Too hard to people to get?

[leannejkl]

i dont understand why some people cant seem to get their head around why being pregnant after losing a baby ( in which ever way it happened) means this next pregnancy is going to be full of fears and worries, its like they say its ok dont worry u be fine, yea if only its so easy to think like that...

i dont think i will ever relax and enjoy this pregnancy and even after the baby is born my worry wont stop (sids) just wish people could understand its not as easy as they think.. grrrrrrrrrr

xx

 

[goddess25]

I know what you mean. Its easy for people to say that when they have never had a loss. I had a mc then a baby a mc and now pregnant... I envy women that go through there pregnancies not really considering bad things and spending far too much time in the bathroom knicker checking and worrying constantly.. it must be nice.

All I can say is at least there are lots of women on here who understand, we hve been there and the worry continues.

 

[ornahayes]

When I had my mc another "friend" announced she was pregnant - due the same time I would have been. The first time I saw her husband after he turned round and said "oh Pip had a small bleed at 6 weeks we know how you feel!" I couldn't believe he was comparing that to us losing our baby. She then proceeded to sit at the pub and complain as she couldn't drink and wondered why I got cross as would have given anything to be in her position. They don't know we're expecting again.

My Mum and Dad and my OHs brother and gf have been fab though - always checking in and asking how we're doing. xxxxx

 

[Vickieh1981]

I think people who haven't been through it just don't understand how hard it is.

I would imagine more so in your case because you didn't lose your son during your pregnancy but when he was older so they may not understand that the pregnancy is terrifying to you as well.

People just keep telling me that it won't happen again this time but tbh we had an early miscarriage and then lost Isabella with no reason given for why she just died. Nobody can tell me it will be fine.

Huge hugs to you hun and floaty kisses to Alfie xxx

 

[Vickieh1981]

I know what you mean. Its easy for people to say that when they have never had a loss. I had a mc then a baby a mc and now pregnant... I envy women that go through there pregnancies not really considering bad things and spending far too much time in the bathroom knicker checking and worrying constantly.. it must be nice.

All I can say is at least there are lots of women on here who understand, we hve been there and the worry continues.

Some people are so ignorant. On another website I use a woman posted how important it is to not take their word on scans that your baby had died because she was told that but went back two weeks later and her baby was fine.

This just gutted me making me think I had killed Isabella but letting them induce me. I told her this and she said she "Knew how I felt as she had thought her baby was dead for two weeks".

I had to tell her that since I was burying my daughter the next day she had absolutely no idea how I felt.

I don't get some people.

 

[leannejkl]

I think people who haven't been through it just don't understand how hard it is.

I would imagine more so in your case because you didn't lose your son during your pregnancy but when he was older so they may not understand that the pregnancy is terrifying to you as well.

People just keep telling me that it won't happen again this time but tbh we had an early miscarriage and then lost Isabella with no reason given for why she just died. Nobody can tell me it will be fine.

Huge hugs to you hun and floaty kisses to Alfie xxx

what you say is true but i dont have just the after the baby is born worry as my last 3 babys were prem Lucy 22+3 lived for three hours Honey 24 weeks she is now 5 and alfie was born at 27 weeks and all my friends and family know this but assume i should just 'count my lucky stars' and not have anything to worry about.

ur so true by saying no one can tell you it be fine, people say to me its ok sids wont happen again, why we did not know it was gonna happen to Alfie what makes the next diffrent, i am already prepard for going early after 3 in a row i think its pretty certian but i am just keeping fingers crossed for anything over 28 weeks.

xx

 

[Vickieh1981]

Oh goodness. I did't know you lost your little girl too. Then I don't know why they don't get it. Obviously when your babies are so early like that you are going to be terrified all through pregnancy and after as well.

 

[leannejkl]

Yea Lucy died 6 years ago she also had a heart condition that meant even if she had got to 24 weeks they would not have been able to save her as she be too tiny to operate on.

i have no problem getting preg, just keeping them in it seems lol

how far was you with Isabella? is this your first baby since her? x

 

[marnie79]

hi hun, im so sorry to hear about ur little girl too, and to have all 3 so early u really must be scared, sending massive hugs and stay put vibes ..

i hate it that people keep going to me that ive got this one now and points to my belly !! err yeah i know !! why do they assume that this baby is gonna make me feel all better and stop the pain and sadness i feel for Olly? why cant they get it through thier heads that actually as nice and lovely its gonna be holding this one in my arms when he/she is born its also gonna be f...king painful and really ram home what ive lost with Olly !! and of course the old "nothing is gonna go wrong this time" statement, what can they now time travel ?? bollocks nothing is for certain and we all know that we cant take anything for granted before or after birth.
lol soz for rant think people r getting to me at mo, hope ur doing ok hun and bump is growing well xx