Today I had to do something I never thought I would...

[jules7521]

Today I had to do something I never thought I would need to do and it pains me to even admit it. I had to ask my facebook friends for some help with this little bean. I'm ashamed but I also know that without their help me little one is going to not have what she needs. I've known almost all of them since middle school and even though I haven't really kept in touch a few very sweet ladies have stepped forward to offer some onesies etc.
I never in a million years thought I would find myself in a situation where I would have to even ask. I was always taught at a young age asking for help was a weakness. Today I had to swallow my pride. My ob mentioned yesterday that I need to start preparing for her to come a little early and after staring at the few onesies I had I knew I had to put my pride away.
I feel about an inch tall right now but I do know in the future if they ever need help I will pay it forward.
Now to see where I can find a carseat etc. I remember someone on here mentioning some of the fire department will help.

 

[Pinkie88]

Don't feel bad! It's okay to ask friends for help.

 

[Enasni453]

Asking for help isn't a sign of weakness, but why don't you just go to a thrift store & get cheap used baby clothes, if you don't have enough?

 

[Loz0912]

I think it takes more strength to ask for help than try to battle through!

Not sure how it works in the us but are there any grants available or anything? X

 

[jules7521]

Asking for help isn't a sign of weakness, but why don't you just go to a thrift store & get cheap used baby clothes, if you don't have enough?

I was supposed to be eligible for some aid through the state of Florida starting in Feb which would have made it possible for me to pick up things at the thrift store. Unfortunately Today I was notified that they terminated the program and that the only thing I would get would be $90 in March just once.
This recession has hit our little family hard. I had to take the semester off school and lost my grant for this quarter. So right now we are at a point where if his evil mother wasn't nice enough to put a roof over our head we would be out on our butts. She refuses to have anything to do with this baby however.

 

[feeble]

Defintely takes a strong person to ask for help x

 

[Mummy_Mac]

Oh hun me and hubby have only been able to get sorted as far as we have with the help of friends and family - there is nothing wrong about it in fact I like to look at it as a way that they are involved in beans early life. We will also need to be going into council housing ASAP as we live in a private rented studio apartment and there will be no roomafter 3 months. Sadly unless we win the lottery we will be relying on help until lump goes to school as we live no where near any family.

Please don't feel bad Hun it does not reflect on you in any way. Xxxx

 

[maysiemoo]

Quite often when someone gives they are just glad to find someone who will appreciate their items. As you say you can carry it forward when your able. x

 

[kitcat]

Good for you!!! Its not weakness - youre doing what you need to. We are doing the same. xx

 

[jules7521]

it's amazed me that 2 of my old highschool classmates stepped forward to offer some extra diapers etc because even though they both have brand new babies, their little ones will have outgrown them shortly. I haven't spoken to either of these two in prob close to 18 years and I broke down crying that they would even offer.
I know i'll get an earful from my OH's mother at some point this weekend after she sees my facebook post but truly this isn't about her and I don't really care what she thinks lol

I just feel blessed that even though this economy sucks and times are tough there are some amazing people that haven't forgotten kindness

 

[babynewbie]

Sorry your having a hard time with money etc Dont feel bad for asking for help, im sure your friends are more than happy to help you out. No need to feel a inch tall, your doing what you need to do to provide for your baby

 

[MrsBandEgglet]

Defintely takes a strong person to ask for help x

^^ Agreed! I have had to ask my friends to help look after my babies recently because I have been so tired and not feeling great. Also, if we're all going somewhere as a group I've had to ask for lifts because I don't drive yet and it's pretty humiliating. Makes me feel like rubbish asking them but sometimes you just need help.

 

[bellaswedus]

jules7521 - i would like to help you. where in florida do you live? what do you need?

 

[feeble]

I have had parcels of food and clothes in the last week, I have also got a friend coming tomorrow to help us clean the house, it is important to ask for help if it's needed, pride is a weakness really x

 

[jules7521]

I've always been the one when anyone help I'd make sure I did everything I could, I've just never been on the other end It sounds like a lot of us have a lot of caring people around that are willing to help out.
I admit I was ashamed only because I feel like somehow I failed. Maybe it's that failed dream of having a baby when financially I was set. Seems Bean had other ideas lol

 

[Sunshine12]

There is no shame in asking for help.

Im not sure if you have anything in florida similar to this but in the UK we have whats called freecycle where people post on the internet stuff they dont want and are willing to give away for free if people want to collect it. x

 

[NotNic]

I was going to suggest the same as Sunshine. Here's a link to the US site: https://www.freecycle.org/ Hopefully they have one in your area.

xxx

 

[jules7521]

I was going to suggest the same as Sunshine. Here's a link to the US site: https://www.freecycle.org/ Hopefully they have one in your area.

xxx

Ty for the link I just signed up so * crosses fingers* lets see what I can find

 

[monkeypooh]

There is nothing wrong with asking for help, especially to put clothing on your baby. It just prooves you are a good mom who puts her baby first. Good for you for looking out for your little one.

 

[NotNic]

I was going to suggest the same as Sunshine. Here's a link to the US site: https://www.freecycle.org/ Hopefully they have one in your area.

xxx

Ty for the link I just signed up so * crosses fingers* lets see what I can find

You're welcome. Good luck!