but it really is taking it one day at a time. our loss broke our relationship up, and only now, after some weeks apart we are starting to process and heal together.
be it a hair washing, tidying up, getting dressed, taking a walkabout, eating a whole bar of chocolate, posting on a forum or just crying your heart out, those are all little big accomplishments that step by step make you start feeling alive, and not semi-alive, again.
after you come to know the joy of becoming a parent, and then experiencing the most profound loss, all the other things that used to make you happy count less and give you less joy then they have done before, because you discover a part of yourself you didn't know you had, and none of these can fill that hole up.
so be proud of yourself for every one of these little accomplishments, although they may seem completely empty and vane... because over time, you'll be able to look at them and admire your own strength, and this itself helps you heal.
(it's been almost a year for me now, and it takes A LOT of time and shitty days for this kind of clarity)
hugs to all of you
be it a hair washing, tidying up, getting dressed, taking a walkabout, eating a whole bar of chocolate, posting on a forum or just crying your heart out, those are all little big accomplishments that step by step make you start feeling alive, and not semi-alive, again.
after you come to know the joy of becoming a parent, and then experiencing the most profound loss, all the other things that used to make you happy count less and give you less joy then they have done before, because you discover a part of yourself you didn't know you had, and none of these can fill that hole up.
so be proud of yourself for every one of these little accomplishments, although they may seem completely empty and vane... because over time, you'll be able to look at them and admire your own strength, and this itself helps you heal.
(it's been almost a year for me now, and it takes A LOT of time and shitty days for this kind of clarity)
hugs to all of you