Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[tamithomas]

Dear my dog, stop jumping my DH's balls every chance you get. We want a LO weather you like it or not lol

 

[Loveless07]

So with the good news must come the bad but im still hopeful my dr. called and said my amh is low and that she encourages me to continue trying

 

[skimomma]

4dpo and nothing to report. I'm feeling sleepy/tired but things have amped up at work and I've also cut back on carbs so there's a non pregnancy explanation.

ChartsNHearts, dh has stopped asking too but I think he's trying to spare my feelings. Maybe it's the same with your dh?

 

[Nazz4]

4 dpo today, slept the whole day away and OH was like, "need that extra sleep for the baby huh?" I know it shouldn't make me mad, but last month I had every symptom in the book with a BFN so now I just don't even want to hear all the jokes or expectations or whatever.

 

[AussieBub]

If you're AF is late and you feel pregnant. You should be treated as pregnant until proven otherwise! Just because I still haven't got a BFP, doesn't mean you just ignore the possibility! I have stopped doing the cleaning, dishes, rubbish and changing the cat litter because due to 2 early pregnancy m/c, I wanted to avoid any chemicals, mould, or anything else unhygienic. I don't know that I'm pregnant but I want to take all precaution. Why can't DH take those precautions as well?! The dishes, the rubbish, the cat litter, the cleaning, none of it is getting done because DH won't pick up the slack where I drop it. I just want him to be more helpful just in case, not just leave all my chores until AF starts so that I can do them. The house needs cleaning. The dishes are piling up. The cat litter is going to need changing tomorrow. Why can't he just do them in case I am pregnant and then if I'm not and AF just decided to be late this month, then I will pick up the slack next month. Just feel like he is ignoring any and all possibility of me being pregnant. This has me worried that if I am pregnant, that he is going to be unhelpful all throughout the pregnancy and nothing will get done. I'm fuming right now.

-AussieBub

 

[AussieBub]

Oh and not only the unhelpfulness, DH said to me that if im not pregnant, he's going to consider getting me tested for bipolar or something because of all my sudden "extreme" mood swings! He said he meant it as a joke but still, nothing adds more pressure, guilt or stress then saying, if you don't test positive this month, I'm going to get you tested for a mental disorder. Jeez! Time and place to make a frikken stupid arse joke like that! When AF is late and out buying HPT's, is NOT the frikken time nor the place!

 

[Lensbb]

I'm sorry. My dh can come up with some insensitive jokes sometimes, too.

 

[AussieBub]

I know he didnt mean it but still, saying it during a massive mood swing in public? That's just plain stupid!

-AussieBub

 

[awifey]

Everyone else I know who could have kids does or has one on the way.

 

[flagirlie7]

Everyone else I know who could have kids does or has one on the way.

I feel the same, pretty much! It's like SO normal and expected and common, no big deal!! Ughhh

 

[Lensbb]

In public? Yes, that's stupid.

 

[Lensbb]

Awifey, I know exactly how you feel.

 

[Nazz4]

AussieBub that's how mine was last cycle. AF was late and I was not doing those chores because of possible pregnancy and he just basically acted like I was being lazy and if I get pregnant I'm going to be lazy the whole time and he's going to have to do everything. If I'm ever pregnant, then yes I'm essentially going to be "lazy" until I hear a heart beat and everything seems ok... then I'll get back to the dishes. At this point I'm not trying to risk another early MC. Most guys just don't feel it like we do.

 

[Sunnyleah]

Now, I truly feel like punching myself in the face. My friend, who I introduced to her current husband on my wedding day, just announced she's 6 weeks pregnant with #2. She told me she was going to try for #2 in October. She's my age. Where is my friggin #1 after 5 years of trying? I've never hurt anyone and shoplifted once when I was 11, no speeding or parking ticket. What did I do to deserve this?? If I was not meant to have children, stop my period so I can save on pads and tampons and IVF treatments. Give me clear signs that I will never have children so I can stop trying and hoping; I'm burning through my retirement trying .. Are you not happy until I'm childless and penniless?

Sorry to the ladies who just read this.

Sorry if this is an old post.....

You have just voiced everyone who's TTC thoughts. Thank you.

 

[Sunnyleah]

Hi Everyone!

I haven't posted for a while so thought I would cheer myself up by saying hello some ladies who know exactly how I'm feeling.

We've been TTC #1 for about 18months now and are just being referred for more tests! Feels like a big step- but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't petified that someone will tell mr it's not possible

Just lately I honestly feel like I'm surrounded by pregnant
Ladies or new mums- don't get me wrong I'm happy for my friends- but each time someone announcing a pregnancy I'm smiling on the outside by crying
My heart out inside Think the best comment recently was "We weren't even really trying" I know it's not meant to upset me (these are friends who know I'm TTC) but it just makes me feel like a complete failure! I feel like they pity me sometimes and I really don't want that When's it our turn?

Sorry to moan everyone- it's just nice
To say it out loud sometimes, because I can't say it to others!!

Keeping my fingers crossed for my BFP in 2013 and I wish the same for all of you ladies too! Xxxxxxxx

We haven't been TTC as long yet (since May 2012) with one :BFP: in August that ended in MC. But I totally feel the same! I even had a friend announce pregnancy with the same due date that I would have had

It's getting harder to stay positive. I have found such strength reading everyone's posts here.

It definitely seems that everyone is pregnant! I have at least 5 around me plus I teach daycare and a ton of moms are expecting their second or third. Everyone often asks us when we plan on starting a family, and I just want to say well about a year ago.

 

[Beebemeister]

So I finally get a positive ovulation test and my husband is out of town until tomorrow! I am praying that I don't ovulate until then... We'll see! BLARGGGGGG

 

[FurMama]

So nice to find these boards and support system!

 

[CakeCottage]

Period pain could you kindly take a running jump off a short pier please? Thank you in advance!!!

 

[tamithomas]

My vent is not ttc related but i need to get this out of my system. So fed up of the internet logic of one offensive comment follows by 100 "I disagree how dare you" comments. Why do people feel the need to gang up on someone on the internet? It's not on BnB just so fed up of the keyboard warriors.

 

[AlyCon]

So yesterday was my lucky day (NOT!) I got to spend the entire day with a friend who has a 2 yr old and is in her first trimester carrying her second. Another girl who is in her second trimester with TWINS. And a girl who has a week old newborn.

And then there's me