To Wait or NOT????

[AMV]

I need some advice and since we aren't openly telling people that we're ttc, I'm turning to you ladies! I was really hoping to get my BFP this month, but AF came this morning. I just researched what my due date would be if I get my BFP this cycle and it would be exactly one week after my brother's wedding. I would never ever ever want to miss this big day, but there is a chance I would. What if I go early?! I certainly can't help that. We just really want a baby and I'd hate to skip this month of tc due to this conflict. I need good HONEST advice. xxx

 

[hopefulfor1st]

Your not even pregnant so I wouldn't be worrying about due dates going overdue or early.

 

[supersherwolf]

My sisters wedding is overseas and when she gets married I'll be 8 months pregnant. Unfortunately I'll miss her wedding, and she'll miss the birth of my first child but I decided it was worth TTC right now. If you think your brothers wedding is more important than hold off on TTC for now because you can get pregnant at anytime.

 

[curiousowl]

It's a hard decision. We're probably going to take the next couple cycles off to avoid date conflicts. While I really, really want a baby I feel it's the right decision for us. You just have to do what's right for you. I don't think there's a right or wrong decision in this case.

We're also not telling anyone we're TTC so I definitely turn to these boards a lot!

 

[siempre]

Ultimately, it is very difficult to schedule pregnancy. I have tried for some time to do that, and have failed each time. I recommend moving forward with your life, because if it takes you years to get pregnant, you will be cursing yourself for even missing one chance.

 

[MarieMo7]

I'm conflicted on this one - we are stopping after this next cycle because of scheduling issues. Primarily b/c I'd rather not have an xmas baby, but also because it hits my crazy-busy time at work, and I'd rather not leave my employer in a lurch during my maternity leave. Not major reasons, I know, but we're also not years in the making TTC.

FWIW, my SIL was at my wedding, and gave birth 5 days later. She was there till pretty late, and granted she was tired - but she was there! My niece was born on her due date, which was a nice surprise . They're local, so that helped a lot. Are you close to your brother (proximity)?

 

[AMV]

I'm conflicted on this one - we are stopping after this next cycle because of scheduling issues. Primarily b/c I'd rather not have an xmas baby, but also because it hits my crazy-busy time at work, and I'd rather not leave my employer in a lurch during my maternity leave. Not major reasons, I know, but we're also not years in the making TTC.

FWIW, my SIL was at my wedding, and gave birth 5 days later. She was there till pretty late, and granted she was tired - but she was there! My niece was born on her due date, which was a nice surprise . They're local, so that helped a lot. Are you close to your brother (proximity)?

Super close in proximity and in our relationship. Really, the only way I won't be there is if I give birth that day! I will do what it takes to get there otherwise. I'm not worried about how tired, fat or ugly I may feel. I'm just worried about the circumstances I can't control.

One of those circumstances is when we'll be able to conceive. It COULD take years and I think I would regret it if I didn't try for the sake of the wedding if that's the case. Thanks ladies!

 

[Destiny08]

The chances of you giving birth on that 1 particular day are quite small especially if its not your due date! I personally wouldnt stop trying. As the others have said, you'd hate to miss that 1 chanxe.