting a gender scan soon??
Hope everyone is fabulous!!
Guess what I just got! My first pisitive opk since Charlotte!
[IMG]https://i1219.photobucket.com/albums/dd425/Icca19/2013-11-14132345.jpg[/IMG]
let the 2ww games begin!!!

 

[waiting2c]

Wow cool Jess!!! How exciting!!!

 

[wanabeamama]

Yey jess let the tww begin Yey

I'm not going to find out I want a surprise