Trying to conceive #1 Buddies!

[Earthylove]

Hello everybody! Did you guys BD every day, every other day or some other pattern? I'm just wondering cause we've been BD'ing every other day and I'm wondering if that's enough. I'm also finding ttc to be more confusing than I anticipated! The other day we BD'ed with me on top and a big blob of seminal fluid fell out of me right away when I rolled over. I know the sperm swim fast and all that but I was still like "crap! my plans have been foiled!". Also, it seems like every day after BD'ing thre's a lot of fluid/cm/who knows what that appears when I wipe and in my underwear, which I don't remember happening back when we were not having frequent unprotected sex. I'm not sure if it's semen or EWCM. So confused! I guess it kind of doesn't matter as long as we BD often enough right?

 

[beemeck]

Hello everybody! Did you guys BD every day, every other day or some other pattern? I'm just wondering cause we've been BD'ing every other day and I'm wondering if that's enough. I'm also finding ttc to be more confusing than I anticipated! The other day we BD'ed with me on top and a big blob of seminal fluid fell out of me right away when I rolled over. I know the sperm swim fast and all that but I was still like "crap! my plans have been foiled!". Also, it seems like every day after BD'ing thre's a lot of fluid/cm/who knows what that appears when I wipe and in my underwear, which I don't remember happening back when we were not having frequent unprotected sex. I'm not sure if it's semen or EWCM. So confused! I guess it kind of doesn't matter as long as we BD often enough right?

hey earthy

this question gets to me every month too! I hear all kinds of conflicting stuff. I read on my app Ovia that every other day is best so that sperm doesn't get depleted. But FF says that's a myth unless your DH has confirmed sperm issues and otherwise every day is the best. I never know what to think. I fell pregnant first month TTC. We only BD twice in fertile window - two days in a row. I haven't been able to get pregnant again since losing that baby and we BD pretty much every day in my fertile window so it makes me wonder this month we followed SMEP. it's a mixture of every day and every other. let's see if I have any luck....

I have the same after BDing - sounds like EWCM. if it's stretchy, then it is definitely EWCM. If not, semen. If it absorbs into toilet paper, it's semen and if it sits on top it's EWCM. either way, things are sounding good for you .....GL!

 

[MagicDance]

Hey Earthylove,

The times we have gone for everyday we ended up getting burnt out around Ovulation as it is tiring so now we go from every other then to everyday or sometimes twice a day (morn and eve and then have a little break for one or two days)
Im also following smep just like Beemeck! I think though do what is comfortable for you, quality over quantity.

We tried the approach where we just did it when we felt like it and it got us nowhere so now we are pulling our socks up and making more of an effort lol.

Try not to worry too much about leakages as that will happen regardless of if youre on top or not. The sperm is protected in fluid (which helps the swimmers to swim) so it is mostly the remnants of that combined with a little excess which wasnt needed!
Enough should get to where it needs to be
After we bd I either prop a cushion under my bum or put my legs up onto my headboard or wall to try and help.

I can honestly say that the days after I feel quite ''dirty'' (even though im not) I wear a liner and find myself changing and freshening up constantly. (Obviously while trying to be sperm friendly!) Does anyone else feel that way? Arent men lucky

 

[Earthylove]

Thanks for the responses ladies!! Yeah I think we would get burned out if we tried to commit to BD'ing every day. If things don't work out this cycle, I'd like to try opks next cycle and then we'll bd every day around O, as suggested by the SMEP plan. I'm comforted to hear that I still have a pretty good chance regardless of how long the semen stayed in I usually try to lay down with my hips elevated, but it all came out before I had a chance. Oh well. I'm feeling pretty good about things now. I'm really hoping this is the cycle!!

 

[Earthylove]

I really think I need to do opks next time because ff is still not detecting ovulation and my chart is looking weird. It could be that I haven't ovulated yet but I've had EWCM for like a week and the other day it was really stretchy/abundant and I thought I felt some o pain. But still no temp spike! and I'm on CD 16.

 

[psychochick]

earthy: I'm guessing it depends on the person and possibly age. I also wondered this and I looked on fertilityfriend gallery to see for the people that did get pregnant around my age, how often the BD was. It was pretty much all over the map; some people did it once or twice right before O, some people were doing it consecutively for 3+ days around O.

I think for my DH 36 hours seems to be the ideal recharge time. 48 hours seems too long and he's antsy, 24 hours seems a tad short. Haha so we do 48 hours starting from CD6, and then approaching O, 36 hours. So like AM, then PM, skip a day, then AM. Not sure if this works in terms of getting pregnant but it seems the ideal setup so far for us and if we are enjoying it, it can only help with TTC right.

 

[beemeck]

Hey Earthylove,

The times we have gone for everyday we ended up getting burnt out around Ovulation as it is tiring so now we go from every other then to everyday or sometimes twice a day (morn and eve and then have a little break for one or two days)
Im also following smep just like Beemeck! I think though do what is comfortable for you, quality over quantity.

We tried the approach where we just did it when we felt like it and it got us nowhere so now we are pulling our socks up and making more of an effort lol.

Try not to worry too much about leakages as that will happen regardless of if youre on top or not. The sperm is protected in fluid (which helps the swimmers to swim) so it is mostly the remnants of that combined with a little excess which wasnt needed!
Enough should get to where it needs to be
After we bd I either prop a cushion under my bum or put my legs up onto my headboard or wall to try and help.

I can honestly say that the days after I feel quite ''dirty'' (even though im not) I wear a liner and find myself changing and freshening up constantly. (Obviously while trying to be sperm friendly!) Does anyone else feel that way? Arent men lucky

I def don't enjoy the after effects of TTC. I tend to have a lot of CM in general, so I'm used to feeling the need to freshen up, but after DTD and with the EWCM it sometimes feels like too much. men are suuuuuuper lucky!

 

[beemeck]

earthy: I'm guessing it depends on the person and possibly age. I also wondered this and I looked on fertilityfriend gallery to see for the people that did get pregnant around my age, how often the BD was. It was pretty much all over the map; some people did it once or twice right before O, some people were doing it consecutively for 3+ days around O.

I think for my DH 36 hours seems to be the ideal recharge time. 48 hours seems too long and he's antsy, 24 hours seems a tad short. Haha so we do 48 hours starting from CD6, and then approaching O, 36 hours. So like AM, then PM, skip a day, then AM. Not sure if this works in terms of getting pregnant but it seems the ideal setup so far for us and if we are enjoying it, it can only help with TTC right.

PC I see we did O on the same day afterall. 4 DPO eeeeek. TWW buddies! keep me company so I don't go too

 

[psychochick]

beemeck: Yes! Let's go buddy! I'm usually normal until 7-8DPO, I feel like my body always goes through something at 7-8DPO like insomnia, twinges, cramps, which goes away in a day. But since TTC, I've only gotten hopeful after those event only to get BFN. So this cycle, I'm just going to ignore symptoms. Feeling quite normal at 4DPO so far. You?

 

[beemeck]

beemeck: Yes! Let's go buddy! I'm usually normal until 7-8DPO, I feel like my body always goes through something at 7-8DPO like insomnia, twinges, cramps, which goes away in a day. But since TTC, I've only gotten hopeful after those event only to get BFN. So this cycle, I'm just going to ignore symptoms. Feeling quite normal at 4DPO so far. You?

yes I haven't done any SS yet because I can at least rationalize that it's physically too early for anything. But in 2 days when implantation is a possibility, I'll be in full SS mode today I do have a headache... and super gassy but I guess that's just what kind of day I'm having and I agree, since TTC I notice EVERY last thing about my body in the TWW. So many twinges, aches and pains, I wonder if I think them up?! or if they were there before and I didn't notice? When I had my BFP I didn't feel an ounce different until I had nausea at 13 DPO and tested. before that, nada. I'm ready to take on 5 DPO tomorrow - the last day of my sanity before 6 DPO and SS

 

[Earthylove]

Thanks again for the replies!

I know what you all mean about symptom spotting in the tww. I really try to distract myself and not obsess but it's so hard! Haha. I just tell myself that I'm feeling the way I'm feeling because of the progesterone, which I would have whether I'm pregnant or not. Now i just blame my symptoms on the progesterone rise . Makes me feel less paranoid, hehe.

Now I'm a little frustrated because DH and I were too exhausted after a long day yesterday to BD and I'm pretty sure yesterday is when I ovulated (got a temp rise this morning but ovulation hasn't yet been confirmed on ff). The last time we BD was Saturday morning so I'm really hoping some spermies lasted in there till Monday! I think we'll try and BD again today just to be on the safe side, but yeah, yesterday was a fail
Do you guys think it's still likely that we'll conceive when we BD'd about 2 days ago?

 

[MagicDance]

I had tons of Ewcm yesterday and positive Opk today woop woop!! Definitely going to have one last bd later!

Earthy you still have a good shot, can live up to 7 days. So you just might have one waiting for the egg ready.

 

[beemeck]

earthy I think you have a great chance. When I'm obsessing, I scan the pregnancy charts in FF gallery and so many of them have rare BDing around O. You can also compare charts like yours based on intercouse pattern and see what percentage of them ended in pregnancy. I know it's not super scientific or accurate, but sometimes I like doing that.

magic it's go time for you! come join us in the TWW

AFM - 6DPO... I feel like it's going fast this time! I will prob start testing around 10 DPO which is soon! Unless I get any noticeable symptoms - IB, cramping, temp dip, then I MIGHT try 9 DPO Another friend told me she is pregnant last night and for some reason it feels like a sign for me? Just feeling really positive atm and hope it pays off!

GL ladies!

 

[Earthylove]

Great idea Beemeck! I'm about to go look at those charts right now! Haha
And it looks like test day is coming up fast for you! Eeek how exciting. I bought a bunch of wondfo tests so I won't feel so guilty this month about testing a little early glad to hear you're feeling positive! Fx this is the bfp cycle!

Thanks magic! Sounds like you've got some well timed BD'ing! When do you think you'll start testing?

 

[beemeck]

I do the wondfos too so I can POAS to my heart's content. feeling like positive thoughts can go a long way so why not try it??

 

[psychochick]

beemeck: I'm also at the point where I'm like hmmm... when should I POAS? My temp is kind of wonky right now. It's been at coverline for the last two days, hopefully it shoots back up. It usually peaks at 7-10DPO for me so I'm not too worried right now. I may POAS 9-10DPO which is this weekend. Weekend is more convenient to POAS esp for FMU since otherwise I have to run to work early in the morning. FX, update us when you test beemeck!!

 

[beemeck]

yeah PC your coverline is quite high. FF doesn't seem to be consistent with those always. some people get way lower coverlines than I do and I'm jealous because then their post O temps looks way higher. My temp doesn't do much of anything one way or the other, so I guess it just goes to show that when TTC pretty much whatever is happening will worry us

I will prob POAS this weekend too just because I have no self control. I did wake up in the night last night around 1:30 not feeling well. But it was more blowing my nose and coughing although when I woke in the morning I was fine? My stomach was kind of in knots - the feeling I get when I drink too much caffeine...which I now have given up completely so I dunno. Obviously it's unrelated to the TWW but since it's something different that happened during it I'm grasping at straws to make a connection lol. But yeah other than that just trucking along....

 

[MagicDance]

Thanks girlies.
I normally start testing around 9dpo-10dpo too even though it's early - I like to. Glad you lot are staying sane and keeping each other going also great it's going fast for you.

Keeping my fingers crossed for the weekend testers! I shall be thinking of you all. X

 

[beemeck]

magic! hopefully you took a break from the magic dance to do the baby dance!! hope you caught the egg!

PC - are you going to be testing tomorrow? I am have had some inclination that a BFP is possible and I have a bach party so I figure why not? that's what ICs are for, right?!

 

[MagicDance]

hehe! Hopefully this will be the lucky cycle. Now time for distraction and staying sane.. Dancing break
So glad it's the weekend!!! Work is so busy phew.

Hope everyone's well x

Yay! Fingers crossed Beemeck