TTC #1 at 35+

[Lisa1]

Good morning!

How's everyone? Lisa, that little bean is snuggling in deep and poking you on your left side! Quality over quantity sounds good to me!

Nothing new from me. I'm back to the dr. a week from today for my first proper OB appointment, but won't have another scan until 12 weeks. Nerve wracking! I still don't have any symptoms at all -- none. (I'm always tired so can't count that.) I know it's crazy, but I wish I had morning sickness!

Even having seen the bean and the heartbeat, I can't help but feel really nervous, especially since my hcg levels weren't doubling at the right rate. I just hope my body and bean have their own schedules, and that everything is going to be okay. Still, it's a really scary time.

to all -- Ella

huni you will be fine and so will bean Princess x but I know you won't rest easy till the next scan. Easier said than done but you need to relax and look after yourself bean princess is happy where she is and won't be going anywhere for the next 8 months xx

 

[Beanhopes]

I'll hopefully get in to the doctors on Friday and get the confirmation and just have a chat so I know what to expect

There is a private clinic very close to where I live and all of my friends have been there for early pregnancy scans. I've been in touch with them and they have said I can go in and see them whenever. I'm going to make an appointment for 12th March when DH is home. Feels like ages away but hopefully the time will go by and this teany tiny one will be still snuggling in at that time.

This is so scary.

You are so right Ella, I'm going to concentrate on the rest of our lovely group and make sure we get more and more 's

and PMA essential

xx

 

[Beanhopes]

Good morning!

How's everyone? Lisa, that little bean is snuggling in deep and poking you on your left side! Quality over quantity sounds good to me!

Nothing new from me. I'm back to the dr. a week from today for my first proper OB appointment, but won't have another scan until 12 weeks. Nerve wracking! I still don't have any symptoms at all -- none. (I'm always tired so can't count that.) I know it's crazy, but I wish I had morning sickness!

Even having seen the bean and the heartbeat, I can't help but feel really nervous, especially since my hcg levels weren't doubling at the right rate. I just hope my body and bean have their own schedules, and that everything is going to be okay. Still, it's a really scary time.

to all -- Ella

huni you will be fine and so will bean Princess x but I know you won't rest easy till the next scan. Easier said than done but you need to relax and look after yourself bean princess is happy where she is and won't be going anywhere for the next 8 months xx

Ella you've had all the worries you are going to have now. I know you are going to have a really peaceful healthy pregnancy and I can't wait to hear about how big your bump is getting.

 

[Lisa1]

I'll hopefully get in to the doctors on Friday and get the confirmation and just have a chat so I know what to expect

There is a private clinic very close to where I live and all of my friends have been there for early pregnancy scans. I've been in touch with them and they have said I can go in and see them whenever. I'm going to make an appointment for 12th March when DH is home. Feels like ages away but hopefully the time will go by and this teany tiny one will be still snuggling in at that time.

This is so scary.

You are so right Ella, I'm going to concentrate on the rest of our lovely group and make sure we get more and more 's

and PMA essential

xx

Yeah me next please OMG I am soooo bored in the 1ww I HATE IT!!!!!

LOL I become the TTC obsessive lunatic! where is the rest of the girls? I need to sympton spot although apart from some trapped wind which i am PMA into implantation I got nada

 

[Leilani]

I'm here :wave:

Well it's CD8, so will start the EOD BDing tomorrow - we had a recreational rump last night - well that's what DH thought, it was really an exercise in clearing out the old boys and making way for the new guys!

I'm now in 2 minds about trying this month - as if I get a BFP, I'll miss out on 7 weeks paid holiday, whereas if I get a BFP the following month, the timing will be right for me to take my leave from the beginning of the school year. We're going to go for it, as because the timing is bad, it's bound to happen!!

 

[EllaMom2B]

I'm here :wave:

Well it's CD8, so will start the EOD BDing tomorrow - we had a recreational rump last night - well that's what DH thought, it was really an exercise in clearing out the old boys and making way for the new guys!

I'm now in 2 minds about trying this month - as if I get a BFP, I'll miss out on 7 weeks paid holiday, whereas if I get a BFP the following month, the timing will be right for me to take my leave from the beginning of the school year. We're going to go for it, as because the timing is bad, it's bound to happen!!

It's NEVER a bad time for a !!! Go get that egg, Leilani!

 

[Lisa1]

I'm here :wave:

Well it's CD8, so will start the EOD BDing tomorrow - we had a recreational rump last night - well that's what DH thought, it was really an exercise in clearing out the old boys and making way for the new guys!

I'm now in 2 minds about trying this month - as if I get a BFP, I'll miss out on 7 weeks paid holiday, whereas if I get a BFP the following month, the timing will be right for me to take my leave from the beginning of the school year. We're going to go for it, as because the timing is bad, it's bound to happen!!

lol your so getting caught this month! Fx huni

 

[Tigger_lass]

Hey all

I understand your worries Sam. My SIL is now 11-12 weeks and hasnt had her first scan and is unlikely to get it for another 3 weeks. Her midwife is a total nightmare and she is not getting anywhere fast. She needs to have her bloods done, then a scan before she can see a consultant and she has been on the phone to the hospital - they've said it could be 3 weeks before they get to her as they have a backlog! She is looking into a private scan but it's scandalous that she has to.

As for me, i'm keeping up with the BD but no idea if i've O'd or whether i should even be trying this month. I guess it will just be a waiting game until AF shows. I hope the medication for the labyrinthitis isn't bad for TTC - i've googled it and all it states is there is insufficient evidence.

On a lighter note - i ordered my wedding dress last week!!!!!!!!!!!!

Txxx

 

[Deb111]

I'm just getting a little anxious because my DH goes away on Tuesday for 2weeks and I am in charge of the office etc so going out for an appointment will be virtually impossible. Oh well I need to keep calm and relax.

Hope you are all ok and sorry I had to let of some steam.
xx

Hope you don't mind me asking, but what business are you in? The reason I ask is I was just wondering how you manage to find time for each other with running a business?

DH and I both have full time jobs, I do extra tuition 3 afternoons a week when I get home from work and also own 5 properties that we rent out as houseshares room by room (or should I say, I own one of them from before I moved in with dh and he owns 4 which I 'inherited' when we got married ). They are the bain of my life - there's always something that needs fixing or dealing with! Like last night ... we were supposed to be ing, but there was a problem with one of the tenants leaving the bath running, causing a leak and blowing all the smoke alarms ... so off he trots to fix it (which I know was important) but I feel 'WE'RE' pretty important too.

So once he gets back, it's late, we haven't eaten and he's tired, so no for me. I'm fed up of 'us' being bottom of the list and the thing that gets 'left for another day'

Sorry to moan guys, just needed to vent and wondered how you, or others manage to find time for each other in this hectic world?!

 

[Deb111]

On a lighter note - i ordered my wedding dress last week!!!!!!!!!!!!

Txxx

How exciting! I bet you look fab!

 

[Deb111]

Marie, Sam, Ella - hope you are all looking after yourselves and letting your dh's run around after you and spoil you!

Hope everyone else is doing ok and keeping positive - we're due some more BFP's soon if I'm not mistaken!! - so who's going to be next?

Deb xx

 

[barbarap]

Hi there,
I'm never ill so I don't even have a GP. My husband's work private insurance starts covering my pregnancy from May so if I get preggers before that I may go private, pay for the first visit and the rest will be covered under the insurance.
I've never even had a blood test in my life and I'm terrified of needles, usually faint at the thought of blood. I was lying in bed awake last night worrying about tests, what if I have to have an amnio... but now i feel strong and positive.
Does everyone feel you're more worried and all problems are magnified during the night?
Off to Austria on Saturday, have to buy the ovulation test before I go, think I'll ovulate next Thu/Fri.
I told my husband last night that we'll have to do it every other day and he said 'without c**doms I'll be happy to' (sorry to be so specific..), we'll see if he still feels like that after months of trying...!!
B.

 

[Deb111]

So it's taken me 3 weeks to manage to get through to the fertility clinic at the hospital where we're having tests! They just never answer the phone or I'm told the line's busy.

I needed to speak to them because when I went for appt, they tried to do swab for chlamydia, but couldn't (and didn't persevere) as I have awful trouble with smear tests etc, so just told me to get it done by nurse at GP's.

When I went to speak to GP nurse, she said you only need a urine sample for chlamydia test so I thought I ought to clarify with hospital and also see if that's all they were testing for before I got it done.

So I was put though to someone who was new and said she didn't know much and kept having to go and find out the answers to my questions.

Eventually a nurse at the fertility clinic came and and said "right I'm going to wrap this call up - you have to come in for a swab" so I told her about the problems and that I was told I could have it done at GP's. She said I could and left it at that. So I had to ask her to clarify what it was they wanted testing, as I had just been told chlamydia and she said it has to be a high vaginal swab and test for chlamydia, thrush and bacteria!

I know I'm probably just emotional, but her attitude stunk and I feel like I'm only being given half the information! I had to drag that out of her and if I hadn't, I'd have had swabs done and then had to have more to test for the other things she mentioned!

Now I realise I forgot to ask if it has to be done at a certain point during cycle and don't want to phone back and doubt I'd get through to them anyway!

So now I'm going to have to book appt with GP to get something to relax me before I book appt with nurse for swabs

Why can't I just get pregnant without all this interference?!?!

Sorry for the rant girls!

 

[Beanhopes]

So it's taken me 3 weeks to manage to get through to the fertility clinic at the hospital where we're having tests! They just never answer the phone or I'm told the line's busy.

I needed to speak to them because when I went for appt, they tried to do swab for chlamydia, but couldn't (and didn't persevere) as I have awful trouble with smear tests etc, so just told me to get it done by nurse at GP's.

When I went to speak to GP nurse, she said you only need a urine sample for chlamydia test so I thought I ought to clarify with hospital and also see if that's all they were testing for before I got it done.

So I was put though to someone who was new and said she didn't know much and kept having to go and find out the answers to my questions.

Eventually a nurse at the fertility clinic came and and said "right I'm going to wrap this call up - you have to come in for a swab" so I told her about the problems and that I was told I could have it done at GP's. She said I could and left it at that. So I had to ask her to clarify what it was they wanted testing, as I had just been told chlamydia and she said it has to be a high vaginal swab and test for chlamydia, thrush and bacteria!

I know I'm probably just emotional, but her attitude stunk and I feel like I'm only being given half the information! I had to drag that out of her and if I hadn't, I'd have had swabs done and then had to have more to test for the other things she mentioned!

Now I realise I forgot to ask if it has to be done at a certain point during cycle and don't want to phone back and doubt I'd get through to them anyway!

So now I'm going to have to book appt with GP to get something to relax me before I book appt with nurse for swabs

Why can't I just get pregnant without all this interference?!?!

Sorry for the rant girls!

Oh Deb

That is just awful. Why do these people make you feel like you are completely wasting their time! They are there to provide a service and I appreciate that they are over stretched and must get asked a million questions everyday but that is not your fault.

Make an appointment to see your docs and take it from there. With a bit of luck and all this distraction you'll have a anyway so you can ignore the lot of them. xxx

 

[Beanhopes]

Hi there,
I'm never ill so I don't even have a GP. My husband's work private insurance starts covering my pregnancy from May so if I get preggers before that I may go private, pay for the first visit and the rest will be covered under the insurance.
I've never even had a blood test in my life and I'm terrified of needles, usually faint at the thought of blood. I was lying in bed awake last night worrying about tests, what if I have to have an amnio... but now i feel strong and positive.
Does everyone feel you're more worried and all problems are magnified during the night?
Off to Austria on Saturday, have to buy the ovulation test before I go, think I'll ovulate next Thu/Fri.
I told my husband last night that we'll have to do it every other day and he said 'without c**doms I'll be happy to' (sorry to be so specific..), we'll see if he still feels like that after months of trying...!!
B.

Hey Honey

I felt really anxious last night I think being at work during the day I don't get time to think about things too much but once I'm home I can't stop.

I even watched a programme that's on in the UK at the moment called "One Born Every Minute". It's live footage from a maternity ward. Why, why did I watch it don't think I should watch it again.

I'm so scared and anxious wondering if everything is ok and the days are dragging. I used to think the 2ww was painful but this is so much worse. Oh and I've had a bit of watery pale pink cm again this morning. Nothing much but every little twinge or niggle and I'm in a panic.

I'm praying everything will be ok and in a October I'll get a chance to panic about the birth!

Have a good trip Austria and get busy making that baby. xx

 

[EllaMom2B]

Hi everyone!

Sam, of course I know exactly how you feel. I'm 7 weeks today, and have spent that time in a total panic (with a week of despair thrown in). Just try to take deep breaths, and realize there's absolutely nothing you can do. Your body is in charge now, and it will manage. Don't worry one second about super-light pink or brown spotting. Could be implantation, my dr said, or even a partial period. That is, when the baby is so small, it takes up very little room in your uterus, and the other areas might still bleed some. Of course call your dr right away with any concerns, but try not to freak yourself out. Easier said than done, I know! Going to the loo is a terribly frightening experience now! I had a fair bit of cramping during weeks 4 and 5 as well: things are stretching to accomodate your little one. Cramps more severe than AF or cramps plus bleeding warrant a call to your dr. Don't know if you're still hitting the gym hard, but exercise makes me bleed more -- so none for me. I'm actually on "pelvic rest," which also means no sex. If you do indulge, that can cause cramps too. Sorry to go on and on... it's just that I've been freaking out 24/7 and haven't had anyone to talk to about it! (Such anxieties are not productively shared with OH.) One last bit of advice? Don't Google!!!!

Deb, that sucks about the fertility clinic! At least it sounds like you have it sorted our now. And I know exactly what you mean about coming last. We missed 2 months and the timing was off a couple times because OH was busy or tired or sick. I couldn't count on his being agreeable at the right time, and that made stressful around OV. I guess you can reassure yourself that it really does only take once!

Barbara, I'm sorry for your anxieties! Finding a dr whom you like might help? At my first OB appointment next Tuesday, they will drawn 9 vials of blood. But the lab tech is so practiced that you don't even feel the needle. And who knows? You might not have amnio -- there are all sorts of other tests now, I think. But you'll see that Sam and I are already stress balls, so again, I sympathize!

Only a little bit of pink yesterday -- no more brown blood or clots (tmi, sorry), so I'm feeling hopeful. OH gave me a hard time about not exercising and looking chunky yesterday. Obviously I want to be a yummy mummy (I'm a US size 4) but the dr just sort of brushed me off when I asked about exercise, like "it's a miracle you're still pregnant, and you want to hit the gym?" So I'm too scared. I might look for a prenatal yoga class... something super mellow.

Even after having had a totally normal scan last week, the fears don't go away. You just think, well, maybe something happened? Maybe it's all over, and I don't even know it? And since I don't have any symptoms, there's no way to take comfort.

Thanks for letting me prattle on...

Tracey, we want pictures of the dress!!!!

Hugs,
Ella

 

[barbarap]

Ella - You sound like a total pro! I'm glad you and Sam are ahead in the game and will be able to give advice to us newbies... Have you girls have any cravings yet or any smells you cannot stand?
Deb111 - I personally think that doctors, nurses... every day they encounter people with problems, tests... they become used to it and they forget that for us this is new and our problems are terribly important to us. They should realize the anxiety they can cause us and which could be prevented with a bit of empathy. Don't hold back asking a thousand questions when you're face to face though.

 

[Beanhopes]

Hi everyone!

Sam, of course I know exactly how you feel. I'm 7 weeks today, and have spent that time in a total panic (with a week of despair thrown in). Just try to take deep breaths, and realize there's absolutely nothing you can do. Your body is in charge now, and it will manage. Don't worry one second about super-light pink or brown spotting. Could be implantation, my dr said, or even a partial period. That is, when the baby is so small, it takes up very little room in your uterus, and the other areas might still bleed some. Of course call your dr right away with any concerns, but try not to freak yourself out. Easier said than done, I know! Going to the loo is a terribly frightening experience now! I had a fair bit of cramping during weeks 4 and 5 as well: things are stretching to accomodate your little one. Cramps more severe than AF or cramps plus bleeding warrant a call to your dr. Don't know if you're still hitting the gym hard, but exercise makes me bleed more -- so none for me. I'm actually on "pelvic rest," which also means no sex. If you do indulge, that can cause cramps too. Sorry to go on and on... it's just that I've been freaking out 24/7 and haven't had anyone to talk to about it! (Such anxieties are not productively shared with OH.) One last bit of advice? Don't Google!!!!

Deb, that sucks about the fertility clinic! At least it sounds like you have it sorted our now. And I know exactly what you mean about coming last. We missed 2 months and the timing was off a couple times because OH was busy or tired or sick. I couldn't count on his being agreeable at the right time, and that made stressful around OV. I guess you can reassure yourself that it really does only take once!

Barbara, I'm sorry for your anxieties! Finding a dr whom you like might help? At my first OB appointment next Tuesday, they will drawn 9 vials of blood. But the lab tech is so practiced that you don't even feel the needle. And who knows? You might not have amnio -- there are all sorts of other tests now, I think. But you'll see that Sam and I are already stress balls, so again, I sympathize!

Only a little bit of pink yesterday -- no more brown blood or clots (tmi, sorry), so I'm feeling hopeful. OH gave me a hard time about not exercising and looking chunky yesterday. Obviously I want to be a yummy mummy (I'm a US size 4) but the dr just sort of brushed me off when I asked about exercise, like "it's a miracle you're still pregnant, and you want to hit the gym?" So I'm too scared. I might look for a prenatal yoga class... something super mellow.

Even after having had a totally normal scan last week, the fears don't go away. You just think, well, maybe something happened? Maybe it's all over, and I don't even know it? And since I don't have any symptoms, there's no way to take comfort.

Thanks for letting me prattle on...

Tracey, we want pictures of the dress!!!!

Hugs,
Ella

Hi Ella

Thanks for the advice I don't know what I'd do without all of you.
I have to agree with your doctor about the exercise. It really isn't as important as your baby's health right now. If there was a smiley face with a wagging finger I'd be using it!

You can go for long walks and swimming is supposed to be ok. I've heard that exercise for the first 12wks isn't as important as rest and relaxation. That's the rule I'm sticking to. I will start pilates/yoga again after 12wks.

I think a US size 4 is a UK size 8. I think your OH needs to realise that it's not "chunky" it's pregnant and you are going to need to get a whole lot bigger to make room for his baby.

Sorry if I sound a little bossy

Sam xx

Tracey we definately need details of your wedding dress. How exciting!!

 

[EllaMom2B]

Thanks, Sam! I like bossy...

Part of the anxiety is my own, I suppose. I have a tendency to be heavy, and work hard to be slim (not that a 4/8 is so slim, but slimmer than I used to be). My hard-core pilates class just doesn't seem appropriate at the moment. I think I'll follow your example and look to exercise beginning with the 12th week. Swimming and yoga, I think.

Can you tell I'm obsessing today? On B&B whilst at work? Not good! So I definitely know how freaked out you're feeling... I'm sitting here worrying that I don't have symptoms (though no spotting [yet] today... thank goodness!), wondering if everything's okay, and wishing I could just wake up at 12 weeks tomorrow having had a beautiful perfect scan of a beautiful perfect baby girl!

Are you around Marie?

How's it going, Leilani? Catch that egg!

Have you had enough of the wait, Lisa? When will you test?

You lot are lovely!

-- Ella

 

[marie73]

Hi all just been reading your posts. I'm feeling OK, I think! Difficult as I'm not sure how I'm supposed to feel! Work been busy and I'm trying not to get stressed. Had some crampy discomfort with my bowels a bit disturbed too (sorry if tmi but I'm a nurse so it's normal to talk bowels!). No bleeding but increased clear discharge which is also tmi but normal apparently! Feel a bit bloated - couldn't fasten my trousers today but only occasional waves of nausea which pass quickly. But biggest change is I'm weeing loads more than normal. Not painful but just noticeable. We're going to cautiously tell my parents this evening simply because they're close and my mom especially will sniff out if something's different! They're being sworn to secrecy. Anyone else told other people than oh? Love and lots of luck to all!