Stef
Mummy to Olivia & PG #2
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Im sorry this is abit of an essay but I would really appreciate it if you could take the time to give it a read and shre your thoughts and opinions. Also I may have posted this in perhaps the wrong place... Im unsure... However...
I have just made a post in the third tri area about friends and family wanting to visit.
I am needing to talk about this with some one other than my friends and family who I am not going to upset but the whole ordeal is upsetting me very much that im not able to controll my floods of tears...
The baby was due on 7th December and im now currently 3 days over due, and if i carry on to be over due it could lead me right up until the 21st December now this is where the problem lies...
My uncle is coming up to stay at the weekend which is fine. I said to him ages ago that its fine as I dont see him often at all due to the fact he lives in London. He leaves for Mexico on the 18th and wanted to visit before leaving as he wont be back until after the new year...
Now I have had a text from my friend saying work had told her she had to put her xmas leave in so she has booked off next Monday and Tuesday (17th & 18th) to come up to visit with out making any arrangement with me first... THEN...
My mam has told me she is coming up to visit on the 18th -23rd December... I I have a week and a half with other people being in my house.
1) what if i go into labour whilst they're here. Its not so bad with my family as they can just stay at my house and do what ever... But my friend on the other hand. Im not sure i'd want to go into labour knowing my friend is in my house and im going to have someone fussing as soon as we are back home again. My family I can just tell to back off as they no doubt understand. Theyre your family at the end of the day.
2) When the baby arrives Chris can only financially afford to take one week paternity which is full paid and cant afford the loss of money by taking an extra week now that he no longer has his DJing job... Its going to become difficult enough finding money to pay the bills.
3) All his family and friends live in the same town so its not so much of a problem but they will all be wanting to visit...
4) Now all my other friends are bombarding me with calls and texts about when they can come up. I cant cope with it... I wish they would all just leave me alone and the baby isnt even here yet
Im so upset I expected the week off that Chris can take would be to have proper bonding time as a family. The baby could settle in with me and Chris and get used to things and me and Chris could share our first experiences etc together of our daughter.
I dont want our babys first week where we have a full house constantly as that is not how things are going to be... We rarely ever get visitors.
I feel so upset and emotional. I have just called my granparents who just told me to stop being stupid which really hurt. As far as I was aware I wasnt being stupid.
The spare bed has not even yet arrived for the spare room and we got rid of the sofa bed so we actualy have no where for them to stay unless they stayed in the lounge and then me and Chris have no where in the house to take baby apart from our bed room.
I dont know if my friend would get upset and offended if i asked if she could hold coming to visit until after the new year, My mam would be more than offended if i told her i didnt want her to come up. I just dont want some one constantly there. I think i will need to have my own time and especially me and Chris will need our time together and with baby together with no one else.
I really dont know what to do I cant describe how much its getting to me and i just cant battle with my tears over it... Every time I think about it it winds me up... Any advice???
I have just made a post in the third tri area about friends and family wanting to visit.
I am needing to talk about this with some one other than my friends and family who I am not going to upset but the whole ordeal is upsetting me very much that im not able to controll my floods of tears...
The baby was due on 7th December and im now currently 3 days over due, and if i carry on to be over due it could lead me right up until the 21st December now this is where the problem lies...
My uncle is coming up to stay at the weekend which is fine. I said to him ages ago that its fine as I dont see him often at all due to the fact he lives in London. He leaves for Mexico on the 18th and wanted to visit before leaving as he wont be back until after the new year...
Now I have had a text from my friend saying work had told her she had to put her xmas leave in so she has booked off next Monday and Tuesday (17th & 18th) to come up to visit with out making any arrangement with me first... THEN...
My mam has told me she is coming up to visit on the 18th -23rd December... I I have a week and a half with other people being in my house.
1) what if i go into labour whilst they're here. Its not so bad with my family as they can just stay at my house and do what ever... But my friend on the other hand. Im not sure i'd want to go into labour knowing my friend is in my house and im going to have someone fussing as soon as we are back home again. My family I can just tell to back off as they no doubt understand. Theyre your family at the end of the day.
2) When the baby arrives Chris can only financially afford to take one week paternity which is full paid and cant afford the loss of money by taking an extra week now that he no longer has his DJing job... Its going to become difficult enough finding money to pay the bills.
3) All his family and friends live in the same town so its not so much of a problem but they will all be wanting to visit...
4) Now all my other friends are bombarding me with calls and texts about when they can come up. I cant cope with it... I wish they would all just leave me alone and the baby isnt even here yet
Im so upset I expected the week off that Chris can take would be to have proper bonding time as a family. The baby could settle in with me and Chris and get used to things and me and Chris could share our first experiences etc together of our daughter.
I dont want our babys first week where we have a full house constantly as that is not how things are going to be... We rarely ever get visitors.
I feel so upset and emotional. I have just called my granparents who just told me to stop being stupid which really hurt. As far as I was aware I wasnt being stupid.
The spare bed has not even yet arrived for the spare room and we got rid of the sofa bed so we actualy have no where for them to stay unless they stayed in the lounge and then me and Chris have no where in the house to take baby apart from our bed room.
I dont know if my friend would get upset and offended if i asked if she could hold coming to visit until after the new year, My mam would be more than offended if i told her i didnt want her to come up. I just dont want some one constantly there. I think i will need to have my own time and especially me and Chris will need our time together and with baby together with no one else.
I really dont know what to do I cant describe how much its getting to me and i just cant battle with my tears over it... Every time I think about it it winds me up... Any advice???