Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[wellsk]

Other Facebook status 'looking at everyone's achievement over this last year I thought to myself what have I done this year?... Oh yes, watched my beautiful daughter grow'.

Wow, you know what... I've been TTC this entire year, and do you know what I have to show for it, nothing! Don't be such a smug bitch!

 

[Mimzy3]

Kim K and West having a baby are u freaking kidding me!??!! Poor Khole has been trying for years my heart goes out to her.

 

[AnnaSaRa]

Kim K and West having a baby are u freaking kidding me!??!! Poor Khole has been trying for years my heart goes out to her.

I know. I don't think we will be able to turn on a TV or open a magazine without seeing celebrity baby stuff.. between Kim and Kate... Uch. This is going to be terrible

 

[awifey]

Pretty pics of preg. friends.

I almost want to give up.

 

[tannielicious]

God... logged onto a news website. 7 stories in 24 hours about Kartrashian's pregnancy... like seriously? Guess that is the best way to fall pregnant... date someone for just a few months...

 

[Loveless07]

Sorry but I need another vent! I just moved to Germany and into my new house with hubby after being apart for quite some time. So of course the first thing on our minds is getting back to TTC. But it's so discouraging to have my mother talking down to me and telling me I need to be on birth control because I'm not ready for a baby. Of course she doesn't know I'm TTC but its still hurtful and rude and so many other bad things. But what puts it over the top for me is that in addition to saying this stuff to me every time I talk to her she went and sent DH a message on FB telling him to make sure I get back on bcps because we aren't ready and we need to "enjoy life" first. Which btw that annoys me the most how people say that like a baby will ruin our lives!! Anywho I'm just pissed that she went behind my back to tell him that! Maybe I'm over reacting but I don't think so. I feel like she was being shady about it cuz it's like why do you need to tell him separately when you've already told me a million times. I think it's because she knows I'm not easily manipulated and I do whatever I want no matter what anybody else says including her. But what she doesn't know is that DH wants a baby even more than I do so that's too bad for her. I just wish she would accept that I'm a married adult and she no longer has any control over me and my decisions! That would make life easier for everyone involved.

I am going through the same thing with my mom she just never seems to get that I am a grown woman. I know that I am her child and will always be but I am not a baby. We are military as well (Navy) so my family and I are not in the same area of Virginia which she (my mom still hasn't gotten use to) But she feels like we are not ready for a child either she has various reasons and opinions to why. But we are ready and that's our choice to have a baby. I know that that is your Mother and you respect her and love herbut do what makes yo happy you have to live your life for you and you only get one so don't hold back or regret any decisions you make if you and your husband are ready that's all that matters (especially with him being away at times every moment is precious that you two the parents of the baby have made this very special important decision to bring a life into the world. Congrats's on your decision and i wish you all the luck that you will be blessed with a bundle of joy in 2013!!!

 

[skimomma]

Hey body, I thought I o'd two days ago? What's with the optimal high fertility cm today?!!!--off to change ticker

 

[tamithomas]

First Kate, then Jessica Simpson with #2, now Kardashian? Thank goodness I don't read entertainment news I only find out through friends who give a crap about that stuff.

 

[ChartsNHearts]

Grrr, I think I should close my facebook account for the sake of my own sanity!

Today we have 'My promise to my family... blah, blah, blah... share if you're a parent', many photo's of people's 'too-cute' children, and an image that says 'Sometimes when I need a miracle, I look into my daughter's eyes, and realise I've already created one'! Bleurrgghh!

 

[ferinnej]

Hi all,

This is my first time posting. I'm been reading these forums for about a year now but have never posted.

We've been TTC for one year now. We did one round of clomid, one month off and then one round clomid+trigger shot+IUI...nothing worked so far.

My cousin told me that she got pregnant by taking vitex, drinking yarrow tea at the beginning of her cycle and then lady mantle tea during the second part of her cycle. She has 2 beautiful babies.

I do not really know when I ovulate, the ov. tests are all over the place and I cannot take the basal temp bc of bad sleeping habits.

Has anyone else had luck with just herbs? Any help/ advice is greatly appreciated.

 

[Nazz4]

Hi all,

This is my first time posting. I'm been reading these forums for about a year now but have never posted.

We've been TTC for one year now. We did one round of clomid, one month off and then one round clomid+trigger shot+IUI...nothing worked so far.

My cousin told me that she got pregnant by taking vitex, drinking yarrow tea at the beginning of her cycle and then lady mantle tea during the second part of her cycle. She has 2 beautiful babies.

I do not really know when I ovulate, the ov. tests are all over the place and I cannot take the basal temp bc of bad sleeping habits.

Has anyone else had luck with just herbs? Any help/ advice is greatly appreciated.

If I were you I would post this in TTC and just make a new thread out of it. You should probably get more responses that way. On that note, I have no answers for you unfortunately, this is only my 2nd cycle ttc. I would give it a shot though if I were you.

 

[Mimzy3]

We had a NYE party at our house and all the girls kept asking when are you going to have babies. I'm like look my husband has been gone for military I only see him a couple times a month if i'm lucky essh! And there like well you're the only one without a baby. Yeah like I didn't notice that!?!?!?! UGH

 

[Mimzy3]

oh and i'm CD 20 still no O and my hubby is gone again till Feb.

 

[AussieBub]

So angry! Problems with males run in my family... my brothers are both ADHD and were a lot of trouble growing up (one still is and he's 26). My dad was a difficult child and ran away from as a teen. My cousins are ill-behaved monsters, one of whom tried to kill his little brother by setting fire to his bed whilst he slept...the list goes on. I said I wanted a girl first because I'm afraid of having a boy first in case the bad gene falls to them and they become violent and destructive. As a first time mum is have no real parenting experience and struggle with a child trying to cause harm to other children. Its a genuine fear I have. Doesnt mean I'm not parent material! I'm just so angry that two women had the nerve to say I might not be up for parenting because I want a girl first to avoid having a troublesome child. My family live on the other side of the world. If I have a problem I have my DH's sister who don't live close as my own means of help and support. I'm so angry that some people can think I'm not parent material for wanting a girl first when I have a legitimate reason to be worried about having a boy first. So hurt and angry!

-AusaieBub

 

[cntrygrl]

Anyone know what amount of time you should wait til moving onto LTTC?

 

[wellsk]

I assume it's up to you. I've been dipping in and out since I got to a year.

 

[cntrygrl]

Yeah I've been thinking about moving over. We seem to be right in the same boat.

 

[AlyCon]

Anyone know what amount of time you should wait til moving onto LTTC?

Well since it can take up to a year for a "normal healthy couple" to conceive I would say about a year. But if you have a legitimate diagnosed cause of infertility and know it may take you a while then you could go there anytime. I haven't been officially TTC that long but i have pcos so I post in LTTC from time to time. But the ladies there are very accepting and I don't think they would mind you posting in there at all

 

[awifey]

I'm at 17 cycles. I am also on the ltttc board. No formal time limit, but I'd say TTC for 4 months wouldn't be long term yet.

 

[wellsk]

Yeah we do! It's awful getting past a year mark (although I'm sure it's worse for those who've gotten further than that). At the moment I can only seem to deal with it with anger, which is so unusual as I'm not an angry person.
I just want to be a mum.... why is it so hard?
If I'd known this I wouldn't have bothered with BCPs or waited when I got married!