To santa or not to santa

[Dragonfly]

So regardless of what you told your kids should they be told there is a santa only years later to be broken hearted when they find out there isnt one.

I think we all remember how magical christmas was when we thought there was a santa but many parents feel its like a lie to tell their kids but have to for the sake other other kids being hurt finding out to early.

I sit on the fence with this one, yes we do say santa to our toddler but I do feel a but bad that he will find out he isnt real one day though I hope he has magical christmas memories and dosnt hate it when he finds out no santa.

sorry hope this isnt a crap debate I was pondering on the thought earlier.

Edit, reason I was wondering also was that my nasty bro told me when i was really young and I still remember crying my eyes out and feeling really betrayed and xmas was never the same.

 

[coccyx]

my older 2 children weren't heartbroken when they realised Santa wasn't real, they grew out of it. They have been STRONGLY told not to say anything to their younger siblings who still believe.

 

[Dragonfly]

my older 2 children weren't heartbroken when they realised Santa wasn't real, they grew out of it. They have been STRONGLY told not to say anything to their younger siblings who still believe.

good idea, I would be doing the same only think i was like 5 when I was told. what age is to old though? 5 to me was way to young.

 

[bluebaby]

I love the whole santa thing and can't wait to do it with my LO. I do think it is cruel how some kids find out but they get over it and still enjoy christmas. I think i may tell my LO if she came to me with suspicions if perhaps someone i her class had said something but only when she is getting older anyway.

What kind of age are kids finding out that santa isn't real these days? I can't remember when i found out.

 

[AppleBlossom]

I'll be telling Grace that Santa is real. It's lovely when you get to write letters and put out the stuff for him on christmas eve, I don't want to be a spoilsport and maker her miss out lol plus she'd probably say to all her friends in school "Well my mummy said santa isn't real" lol

 

[Dragonfly]

I remember getting a phone call from santa, I was so chuffed! was one of my dad friends like but still lol

 

[coccyx]

My second daughter is 8 and started doubting a year ago. Bit annoying as I found the ' you had better behave yourself as Christmas elves are watching and will tell Santa if you are naughty' quite useful!

 

[coccyx]

I can still see their little faces when they came downstairs and saw 'footprints in snow' near the Xmas tree.

 

[Dragonfly]

well I defo agree with letting them find out themselves and suspect just I never found out that way. I think we are worse at xmas though my other half will be getting our son up and stupid o clock to go and open presents.

 

[Boothh]

i will be telling jesse santa is real and we even left a letter with all his presents last year saying happy first christmas from santa,
i wasnt upset when i found out he wasnt real cus then my mum had me in on the secret pretending to my little sisters and it made me feel grown up! x

 

[ALY]

i still tell holly santa wont come if your naughty i dont think she believes in him anymore but she hasnt said anything

robyn loves looking for santa on xmas eve and samsam well he doesnt understand

as for telling them that santa isnt real i really dont know yes they will find out one day but until then am going to let them believe in all the magical christmas that comes with christmas

 

[SKATERBUN]

I'm a bit skeptical when it comes to the whole santa thing. Its like Halloween IMO, and dont want LO to think an event like Christmas is all about commercialism.
A lot of the time it is and you cant escape the fact, but for me its a time for giving and getting together with folks and enjoying their company.
When I was little I always knew in my heart that Santa didnt exist. My parents half heartly said 'he was coming' but I always knew it was dad that dumped the big pillowsack in my room at night I wasnt daft!

LO can get excited as she wants about the whole fairytale story of Santa but I'm not going to delude her though. I want her to appreciate what shes given when shes growing up and not take it for granted that things are always available. With the pressure in schools to have the latest gadget etc its going to be pretty hard anyway, but nethertheless I dont want her growing up spoilt. May sound harsh and I love my little one to bits and already I buy lots of things for her, but I think alls good in moderation.

 

[Dragonfly]

You cant spoil a child with love though and thats the most important gift

 

[ttc_lolly]

I'm all for Santa I don't consider it a lie... there's lots of things we hide from our kids because they aren't old enough to face real life just yet. Xmas is such a magical time, and I don't think finding out Santa is a fake makes it any less... it's all apart of growing up! Children should be able to enjoy Disney, cartoons, holidays, and basically beleive in fairytales etc IMO until they are old enough to know better... let's face it, adult life can be so hard and tough, why take away something so innocent and sweet when they are little and not knowledgable enough to know any better? x

 

[Dragonfly]

I'm all for Santa I don't consider it a lie... there's lots of things we hide from our kids because they aren't old enough to face real life just yet. Xmas is such a magical time, and I don't think finding out Santa is a fake makes it any less... it's all apart of growing up! Children should be able to enjoy Disney, cartoons, holidays, and basically beleive in fairytales etc IMO until they are old enough to know better... let's face it, adult life can be so hard and tough, why take away something so innocent and sweet when they are little and not knowledgable enough to know any better? x

I wasnt saying that it was just throwing up a topic

I cant wait till "santa" comes this year with a very cool hummer jeep for my son which cost Santa a lot of money

 

[Nic1107]

We will definitely being doing the Santa thing with Carmen, and I can't wait! All part of the magic of Christmas... and a little part of me still believes in Santa. I think most kids grow to a skeptical age and start questioning his existence on their own, although when I was little I figured that if Santa didn't exist, then the North Pole and reindeer must not exist either! Mom had to show me the North Pole on a map and take me to the zoo to see the reindeer before I believed they were real again.

 

[Dragonfly]

I do think myself and the other half are the bigger kids here now we have William and soon to be another at christmas, we have the place all decorated early, go made with decs and all things christmassy! I cant wait till christmas day and I used to hate it before that.

 

[JASMAK]

I was never broken-hearted when I found out the truth about Santa. In fact, my mom always maintained (and still does) that if I believe in Santa, he will come...and he does. Why not let the magic live forever?

 

[AriannasMama]

Santa is one of the best parts of xmas! My parents never told me he wasn't real, I figured it out on my own (partly after my older brother told me he was fake ) but I wasn't horribly upset about it, I still loved counting down the days til xmas and making a wish list, etc etc.

 

[cherryglitter]

What do you mean Santa isn't real

Im joking But yes I will be telling Jake he's real and will let him find out when he finds out.
I don't remember either how I knew that he wasn't real. Can't remember how old I was either.

But I used to love writing my christmas list, and getting my presents from santa!! Leaving a mince pie and milk out for him, as well as a carrot for rudolph

It's making me excited thinking I get to do it all again now! !