TTC #1 at 35+

[spacegirl]

Hi spacegirl, I have only been trying two cycles since coming off pill, waiting for my 2nd af right now. I didn't start temp charting yet, but might next cycle if I am not preg now.

I am confused because I thought I had ov 19 days ago, but got bfn 15dpo. Sometimes people come off pill and have wacky cycles for a bit, so maybe I wasn't ov when I thought. If af doesn't come by wed I will test again, then wait, then test, then go to docs to ask 'where the heck has my period gone!'

I am having really crazy not very nice vivid dreams for quite a few days now, I remember everything when I wake up. Supposed to go for valentine's drinks later, maybe I should do a test now to see if I can have a drink later....

Hey stupid question but what is PMA? Have a lovely valentine brekkie, where are you in your cycle? How long have you been trying? In my book it says if your temp is up 18days in a row past ov, you are almost certainly preg! This is why I will def do temp charting next cycle! I think as long as the cm is there when it matters, its ok for it not to be pouring out of you all day long heehee

Did you mean you have two sibs trying? I felt kind of bad when my sister was preg with her 1st and I had to wait another 3 years to even try! I love my little neice an nephew to bits of course, and its makes it better that I can try now for a bean of my own.

Have a lovely day. We are bean aunties in any case to Ella and Sam's, it gives us all hope that it will happen!

The most important thing is to try and chill out, or when you miss your af, and get a bfn, you will be totally like me!



Take care sweetie xxx

Maria xxx

Hey Mazcal,

I know you said you might not come back but I really hope you do as people like me need you here!!! We've been trying since Jan but when I say trying it's only been a couple of times a week sometimes at what should be at right time and sometimes not so haven't tried very hard. So this past month have been charting BBT. I have to say that is stressing me out a little because the temps rose to 36.5 for 2 days then went back down for a day then back up for 2 days So I don't really know if I have ovulated or not!? I guess it's just a guide and it has gone back up again (trying hard to stay positive!). PMA is positive mental attitude which I'm finding v dificult to maintain!!!

I'm now CD20 or 21 and due on CD25/26/27/28 h aha! already I can feel the symptoms of AF coming so I'm gutted. Even now I'm still thinking but maybe i'm wrong. Not sure I can cope with this for months and years! I think it will drive me nuts. The pain of it all, the dissapointment and then the fear that it will never happen! But I then focus on next month...

I really do hope yo u come back.

Beanhopes, Ella hope it's all going well! Any tips for us??

 

[Lisa1]

hello mummys and TTC'rs how is Leliani, Lou Lou and spacegirl? due to land here on Monday booo boooo stay away

How is everyone getting on?

 

[zero7]

hello mummys and TTC'rs how is Leliani, Lou Lou and spacegirl? due to land here on Monday booo boooo stay away

How is everyone getting on?

I'm ok(ish) thanks Lisa. CD18 for me but as usual around about this time of the month (anywhere between 18 and 21) I get mild cramps and twinges like needle sting. I always try and stay optimistic and tell myself it could be implantation but it never is . So looks like I'm out again chicks.

Got an appointment at the end of march with FS so I am going to push for an HSG and hubby has said he would deffo supply a sample of spermies if needed for analysis.

Hope eveyone else is good. Sorry not got much PMA for me at the mo but sending positive vibes to you girls and keeping my fingers crossed that there are some more BFP's this month.

Lou Lou xxx

 

[Lisa1]

hello mummys and TTC'rs how is Leliani, Lou Lou and spacegirl? due to land here on Monday booo boooo stay away

How is everyone getting on?

I'm ok(ish) thanks Lisa. CD18 for me but as usual around about this time of the month (anywhere between 18 and 21) I get mild cramps and twinges like needle sting. I always try and stay optimistic and tell myself it could be implantation but it never is . So looks like I'm out again chicks.

Got an appointment at the end of march with FS so I am going to push for an HSG and hubby has said he would deffo supply a sample of spermies if needed for analysis.

Hope eveyone else is good. Sorry not got much PMA for me at the mo but sending positive vibes to you girls and keeping my fingers crossed that there are some more BFP's this month.

Lou Lou xxx

Aww huni sending you PMA by DHL immediately!! That is exciting about FS in March

Hoping it is implantation Lou Lou

 

[spacegirl]

hello mummys and TTC'rs how is Leliani, Lou Lou and spacegirl? due to land here on Monday booo boooo stay away

How is everyone getting on?

Hey Lisa!

Mine due Sunday/Monday I'm CD21 and I'm getting the feeling on the way. Feeling crappy, stings and twinges inside and thirst (for some odd reason wk before I get vv thirsty). So peeved that yet again it hasn't happened.

Onwards and upwards literally ha ha

cxxx

 

[Beanhopes]

Morning lovely ladies

How is everyone feeling?

Lisa I'm loving that PMA. Come on stork deliver some more little ones. We need to have some more 's.

I'm having some bad cramps and still spotting brown watery cm. The spotting seems to be worse first thing in the morning and it doesn't matter how many websites I read that say it's normal and it's down to your uterus stretching etc, it fills me with dread that something is going wrong. I just wish I could relax and forget about it but it's impossible.

 

[Tigger_lass]

Morning lovely ladies

How is everyone feeling?

Lisa I'm loving that PMA. Come on stork deliver some more little ones. We need to have some more 's.

I'm having some bad cramps and still spotting brown watery cm. The spotting seems to be worse first thing in the morning and it doesn't matter how many websites I read that say it's normal and it's down to your uterus stretching etc, it fills me with dread that something is going wrong. I just wish I could relax and forget about it but it's impossible.

Sam, you will drive yourself mad...PMA - your lovely little bean is snuggling in and getting comfy for the next 8 months.

Txxx

 

[barbarap]

Morning lovely ladies

How is everyone feeling?

Lisa I'm loving that PMA. Come on stork deliver some more little ones. We need to have some more 's.

I'm having some bad cramps and still spotting brown watery cm. The spotting seems to be worse first thing in the morning and it doesn't matter how many websites I read that say it's normal and it's down to your uterus stretching etc, it fills me with dread that something is going wrong. I just wish I could relax and forget about it but it's impossible.

Sam,
I'm sure you've read it 100 times by now but just wanted to say that all websites say that unless the blood is brigh red and/or comes out in clots you shouldn't worry.
Still, I understand you worrying about it. Why don't you go for a private scan just to put your mind at rest? are they very expensive?
B

 

[EllaMom2B]

Morning lovely ladies

How is everyone feeling?

Lisa I'm loving that PMA. Come on stork deliver some more little ones. We need to have some more 's.

I'm having some bad cramps and still spotting brown watery cm. The spotting seems to be worse first thing in the morning and it doesn't matter how many websites I read that say it's normal and it's down to your uterus stretching etc, it fills me with dread that something is going wrong. I just wish I could relax and forget about it but it's impossible.

Hi Sam,

It's true: There's absolutely nothing to worry about. Brown watery cm = implantation bleeding. Seriously, think of it as a sign things are going very, very well!!! STOP LOOKING AT WEBSITES!!!

I wouldn't recommend a scan until at least 6+ weeks (unless your dr recommends otherwise, of course) because you'll only see an empty sac. And that will freak you out even more, trust me! At 6+ weeks you can see the yolk sac, fetal pole, and -- ususally -- a heartbeat. Now THAT'S reassuring.

Although, even having seen a heartbeat last week, I'm still freaking out because I don't have any symptoms. None. At. All. So I'm full of fear and dread and anxiety and all that. I think the 1st trimester is just like that, and you have to learn to set the worries aside as much as possible. There's nothing to do about any of it, other than take good care of yourself.

We'll get through it!

Hugs,
Ella

One more word of caution, if you do that too can cause bleeding.

 

[Beanhopes]

Thanks I know I'm being neurotic. I'm also a bit of a control freak so not knowing what is going on is something I'm going to have to adjust to slowly.

I will get confirmation from the doctors tomorrow about the pregnancy test and I'll be 5wks on Sat. Marie & Ella have you had your HCG levels checked? I think that would put my mind at rest a bit if I just knew that my levels were rising at a good rate.

I am going to have a private scan at 8weeks when my DH gets home from his business trip on 12th March. That is just such a long time away. If I'm still concerned I might go by myself after the 6 week mark as I appreciate the empty sac thing and it must be amazing to see a heartbeat. £70 for an early pregnancy scan.

My only real symptom is my bbs. The one in particular is going to have it's own postcode if it keeps growing at the same rate. They look completely rediculous first thing in the morning and seem to calm down during the daytime. I had implants 2yrs ago so I'm expecting crazy things to happen in the bb department! I'm bloated and my tummy is quite tender if I wear anything around my waist. I also get crazy hungry to the point of my blood sugar dropping and I'm getting shakes if I don't eat regularly.

is the last thing I want right now. DH is going away so he doesn't have to feel too rejected.

Much love and PMA for ovulation, conception, implantation. xx

 

[EllaMom2B]

Thanks I know I'm being neurotic. I'm also a bit of a control freak so not knowing what is going on is something I'm going to have to adjust to slowly.

I will get confirmation from the doctors tomorrow about the pregnancy test and I'll be 5wks on Sat. Marie & Ella have you had your HCG levels checked? I think that would put my mind at rest a bit if I just knew that my levels were rising at a good rate.

I am going to have a private scan at 8weeks when my DH gets home from his business trip on 12th March. That is just such a long time away. If I'm still concerned I might go by myself after the 6 week mark as I appreciate the empty sac thing and it must be amazing to see a heartbeat. £70 for an early pregnancy scan.

My only real symptom is my bbs. The one in particular is going to have it's own postcode if it keeps growing at the same rate. They look completely rediculous first thing in the morning and seem to calm down during the daytime. I had implants 2yrs ago so I'm expecting crazy things to happen in the bb department! I'm bloated and my tummy is quite tender if I wear anything around my waist. I also get crazy hungry to the point of my blood sugar dropping and I'm getting shakes if I don't eat regularly.

is the last thing I want right now. DH is going away so he doesn't have to feel too rejected.

Much love and PMA for ovulation, conception, implantation. xx

Still spotting (pink cm) which SUCKS!!!!!!!

And yes, I had my betaHCG checked, and it wasn't rising normally (only 17% instead of 50%). Very bad. That's why the dr. was sure it was a blighted ovum, which then the ultrasound showed it's not. (I've seen the heartbeat.) Still, I'm terrified, totally terrified, and have ignored my own advice and read an article in a medical journal that suggests slow-rising HCG even when a heartbeat appears is "an ominous sign."

I don't think I'd survive losing this baby... Why oh why can't I at least have some symptoms? Or stop spotting? What have I done to deserve this?

Feeling incredibly anxious and very low Sorry I'm no help to anyone at the moment.

Wishing better for all of you,

Ella

 

[Tigger_lass]

Still spotting (pink cm) which SUCKS!!!!!!!

And yes, I had my betaHCG checked, and it wasn't rising normally (only 17% instead of 50%). Very bad. That's why the dr. was sure it was a blighted ovum, which then the ultrasound showed it's not. (I've seen the heartbeat.) Still, I'm terrified, totally terrified, and have ignored my own advice and read an article in a medical journal that suggests slow-rising HCG even when a heartbeat appears is "an ominous sign."

I don't think I'd survive losing this baby... Why oh why can't I at least have some symptoms? Or stop spotting? What have I done to deserve this?

Feeling incredibly anxious and very low Sorry I'm no help to anyone at the moment.

Wishing better for all of you,

Ella

Hi Ella - please stop looking on the net!!!!!

For every article you find that says something bad, i will find another that says something good!!! That's the thing about the internet.

Below is a quote from a website for an IVF company in Chicago -

"...Some normal pregnancies will have quite low levels of HCG - and deliver perfect babies. Caution must be used in making too much of HCG "numbers". Ultrasound findings after 5-6 weeks of pregnancy are much more predictive of pregnancy outcome than are HCG levels..."

Love and PMA

Txxx

 

[marie73]

Hi all. Ella - so sorry you're feeling like you do. I really think the internet can be dangerous - it's great for this in terms of support but you can read a lot of not very accurate and conflicting information. A lot of medical studies are not particularly robust so you need to take it all with a pinch of salt. I'm a nurse so I do know. Sam - I can sympathise with the constant worrying - I keep checking constantly that I am not bleeding. Plus the weather's awful here and I've skidded and slid for a mammoth 2 hour journey home. That was made worse by me getting panicked about not getting too stressed. Gosh I wonder when you start to relax. I can't even have a glass of wine to chill with! No symptoms today - cramps seem to have lessened, about 1 short-lived wave of nausea but have felt that I'm hungry as in rumbling tum but not really wanting to eat. Sorry for long post - on my mobile. Lots of love and hugs to all.

 

[Beanhopes]

Ella I know the bad stuff is easier to believe sometimes. Please think positive and I promise I will too. Repeat after me, I am going to have my baby girl, I am going to have my baby girl.

Marie I know all about that journey home as I'm in the West Midlands too!! Blinking snow - I even cried at one point which is pathetic I know. I parked my car on my drive and went in the house. I was about to have a shower and looked out to see my car had slid off the drive! I ran out in my dressing gown and uggs - I hope the neighbours were all busy having their tea.

We will all be ok and so will all the amazing ladies on this thread. How can ladies this amazing not be mummies. Criminal.

xxx

 

[marie73]

Sam just hope it's not so bad in the morning. Think we may need to car share for safety in numbers! What's all that with sliding cars - my car slid about a foot towards the house with the handbrake on! Weird! I'm convinced we'll all be mummies come October! Just got to keep up that PMA! Stay safe everyone! Xx

 

[Leilani]

Hi ladies - I've been a bit MIA this last week. Last weekend I was in a sailing regatta, and it was postponed on Saturday, which meant 4 races not 2 on Sunday, and it was totally full on - probably more wind than we'd usually sail in, but it was a competition, so we went for it. Anyways to cut a long story short, I pretty much lost the useful use of my right arm this week - I thought it was just a sprain, but it wasn't getting any better. I tried to make an appointment with the physio at my gym, but he never called back. It's been afffecting my sleep, as the fingers keep going numb and the pins and needles wake me up. However, today it feels almost back to normal, but still hurts when holding things at certain angles - and squeezing the toothpaste tube!

Anyway we'd started our BDathon for the month, even though my monitor still says Low (as last month it went from Low to Peak - no warning), hoping to BD Sat morning and Sun night. Other than that I don't have any plans for the weekend.

I've sent a big parcel of PMA and Babydust Express Delivery to the Northern Hemisphere - so it should arrive on everyones doorsteps tomorrow morning!

Lisa & Spacegirl - are you going to test early, or are you going to wait it out?

Ella, Sam & Marie - hope you all have restfull weekends, and keep away from the internet (except B&B).

Tracey - that is so exciting about your dress - pictures please - and details of your wedding wouldn't go amiss - will there be kilts?

Maria - I hope you are still stopping by - don't be down heartened. It's shitty when the witch shows and when it seems like everyone else is getting their BFPs, but as others have said - you are getting closer to your BFP day!

Deb - have you though about using a property agent? We use one for my property, he charges 9% of the rent - and he's worth his weight in gold - he deals with everything, the only thing I ever do is the gardenning between tennancies and I have a man mow the lawns once a week. I don't think I'd be able to have a rental property without him. Sorry you didn't have a great experience with the nurses at the FS.

Lou Lou - glad you got your appointment - let's hope you don't need it. I'm still waiting for our FS appointment to come through - I might ring my GP next week to see when she actually sent her referral off.

Barbara - have a great trip to Austria - just remember plenty of BDing is in order. Are you going skiing?

Hope I haven't forgotten anyone.

 

[Beanhopes]

Good morning.
Just stopping by to wish you all a very happy Friday.
I am just brimming over with positivity today, it's really quite annoying. I don't have cramps and I hardly had any spotting it was more of a sticky cm (sorry tmi!)
I bought the most beautiful warm croissants from the bakery on the way into the office for all the girls. Yum.
I hope you are gearing up for your marathon and PMA all the way please.
Who is getting a next??
Big hugs

 

[EllaMom2B]

Lisa and Spacegirl are at the end of the month, right? And?

 

[EllaMom2B]

Seriously Tracey... it's all about THE DRESS. We want to see! Please? Or at least a description?

 

[Beanhopes]

Tracey please give us the details. I watched a programme last night "My Big Fat Gyspy Wedding". There were some amazing creations on there and my imagination is running wild!

S xx