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aflight84

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Hey Girls,
Not long to now and i have to face the monster that is the gynea!
I'm calm and ready i think. Not sure how I'll be when i get there but i have a list of questions for him. I wont ask all of these and i probably wont be as blunt about it either but please let me know what you think and add some of you can think of something i haven't:

Why after two months of increased progesterone results and then a report of pains and bloating did you not have me scanned?

I contact your PA as adviced on the PI leaflet that i was experiencing pains and they were getting worse by the day. Why was this message only left as a post it note? is it not seen to be exceptionally important when someone is having probelms relating to a medication? I'm concerned as Hyperstimulation in a severe case is life threatening and if it hadn't been for my GP getting involved to help we'd never have found out this was the case. And when you did finally see that post it note you still didn't want to help.

What are you going to do now?
I want a HSG/Laparoscopy to ensure there's no damage to my tubes.

The lining of my womb was a lot thinner than the sonographer was looking for. What can you do about that?

What happens next month?
What are the options for treatment?

Why does your PA see fit to give me almost medical advice when her opinion is not medically founded?

God just writing this has made me angry ARGH !!!!
 
I admit I don't know the full back story -I'll try and read it later today- but from having had to deal with FS's and gyns ranging from very good to criminally incompetent in the past year, may I have a suggestion?

You sound really upset and those questions are really accusatory. I'm sure you have EVERY right to be upset and that these people seem to do very little to help you when you're at the end of your rope patience wise BUT unless you are determined to leave and have a backup doctor to see may I suggest rephrasing to sound less confrontational? Doctors are but human as well and much as they would try to be professional afterwards, if something hurts or upsets them it then shows in their treatment to a degree.

The patient doctor relationship is special, the one between a TTC woman and her treating physician should be even more so but sadly, often times they can't be bothered to understand that.

Good luck!!!
 
i think at the moment i'm just angry that he didn't look after me and if it weren't for my GP id never have found out i now have 8 eggs getting ready and would have run the risk of concieving up to 8 babies. i'd reported pains last month and he didn't want to know so really i just want answers. I want to know that i'm ok.
I normally ovulat day 15 and 16 and my pains started that date and after last month but this month pains started on day 11 and i'm on day 16 now and still no ovulation so i'm worried the eggs might be too big i don't know. I hate that i don't know what's going on inside my own body and i have no control over it!
 
I hate that i don't know what's going on inside my own body and i have no control over it!

Oh you can say that again! I'm sure that's one thing we can all relate to.

Personally, so much so that if I had the money I'd get one of them u/s machines to use on my own at home!:rofl:

I wasn't saying you're not right to be upset hon! Just that you may have to consider you may have to find another gyno.... Good luck today!
 
i'm thinking of transferring anyway i have kinda lost all faith in him now and i need to trust him with my life and so far he's done nothing but let me down. We'll see how it goes.
 
Hi aflight, I was in a similar situation a little while ago in that I was frustrated with the consultant. I had had hsg, all clear and 6 months of clomid but nothing happened. The nurse bought my appt with him forward from december to august and it was a chance for me to discuss with him further treatment etc. When I got in there, he said that I had ten minutes to talk to him! He is always late too!! Then when I said that I would like a lap op he said no and that it was too expensive on NHS and that it was too risky. I then said that I wasn't happy with the fact that the nurses had been scanning me for 6 months and it had been pointed out (by accident) by the nurse that I had pco and nothing had been done to further investigate, so he then called in the nurse inquestion and I had to tell the story of what happenmed. Basically I left the hospital with my Husband about to go on holiday and feeling very confused and upset. I have since been to my gp and asked to see another consultant for fertility and I'm now having lap done next week!

I know that its hard but I must admit I was maybe a bit pushy with him part of thinks that maybe if I had of posed my questions better then I might have got the op but by being honest and upset and telling him what I wanted, it got his back up cos he thinks I'm the doctor and I will tell YOU what you need. All games, that I did not not play but anyway, hope your appt goes well and you get from it what you deserve
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oh that's not good i have my list of questions written out and i'm going to let him talk first and see what he has to say if he gets funny with me then he wont know what's hit him but hopefully it wont come to that.

good luck with the lap!
 
oh that's not good i have my list of questions written out and i'm going to let him talk first and see what he has to say if he gets funny with me then he wont know what's hit him but hopefully it wont come to that.

good luck with the lap!

Cheers hun!
 
Hi aflight, are you under Princess Alexandra hospital and if so which consultant do you see?
 
Good luck and let us know how it went!
 
hey pixie yeah it is - i'm under mr kumar!
he didn't even bother to see me himself sent in a registrar. she was a completely cow!
 
i gotta have an hsg to make sure there's no blockage and go it alone next month see how i get on. didn't really take me seriously still but i'll get the tests done and then get a new dr. i can't put up with this anymore
 
that is unreal, i cant believe their attitude towards all of this??not fair hun
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fingers crossed things start to go right next cycle. Although at the moment i'm not sure this ones ever goign to end. I haven't even o'd yet and i'm not on cd17!
 

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