Told the DADDY

[1sttimemom]

So some news...

I've told the father...and he took it very well!! He started saying that he wanted to settle down and start a family. He said that he was going to stop playing games and that I was everything that he had been looking for!! I was shocked. He started talking about buying a house and all kinds of CRAZY stuff!! I was happy that he took it so well but also freaked out about the stuff he was saying. I told him that he doesn't have to say those things that I am willing to make it work just being friends. I told him that I didn't want to be with anyone that just wants to be with me 'cause I'm having a baby. I told him that he needed to slow things down.

He told a bunch of his friends and said that it was the best night of his life!! But he was drinking so I took it all with a grain of salt. And now he's saying that he def. wants to be a huge part of the babies life but that he wants to take things slow between us. To make sure that he really wants it. So I am relieved to hear that he's looking at things more realistically. But now he's so distant. It more like we are friends. I have even had to ask him if it's ok if I do certain things...like kiss and cuddle him. He said that it was and that he liked it but still I don't get the feeling back form him anymore?! What's up with that? He again went from one extreme to the other. So I my plan is to just be me, be honest and work on being friends with him. Then if it develops into more then it does if not then I'll have him as a friend. Right?

We went to have the first ultrasound the other day. He went with me and was so supportive. I am currently 8wks and 2 days!! My official due date is July 8. The tech said that everything looked normal from what he could tell. I was amazed when he showed us our little baby. I didn't expect to get emotional...just cause I was mad about the FULL bladder. But as soon as I saw it I started to cry. I couldn't help it. I was amazed. Then he showed us the heart beat. It was so fast...168 bpm!!! Normal is between 120-170. We got pictures too. I'll post it when I figure out how!

I gave one picture to my sister and have one for myself. The Dad has two. Which he keeps in his wallet at all times!! How cute is that?

Oh, and my doc said that the heart beat is a little on the high side but we shouldn't worry. It usually indicated a lot of movement or that it may be a girl!! Has anyone else heard this?

Anyway..my evening/morning sickness has gone...YUPPIE!! But I totally think that I was getting sick b/c of the stress factor. Now that he knows and has taken it so well I'm not stressed as much!

So for now everything seems to be falling into place.ahhhhhh

cheers to all

 

[tashy100]

Congratulations!!!!!! How exciting.

Sounds like you are doing exactly the right things re the father. You definately do not want to be with anyone who is with you as an obligation. So do what you are doing - be friends - and if it goes further then great - if not you wont be surprised or disappointed.

Your scan sounds lovely.

Enjoy your pregnancy and good luck!