So I really want to know the sex (this our #5), I have never found out with any of the others. I have 4 boys already and I am not fussed either way this time as each has its pros and cons lol. But hubby doesn't want to find out!!
This is our first and we're opting not to know. Hubby initially wanted to them changed his mind and decided that it would be nicer as a surprise.
I work as a nanny and my boss has 5 boys. She found out with all of them as she could stop people saying "I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that this is a girl". They were never bothered either way, they just couldn't stand people assuming that they were hoping for a girl so my boss used to say "it's another boy. Move on". In the end though, they ended up having a sixth one unplanned and that turned out to be a girl. Of course now people just assume that they kept going until they hit a girl which is completely untrue.
A few friends that have had babies recently have found out and picked the name and everything before the baby arrived and it leaves them nothing to announce when the time comes. A phone call saying 'it's here and they're both fine' is lovely but not the same as 'it's a boy/girl called ******' IMO./QUOTE]
Agreed!!! That's the exact reason we're not finding out. My best friend kept nos. 1 and 2 a secret and found out and shared all with no. 3. She said it was such an anti climax telling people and their reactions were often of polite interest rather than excitement so she went back to the secret way with no. 4.
Although, I stand by my above post. It depends on whether you mind people sticking their noses in about what they hope you have.
A few friends that have had babies recently have found out and picked the name and everything before the baby arrived and it leaves them nothing to announce when the time comes. A phone call saying 'it's here and they're both fine' is lovely but not the same as 'it's a boy/girl called ******' IMO.
Each to their own though, some people like to get super prepared and have everything organised for when baby arrives. I like the anticipation and wondering either way and it's a lovely moment when you discover for yourselves whether you have a new baby son or daughter.
So I really want to know the sex (this our #5), I have never found out with any of the others. I have 4 boys already and I am not fussed either way this time as each has its pros and cons lol. But hubby doesn't want to find out!!
A few friends that have had babies recently have found out and picked the name and everything before the baby arrived and it leaves them nothing to announce when the time comes. A phone call saying 'it's here and they're both fine' is lovely but not the same as 'it's a boy/girl called ******' IMO.
Each to their own though, some people like to get super prepared and have everything organised for when baby arrives. I like the anticipation and wondering either way and it's a lovely moment when you discover for yourselves whether you have a new baby son or daughter.
Everyone makes their own decision and shouldn't be criticized either way. I respect when parents decide not to find out the sex of their baby. That said, I would never choose that for myself, I think it's kind of dumb. Telling me that it leaves nothing to announce is rude. The genitals are not the only thing that comes out that day, there's plenty of lovely surprises to behold. Besides, who cares if it's a let down to other people, it's not about "making interesting announcements" I'm sure there will be plenty of things to do and we won't be bored in any way. To each their own but please, get off your high horse.
To the OP, I understand that this is a decision you want to make WITH your husband and I understand your plight. However, my thought is that I'm the one who is carrying the baby, and my vote is the one that counts. If you have made the compromise and didn't find out the sex of your first 4 babies then surely you deserve the chance to find out with this one even if your hubby doesn't agree. Remember, you're the one doing all the work here, doesn't that count for something?
A few friends that have had babies recently have found out and picked the name and everything before the baby arrived and it leaves them nothing to announce when the time comes. A phone call saying 'it's here and they're both fine' is lovely but not the same as 'it's a boy/girl called ******' IMO.
Each to their own though, some people like to get super prepared and have everything organised for when baby arrives. I like the anticipation and wondering either way and it's a lovely moment when you discover for yourselves whether you have a new baby son or daughter.
Everyone makes their own decision and shouldn't be criticized either way. I respect when parents decide not to find out the sex of their baby. That said, I would never choose that for myself, I think it's kind of dumb. Telling me that it leaves nothing to announce is rude. The genitals are not the only thing that comes out that day, there's plenty of lovely surprises to behold. Besides, who cares if it's a let down to other people, it's not about "making interesting announcements" I'm sure there will be plenty of things to do and we won't be bored in any way. To each their own but please, get off your high horse.
To the OP, I understand that this is a decision you want to make WITH your husband and I understand your plight. However, my thought is that I'm the one who is carrying the baby, and my vote is the one that counts. If you have made the compromise and didn't find out the sex of your first 4 babies then surely you deserve the chance to find out with this one even if your hubby doesn't agree. Remember, you're the one doing all the work here, doesn't that count for something?
Sorry you found my post so "rude" The OP asked for opinions and I gave mine I am certainly not sitting on any high horse!
I respect people's decision to find out, that's why I said some people like to be prepared and get everything organised - that's a good enough reason to find out. Everyone's different and there's no right or wrong answer, just what's right for the parents. It's right for us to stay team yellow.
Oh, and although you say nobody should be criticised for their decision, you go on to call my decision "dumb" Cheers for that