Trouble telling people

[gracie97]

Is anyone else having a hard time telling people about their new pregnancy? My first pregnancy went fine, but the second was a missed miscarriage (baby stopped growing at 9 weeks, but I didn't find out until the 12 week scan). Now I'm 14 1/2 weeks, and starting to show, and I am having the hardest time spitting out the news to people. Coworkers are actually starting to ask (so obnoxious). And when I do tell people, I get really nervous and defensive. They'll say, "Congratulations! How exciting!" and I answer with, "Well, we'll see," and a morose face. I'm not usually such a drama queen! What gives? Anyone else in the same boat?

 

[hb1]

I was the opposite - I told people I worked with closely straight away - as I knew I would be emotional and incase the same happened.

Everyone deals with it differently tho.

hx

 

[vickyd]

I still have trouble with that lol!!! My immediate responce to congratz is " well see" ! Hope it gets easier for you though..

 

[Pippin]

I've just started telling people too and it's fine with some and horrible with others. People that know my history is easy which thankfully was all the people that really matter. Telling a few close colleagues today just felt awkward like I was lying to them or something. I acted happy but was relieved when the conversation was over with a few of them.

 

[tj1980]

I feel exactly the same. I'm back at work tmw after 2 wks off and in that time I've gone massive. I'm 13 wks now and have had my scan and have a huge bump but I still want to conceil it. I know everyone Is going to guess tmw and my same reaction will be " let's see". I think it's cos I got Soooo excited last time and had a mc a couple wks later.

 

[Ahren]

I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks in March which only my OH and mum knew about but because of that i couldn't tell people and most people didn't find out till 5 months when it was starting to show. Even now i find it hard when people talk about it!

 

[Starry Night]

I had to tell everyone right away because I went on bed rest almost immediately after my bfp due to what turned out to be a sch. I could not disappear off the face of the planet for 3 months without an explanation. And I couldn't just say "I'm not feeling well" because it would needlessly scare people about my personal condition. I was planning on telling people at around 8 - 10 weeks like last time but in a more controlled release. This time it was one mass announcement.

 

[Pretty Please]

Yes I was the exactly the same as you. Infact when I told my line manager @15 weeks as I was sick as a dog - I nearly was in tears and could hardly talk and he said aren't you happy (think he almost thought accident etc) - I said I will see if this baby comes out alive and then everything came out about all my MC and then he said is that why you were always at hospitals / DR's. I have found the more people I tell the easier is it to accept congrats however its difficult because at the back of my mind I am praying this baby makes it....