TTC #1 at 35+

[lola13]

Congrats!!!!!!!! That's amazing that it happened the month you tried to relax about TTC. Happy & healthy thoughts all around you

Any other tips you would share with the rest of us? How were your TWW symptoms different from normal pre-AF? If you don't mind sharing, how long were you TTC?

 

[EllaMom2B]

Hi Girlies


My AF has arrived and as disapointing as not being preggers is the more ecited I am about actually knowing that I ovulated later and noticing the EWCM.

I am happy that I am now reading my body better which will help me concieve, just shows you not to rely on the +OPK it could be misleading

late ovulation is due to me and OH buying a house and the mortgage is driving me to distraction aww well at least I know what happened and it wasn't an annovulatory month.

better change my ticker xxx

It will happen!

 

[EllaMom2B]

Well girls, I have been building up to this for a couple of days and wondering when the best time was to post this, and I really hope you don't mind me posting it here because I really wanted to share it with you lovely girls first.... I got my on Sunday

I am still in shock and terrified! I'm just praying that it will be a sticky bean!

xxx

CONGRATS!

Sending every good thought for the stickiest of sticky beans!



-- Ella

 

[spacegirl]

Well girls, I have been building up to this for a couple of days and wondering when the best time was to post this, and I really hope you don't mind me posting it here because I really wanted to share it with you lovely girls first.... I got my on Sunday

I am still in shock and terrified! I'm just praying that it will be a sticky bean!

xxx

Ohhh Hope4BFP that is such wonderful news!!! I'm so happy for you! How do you feel???!

Congratulations !!!!!

 

[Tigger_lass]

Well girls, I have been building up to this for a couple of days and wondering when the best time was to post this, and I really hope you don't mind me posting it here because I really wanted to share it with you lovely girls first.... I got my on Sunday

I am still in shock and terrified! I'm just praying that it will be a sticky bean!

xxx

YAY!!! Congrats Hope xxxxxx

I am soooooo pleased for you...stick little bean - your mummy has been waiting a long time for you!

Luv and

Txxx

 

[Tigger_lass]

As for me....AF turned up yesterday right on time for a 32 day cycle.

BTW....who the hell ordered snow for Summer?? Took me 3 hrs to get home last night due to the snow, finally got in at 1am to find that we had no electricity! Phoned ScottishPower to report it (OH hadn't even phoned it in duh!). Engineer turned up at 8am this morning and said a line had snapped and it only went on again at 6.20pm. Bloody cold and very long day lol.

Txxx

 

[Lisa1]

Well girls, I have been building up to this for a couple of days and wondering when the best time was to post this, and I really hope you don't mind me posting it here because I really wanted to share it with you lovely girls first.... I got my on Sunday

I am still in shock and terrified! I'm just praying that it will be a sticky bean!

xxx

No honey we need to hear about the cause it gives us hope that are little bean is just around the corner

Congrats honey and have a h&h 9 months xxx

 

[Deb111]

Hope4BFP - CONGRATS hun!

We've also tried the whole 'relaxing' about it and backing off keeping track of cycles etc - so far no good, but I'm hoping some of your luck will rub off on us

H&H 9 months to you xx

 

[Hope4BFP]

Congrats!!!!!!!! That's amazing that it happened the month you tried to relax about TTC. Happy & healthy thoughts all around you

Any other tips you would share with the rest of us? How were your TWW symptoms different from normal pre-AF? If you don't mind sharing, how long were you TTC?

Thank you! We started trying August last year. I will post all the details shortly...

Are you going to test hun?

 

[Hope4BFP]

As for me....AF turned up yesterday right on time for a 32 day cycle.

BTW....who the hell ordered snow for Summer?? Took me 3 hrs to get home last night due to the snow, finally got in at 1am to find that we had no electricity! Phoned ScottishPower to report it (OH hadn't even phoned it in duh!). Engineer turned up at 8am this morning and said a line had snapped and it only went on again at 6.20pm. Bloody cold and very long day lol.

Txxx

Sorry that the got you hun Sounds like your blood results came out really great though despite the awful mix up at the docs - what a nightmare! I hope you gave them what for!

 

[LittleAurora]

hi all!!!

First...good luck to all ttc and congrats to the grads!!

I wanted to ask a question and i hope it doesn't offend Because thats not my intention

I wanted to know why you waited until after 30 to TTC. Knowing that its harder and there are more risks to mother and child.

I wanted my kids young so I was still 'young' when they grew up. I'm pregnant with number 3 and my last at 26.

 

[Lisa1]

hi all!!!

First...good luck to all ttc and congrats to the grads!!

I wanted to ask a question and i hope it doesn't offend Because thats not my intention

I wanted to know why you waited until after 30 to TTC. Knowing that its harder and there are more risks to mother and child.

I wanted my kids young so I was still 'young' when they grew up. I'm pregnant with number 3 and my last at 26.

Hi Hun

For me personally I married really young met my oh at 14 got married at 21 he was in the police and stationed away I wanted kids right away but he persuaded me to wait which I did as I was young.

Well wait I did every year and I would never have gotten pregnant without his consent because I wanted us both to want a child. Well he had issues and concerns about being a good dad and was freaked out about it. My brother had two kids who I adored and I began to resent my OH and at the age of 31 and after 10yrs of marriage and waiting for him to get his head around it I left him.

He might well have fucked up my life with his insecurites and my chance to have kids but that being said I have a very good job travel the world I now drive a porsche have a gorgeous 28yr bf I am 36 and we are getting engage next month, just bought our 4 bed house in the country with fields all around.

I didn't decide not to have kids I justed trusted someone who let me down But I am a strong girl and I will get my :BFP: it's all I have yet to achieve but trust me I would give away my job, house and car for my but in the meantime I will work hard and earn enough to spoil my lo when he/she arrives

 

[Nibbler]

Hello girls! :wave: How's everyone doing today? I am finally feeling a bit better from my cold, courtesy of antibiotics from my GP! I also got my +OPK but it lasted only 1 day I normally get 2 or 3 days of smileys on my CB. So being sick does mess uip my cycle somehow

Hope4BFP: Huge congratulations!!!!! Hope you have very happy and healthy 9 months!! Please send us some and take us on board the train

Lisa+Tigger_lass: Sorry the wicked caught you. Hope she pack her bags quickly and you can try again. New hope for new cycle. Best of luck

Aurora: For me, TTC#1 after 30 is not a choice, but due to circumstances. I didn't meet my DH until I am in my late twenties. Different things popped up as time went by and when we are finally ready, I found myself at the age of 34. If I could have my way, of course I would prefer to start young... Anyhow, I hope it's not too late for me yet, and congratulations to your having #3!

 

[Tigger_lass]

"...I have a very good job travel the world I now drive a porsche have a gorgeous 28yr bf I am 36 and we are getting engage next month..."

Emmmmm Lisa!!!!! You never said.....congratulations babes!!!!!!

 

[Tigger_lass]

hi all!!!

First...good luck to all ttc and congrats to the grads!!

I wanted to ask a question and i hope it doesn't offend Because thats not my intention

I wanted to know why you waited until after 30 to TTC. Knowing that its harder and there are more risks to mother and child.

I wanted my kids young so I was still 'young' when they grew up. I'm pregnant with number 3 and my last at 26.

Hi Aurora

I know you are not trying to offend anyone and neither am I but none of us here planned to be trying for our first in our 30's (or later)...we are all here because of personal circumstances. Not everyone is lucky enough like you to meet the right person early on and be sure about wanting children with that person. We all desperately want a baby but we waited until we found the right person to have that LO with.

We are all intelligent, grown women and its really not needed for anyone to tell us about risks etc, especially when we have 4 ladies here who are pregnant. As I said, I'm not trying to offend either but we are constantly bombarded with negativity about our age and TTC....

Ella, Sam, Marie and now Hope are proof positive that it can happen and that there is no reason on earth not to believe that we have every right in the world to a healthy and happy baby - regardless of what age we are.

Congratulations on your little one

Txxx

 

[Lisa1]

"...I have a very good job travel the world I now drive a porsche have a gorgeous 28yr bf I am 36 and we are getting engage next month..."

Emmmmm Lisa!!!!! You never said.....congratulations babes!!!!!!

thanks Hun I am so excited it's been picked for ages and ages I am soo excited! Oh is gonna surprise me with it and I think it will happen when we get the house.

I was in on sat and it's away to get sized, I can't wait xx

 

[Leilani]

"...I have a very good job travel the world I now drive a porsche have a gorgeous 28yr bf I am 36 and we are getting engage next month..."

Emmmmm Lisa!!!!! You never said.....congratulations babes!!!!!!

thanks Hun I am so excited it's been picked for ages and ages I am soo excited! Oh is gonna surprise me with it and I think it will happen when we get the house.

I was in on sat and it's away to get sized, I can't wait xx

How is it going to be a surprise? Surely every second you're with him, or doing something a little different to usual you must be thinking "will he do it now, what about now, now, in a minute, now????" It would drive me mental!!

I knew exactly when DH was going to propose, as a couple of months earlier I'd been in the UK and Europe, seeing family and going to a concert on my own, anyway when I got back I said something about if we had a future (I was trying to call his bluff - good job it didn't back-fire) and he said "It's our anniversary in a couple of months, let's see what happens). He left it right until bed time on our anniversary to say "so, shall be get engaged then?" I'd spent the whole day/evening waiting for it, I almost had a tantrum when it didn't happen at dinner - especially as I gave him an expensive pressie and I got nowt!! I digress.

Anyway, Hope4 - how bloody exciting for you - can't believe you found out on Sunday!! I think it's time for you to dish the details!

 

[Leilani]

hi all!!!

First...good luck to all ttc and congrats to the grads!!

I wanted to ask a question and i hope it doesn't offend Because thats not my intention

I wanted to know why you waited until after 30 to TTC. Knowing that its harder and there are more risks to mother and child.

I wanted my kids young so I was still 'young' when they grew up. I'm pregnant with number 3 and my last at 26.

I never planned to have kids at an early age (guess not before 30) - as a teacher I see too many children having children, even if they are no longer teenagers. The increasing number of parents who would rather be friends with their kids rather than role-models or even indeed "parents", is a growing concern to just about everyone in education. These are the same parents who turn to teachers to act "in loco parentis", as they don't want to be seen as the bad cop I just want to scream "you're the effing parent - do your job, then maybe I can get on with my job - teaching!". This is a pet peeve of mine, I could rant on forever. I'm sure not all young parents fall into this catagory, but with age comes a heck of a lot of life-experiences and wisdom. When I read some of the threads on this site, I cringe at the thought that these young-ladies are hoping to be bringing a new life into this world.

Anyway, I certainly didn't feel grown-up or responsible enough to have a child in my early 20s - I went to uni, got established as a teacher, travelled the world, experienced many, many things I never would have done had I settled down with either of my long-term BFs I had a uni/once I started work. Ideally I would have liked to have had kids by now (am 37), but once I was qualified, succesful, financially secure and ready to be more settled I didn't have a partner. When I met DH, I knew pretty much straight away he was "the one", but we wanted to make sure we were both ready for the big change in life-style before trying - which meant making sure we had our house renovated and baby-ready before we take the huge pay-cut having a baby entails - had I gotten pregnant before last year, we would never have been in the right place financially to get our house renovated, and prior to the renos I wouldn't have wanted a baby to be here (it really was dire).

As for the risks to mother and child - older ladies are much less likely to run into unexpected complications, as they are much better monitored (and aware), so risks may be higher, but not so happy outcomes are in fact lower.

 

[LittleAurora]

I definitely agree with what you said about parents being friends with their children rather than role models. And the worst is it wont stop there, those children will parent their children like that. It make me mad as well! As you said its not only young parents that are the culprits! Although I read the threads on here and just feel sorry for these young girls and their babies. I see mums at the school where my children go and my heart just goes out to them. But i have to add that there are alot of older women that should have sense and life experience and wisdom, but it fails to materialize when the child comes along.

As a younger mum, I come up against prejudice that I may have accidentally fallen pregnant or messed up my life. Lucky I don't feel the need to entertain these people, but what they don't know is that I'm educated to very high standard in several different subjects thanks to hard work and dedication it allows me to stay at home to raise my children, that I chose to have with the man of my dreams. So I, although at the other end of the age scale, come up against similar negativity.

I don't think children later in life is a bad thing. My mum had my sister and I younger and then waited 13years after that to have my brother! She was over 30 then and I see a very very different style of parenting. My sister is a university student who never wants children and my brother is in Grammer school. So as you can see we all took different life paths. Though I have to say all my relatives think I am an older head on young shoulders.

I thank you all for your honesty. And I really hope that all of you get you babies!

 

[Hope4BFP]

hi all!!!

First...good luck to all ttc and congrats to the grads!!

I wanted to ask a question and i hope it doesn't offend Because thats not my intention

I wanted to know why you waited until after 30 to TTC. Knowing that its harder and there are more risks to mother and child.

I wanted my kids young so I was still 'young' when they grew up. I'm pregnant with number 3 and my last at 26.

Hi LittleAurora, I'd like to put something to you, if you were part of a thread called ‘TTC as a teen’ and you had been TTC your first baby for for up to 2 years and I posted the following:

‘First...good luck to all ttc and congrats to the grads!!

I wanted to ask a question and i hope it doesn't offend Because thats not my intention

I wanted to know why you had decided to TTC as a teenager. Knowing that the statistics say that you are more likely to develop complications during pregnancy, you may lack the emotional maturity needed to deal with motherhood and all the sacrifices you'll have to make and that the vast majority of teenage mums end up as single parents and you are more likely than any other age group to end up unemployed and broke and therefore unable to offer financial security to your children.

I wanted my kids at a later stage in life because I would be more mature and ready to make the sacrifices required, be financially stable and therefore more likely to be able to cope with a break from work. I was also was aware of studies showing that women who wait until their 30s actually enjoy better health, live longer and end up having healthier babies. I'm pregnant with number 3 and my last at 35’.

I know I have embellished more than you did on your post but I hope that you can see that it maybe a fairly insensitive thing to post on a thread like this, with credit to the girls on here they have tried to answer your question, I won’t be doing the same except to say I didn’t ‘choose’ to be 35 and trying for my first.

If you had read the first part of this thread you would know that some of the ladies on here have been through some very harrowing circumstances to get where they are today, they have survived all that and remained positive and highly supportive of each other. Your post, for me personally, puts a real downer on this thread and if I could delete your post, I would. Your post is purely about your own curiosity and offers nothing back and as a result you have, unfortunately, offended me – not massively but enough for me to want to write this. I feel very protective of the wonderful girls on here and the thought of them having to explain themselves to someone who really does not understand the anxiety that comes with TTC at 35+ actually has really upset me.

I would like to be very clear about this, you sound like you are a good mum and doing a great job and I am positive that you will continue to, I am not suggesting anything other than that for a second. I hope my opinion doesn’t offend you either but I really did need to air my feelings on this one.

I sincerely wish you all the best with #3.