Totally Talkative, Crazy 1st-timers (NTNP/TTC #1!) - [22+ BFP's & 18 babies born!]

[nlk]

Lol...sorry, I didn't think it was hidden?! My bad

Don't feel bad aurora I don't post in here massively, and always feel bad! So I don't really expect people to reply to me massively

 

[nlk]

Also, I don't stalk many journals...I'm trying to be better! I just forget!

 

[xopiinkiieox]

After the holiday, I plan on *trying* to be in here more. We haven't been TTC due to DH's surgery, so...nothing much to share or contribute! Hoping I can get my zest for TTC back, but as we approach the one year mark, it's sort of hard. Never thought I'd be the girl who couldn't get pregnant! Blah. In any case, hopping back on the cycle tracking train...especially since my cycles after the MC have been sooooo messed up! Have gone from 28 perfect days to 31-42 days, depending on what my body decides! Anyone else have this issue????

Hope all are well and enjoying the season to be merry!!

 

[MommaAlexis]

Joel is meeting Lara next week.

 

[JJsmom]

nlk & Annie, I pray you both get your BFP's! I'm not sure what the age they start allowing IVF, but I think no matter your age if you want a child they should do anything they can to help you especially since YOU are paying THEM! I'm sorry you both are going through so much and again I'm praying for both of you!!

 

[flapjack10]

nlk & Annie, I pray you both get your BFP's! I'm not sure what the age they start allowing IVF, but I think no matter your age if you want a child they should do anything they can to help you especially since YOU are paying THEM! I'm sorry you both are going through so much and again I'm praying for both of you!!

Unforunately that's not how the National Health Service works over here, it's such a shame. I saw an item on the news saying that there was ageism against old people in the NHS, it made think of nlk and how it was ageism against her too. If you're over 16 and the only way you can have a baby is via IVF then they should treat a 20 year old the same as a 30 year old. It's ridiculous.

xxx

 

[Aurora CHK]

Amen.

 

[nlk]

I have to be 23 before I will be considered. Even though it sucks, and I still have a little over a year to wait, I speak to someone on here who doesn't qualify for ivf in her area until she's 30. I think it's absolutely disgusting. We pay tax, earn our own money...and don't seem to be getting any of the benefits of it.

Annie, I know how you feel. It's so horrible feeling like you'll never be pregnant...you just need to keep believing. It's so hard, I know.

Alex, did he ask if he could meet her? How are you feeling about it all? Hope it all goes ok

 

[disneydarling]

Makes me feel better knowing others are going through it as well! How are you feeling Disney?

Actually doing good. I have spent every day since I found out I was pregnant majorly stressing about every little feeling! Can't beleive I am 19 weeks already but I am starting to calm down a little bit now.


nlk that sucks about the NHS being so rubbish. I totally agree, what are we paying our taxes for if they are not willing to let you do this! Absolutley ridiculous. I bet you are going to be counting the days until you are 23!

 

[nlk]

Makes me feel better knowing others are going through it as well! How are you feeling Disney?

Actually doing good. I have spent every day since I found out I was pregnant majorly stressing about every little feeling! Can't beleive I am 19 weeks already but I am starting to calm down a little bit now.


nlk that sucks about the NHS being so rubbish. I totally agree, what are we paying our taxes for if they are not willing to let you do this! Absolutley ridiculous. I bet you are going to be counting the days until you are 23!

I actually am Maybe I should make a ticker for it?! Haha.

You're nearly halfway now! It can't be easy, trying to relax and not stress

 

[JJsmom]

Wow! That is absolutely rubbish! I agree a 20 year old should be treated the same as a 30 year old if they want a child! I mean make the health professionals wait until they are 30 to have a child even though they want children when they are 20 and see how they feel about it! It irks me when the government can tell you how you have to run your own life when they aren't even a part of it yet you are paying taxes to them.

 

[disneydarling]

Yes nlk I think you definitely should make a ticker for it!

Yes it is hard not to stress, I thought getting pregnant and making it past 12 weeks would make me relax, but I don't think it's ever going to happen! I keep telling myself 'it will be ok when she's born and I can stop stressing then' but I think I'll be even more of a nervous wreck then! My husband keeps saying I'm going to be one of those crazy paranoid mothers and I'm afraid he might be right.

 

[AllisMommy]

Feeling very discouraged ..

OH and I had tests done.. My levels from blood test were great..

His semen analysis was abnormal...increased malformation and decreased motility .

I'm a wreck...

 

[nlk]

I know this is hard, but try not to worry just yet. Is this the first SA that your OH has had done? There are many reasons why it can come back like this on the initial test...illness, or even the stress from having to go through testing is enough to completely screw it up! Also, how long did you abstain for before doing it? If it was too long (more than 5days) or too less then this would also affect it. The first thing you need to do is to ask for another one to be done.

Also, there are ways to improve these things. Get your OH to start taking the well an supplements for ttc...they have been shown to help improve it drastically. Also, try to cut back on smoking and drinking as these greatly influence morphology. If he uses a laptop often, make sure he stops putting it on his lap.

Sorry for the absolute essay! It's just that we have gone through the same thing. Our second one, with changes, saw us go from 3% to 41%, which is now well above average. It's just a shame that my specialist still chose to see this in a bad light.

Try to focus on the things that you can do to help it rather than the bad side. I hope you're able to put it to the side for Christmas as well and just relax and enjoy yourself. If you ever want to chat feel free to PM me x

 

[AllisMommy]

Thank you soooo much that really cheered me up a bit

I'm putting it all to the side for now. I told him to cut back on drinking.. He isn't an alcoholic again but he can put back a whole bottle of wine on his own .. He also has the occasional cigar.. So I've asked him to stop that too.

I just don't want to be the overbearing annoying woman you know?

And how did you get %?? When my doc called they only told me abnormal analysis with decreased motility and increased malformations.. I couldn't get anything else out of them except to refer him to a urologist

 

[nlk]

I actually asked them for a copy of the printout. I know what all the numbers mean, so said I needed it for our fertility specialist. I'm sure if you ask they will give you it? Morphology should be between 3-4%, and forward moving motility should be between 32-36%, or something like that. So I wanted to see just how bad it is...it's up to the individual to decide how far under normal is a cause for concern.

I know what you mean about being overbearing. The amount of argument we had over it all! He felt like I was telling him what to do too much and trying to have too much control. So in the end I changed what supplements I took, and made sure to take them in the evening so we could take them together...it's helped massively as he now feels its not just him. I figured more supplements for me wouldn't hurt

 

[AllisMommy]

I'm really just at a loss with the whole thing..

He drank a ton a few night ago so would that have an effect on this so quickly? I saw that morphology issues is more genetic than diet driven... What do you think?

I feel so sad though

 

[nlk]

Personally, I think out of all the MFI issues, morphology is probably the best one...in terms that it's the easiest thing to counter. Things like the heat and alcohol are the worst things to affect it and, because sperm are constantly being produced, it's possible that him drinking the other night could have influenced them that quickly. I know of a few people who have had this issue, and when they have changed certain aspects it has been improved greatly.

I would definitely at least give them a go. I'd rather go back and find out there I tried everything, and it just didn't work, than to not know whether there was anything that we could have done about it

 

[AllisMommy]

Last night we went to the casino... No drinking or smoking a cigar for him!! I was very proud!!

I guess we will see what happens in 4 weeks when I make him do it again lol

 

[xopiinkiieox]

Nlk - sorry about your situation! That's ridiculous...telling you what you can do with your own body! Hope you find a solution much more quickly!

Allis - sorry to hear this! Sounds like nlk has some great suggestions, so I hope they work!! We will have to go and get a SA for DH after the holidays...it's been a year, so thinking one of us is not working right!

for all...hope we all get the BFPs we dream of!!!