TTC#1 before turning 30!

[Morticia]

Hi girlies

This is my fourth cycle TTC#1...currently on CD5.

I turn 30 at the end of June and would *love* to conceive before then.
I have a feeling it might be more difficult than I think, though, as I'm having extremely erratic cycles since coming off bcp (after 10 years) last August. I also O very late too - last month it was CD27 - and spot up to five days before AF each month, meaning my LP is on the short side.

I thought I would get PG sooo quickly...it hasn't turned out to be as easy as that unfortunately

Be good to hear from others in the same position! Good luck, ladies! xx

 

[wanabeamama]

hi im also ttc#1 before turning 30 we have been ttc for 11 months but i was told i had endometriosis in feb and had a loperoscopy to remove most of it but af is very heavy and painfull this time and im worried that there is still alot there or it has come back
i really shouldnt give my self targets to conceive tho i think it is putting more pressure on myself it shouldnt matter if im 29 30 31 or even 35 i think the reality of it is i just want to be a mummy now i should stop thinking about my age i know i have another 10 years in reality.
have you spoken to your gp about meds to lengthen your lp??? i know there are herbal tablets called angus castus which really do work within 3 cycles but i would speak to your doc first.
fingers x for you

 

[nuffmac]

Hi Ladies,

I too am ttc 1 before I turn 30. I always said that I would have my children before I was 30. Granted when I was younger it felt like 30 was much farther away!! Thought that I would get pg straight away once we started trying - but thats not been the case. My cycles used to be every 28 days up until a year and a half ago yet they are now between 29 and 33 days . Have been charting bbt and ferning since start of year and just got some OPK's and going to try preseed and conceive plus (alternate between two!!) as well this month.

The worst part I think is how long every stupid cycle feels when your wishing for OV day and then your wishing that would last longer. I think the wait to OV day is worse than the tww at the moment although that may change once I've OV'd this month!!

Anyways, I'm off to chart every single thing my bodies done today and hope that helps!!

Babydust to you all!!

 

[carine]

Great thread! I really want to have my first before I turn 30. I turn 29 in June, so I have a little time, but it's flying by!

I always sort of assumed I'd have a child before 30, because, come on! 30 is so far away! My mom had three by the time she was my age! Ha. Yeah right. Once I decided to attend grad school, I realized we were going to have to make a conscious effort to make it happen, and now that TTC is taking so much longer than I expected...

If it doesn't happen before 30, I can at least take comfort in the fact that we will be really ready for a baby by the time we have one. I prefer that over the situation of my brother and his girlfriend, who are in their early 20s and so obviously ill-equipped to raise my nephew (who was unplanned, of course). I will admit to envying their energy, though, haha.

Anyway, I'm still feeling hopeful that we'll pull it off. Good luck to you all!

 

[babymaug]

I too turn 30 at the end of June. We have been trying for the last three months or so. I have two more days until AF comes. I am hopping its this month! I want to be before I am 30, it seems like more than ever I have never wanted anything more in my life. Any who I wish you all good luck with baby making!

 

[NovemberRayne]

Im in the same boat however I have no time left, just finished inseminations for the month, AF is expected April 28th and i have everything crossed I conceive this cycle as I turn 30 on May 6th lol

Good luck ladies, baby dust to all

 

[carine]

NovemberRayne, I hope you get a BFP for your birthday!! Fx for you

 

[Kadan82]

I turned 29 in March and we have been trying a year now. Just started all the infertility tests. I live in a small town and all my friends my age have between 2 and 3 kids and are always telling me I need to hurry up. 30 years old is considered practically ancient where I'm from. I even know a few people who were grandparents by their mid 30's! I was really hoping to have a baby by the time i turned 30 but now I just at least want to be preggo by then! TTC is hard and putting a time limit on it makes it even more
stressful...ugh!! It's nice to know there are others in the same position. Good luck and baby dust to you all !

 

[silverbell]

I've missed the boat, unfortunately, as I'm now 30. I imagine I'll be 31 before we have a little one now.

It's just the way life works out sometimes.

I'm sorry to hear about your erratic cycles. Have you considered Vitamin B Complex for lengthening your luteal phase and trying to stop that spotting? Also I think Chaste Berry (aka Vitex or Agnus Castus) is a herbal supplement that can bring ovulation on sooner. Might also be worth researching Maca.

 

[DancingDiva]

Hi, I have been trying to conceive before my 30th next Feb however im with you ladies it has turned out more difficult than i first thought. I am starting Clomid 50mg this month so hopefully that might boost things along quicker.

 

[Morticia]

Wow
It's great to meet you girls and thanks loads for the great advice It is good to know I'm not alone in really wanting to get PG before I'm 30, though I do completely agree with wanabeamama who says we shouldn't really give ourselves big targets, because it might be putting on too much pressure - after all, as she says, it shouldn't matter if we are 29, 30, 31 or even 35 - the reality of it is that regardless of age, we just want to be mummies! Thanks wanabeamama for putting it so perfectly!

DancingDiva Great news that you're starting Clomid, have heard that a lot of women get their BFPs in the first month after using it so FX'd this happens for you too!

Silverbell - I started to take Vit B6 two months ago as had heard it helps with LP, haven't noticed much of a difference yet but it could be because I'm only taking the 10mg one you can buy at the pharmacy. I have heard to really improve things you need to be taking 100mg...yet am a bit reluctant to 'self-diagnose' and start taking 10 tabs a day rather than just one! Same goes with Agnus Castus...I think I'm just a bit nervous because have read that it can actually delay O, when in fact I want it to be brought forward...think I will wait until we're TTC 6 months then talk to a herbalist or my doctor again (who hasn't been very helpful, just said 'Come back in a year if you're not pregnant!')

Kadan82 Sorry to hear that you're feeling the pressure from people you live and work with hun That must be horrible. I hate even being asked if we're TTC - it's nobody's business! I do agree though that perhaps it's not helpful to put a self-imposed time limit on things, because you do never know how long it's going to take. FX'd it works out for you and DH

Carine you have a great attitude - PMA! I agree, we are very lucky (if you think about it that way) to be at a point where we're balanced and able to bring a new life into the world. If things had happened when we were teens we might not have been able to cope - much better to bring up a child who will be so truly wanted!

NovemberRayne Good luck hun - really hope you have caught that egg!!

babymaug We're birthday twins!! Good luck to you - so true what you say about it seeming like more than ever I have never wanted anything more in my life...

nuffmac you have read my mind! a) when we were younger 30 felt SO old, didn't it - can't believe it's sneaked up like this! I still feel 21!!! b) the wait to OV day IS worse than the tww...completely! We've been having some nice BD-ing but I want it to *count*, if you know what I mean!

Good luck to us all girls that we get the birthday presents we truly want this year. xx

 

[Fritty]

yeah same here I wa hoping to have had at least one by the time I was 30 and now I am just hoping to have a BFP. It just seems like its the hardest game to win xx

 

[wanabeamama]

I turned 29 in March and we have been trying a year now. Just started all the infertility tests. I live in a small town and all my friends my age have between 2 and 3 kids and are always telling me I need to hurry up. 30 years old is considered practically ancient where I'm from. I even know a few people who were grandparents by their mid 30's! I was really hoping to have a baby by the time i turned 30 but now I just at least want to be preggo by then! TTC is hard and putting a time limit on it makes it even more
stressful...ugh!! It's nice to know there are others in the same position. Good luck and baby dust to you all !

omg snap lol i turned 29 march 24th and we have been ttc for a year everyone i when to school with have loads of grown up kids some in high school 1 girl has 5 kids and just had twins 2 days ago but the only thing i can say is i have had lots of fun and seen things that they may never see and been to places they may never go so in that respect we have it all to look forward to i have done alot since i left school so i shouldnt regret that also in reality we still have another 10 years before we need to panic lol

 

[Kadan82]

I turned 29 in March and we have been trying a year now. Just started all the infertility tests. I live in a small town and all my friends my age have between 2 and 3 kids and are always telling me I need to hurry up. 30 years old is considered practically ancient where I'm from. I even know a few people who were grandparents by their mid 30's! I was really hoping to have a baby by the time i turned 30 but now I just at least want to be preggo by then! TTC is hard and putting a time limit on it makes it even more
stressful...ugh!! It's nice to know there are others in the same position. Good luck and baby dust to you all !

omg snap lol i turned 29 march 24th and we have been ttc for a year everyone i when to school with have loads of grown up kids some in high school 1 girl has 5 kids and just had twins 2 days ago but the only thing i can say is i have had lots of fun and seen things that they may never see and been to places
they may never go so in that respect we have it all to look forward to i have done alot since i left school so i shouldnt regret that also in reality we still have another 10 years before we need to panic lol

You are so right about getting to do things that they will probably never be able to do because of their decision to have kids so young. I too have had a lot of fun and experienced so many things I never could have done if I had kids already. When they give me a hard time about not having kids it's probably because they are actually jealous that I was able to go out and really experience life while they were at home with their kids. I'm not against having kids in your early 20's but it def wasn't for me. But...I'm ready now and it's not happening!! Oh well, I know it will happen exactly when it's meant to be...just have to stay positive!

 

[resin]

hi. we just started ttc. im 30 next year may so still have 13months. i would really like to be pregnant by then. its exciting ttc and fun but at the same time i think after max 6 months i will start to feel dissapoined. its a very weird experience so far because its so diffrent from anything else i have wished for or strived towards. im trying to stay as posivive as possible.

 

[carine]

Resin, you're right, TTC is like nothing else! Miraculous, mysterious, exciting, scary, frustrating, fun...plus lots of waiting and wondering, haha.

I agree that staying positive is key! As long you are both healthy, there's a good chance it won't take more than 6 months! And even if it does, you'll get through it. Best of luck to you in your journey!

 

[Nayla82]

Hi Ladies what a great Thread to start as i thought i was the only one obsessing about having a baby or now at least getting pregnant before the big 30! never in a million years when i was in my early 20s did i think i will be struggling so so hard to make baby number 1

I turn 29 in two days, I need to get pregnant before July this year so i can make my dreams come true and hold a baby in my arm before im 30 but its not been easy I have been trying religiously for the past 21 Months and its been almost 3 weeks since my Failed IVF/ICSI (My husband has just a handful of healthy sperms and its physically impossible to get pregnant naturally, His 1st sample was empty! no sperms at all! Thanking the Lord they found some and everything from my side seems to be good. The Fertility specialist does not understand why it didnt work? they put back two perfect embryos growing nicely in the lab, yet implantation didnt take )

Its been so so tough, and while all my friends and family are popping babies out left right and centre. We have decided not to tell anyone about our struggle the only other soul that knows is my younger sister 'who is clueless and does not have a clue whats happening' it does make it harder when friends and family ask what are we waiting for? if only they know how desperate we are!!

I just so hope and pray we all get there one day, and i have come to accept now that age is just a number and having a baby is my long term goal now, so wish now than later.

 

[imagine13]

Hi Ladies!

I will be 30 next year and this is our first month "sort of/not actively/kinda scared/bursting with excitement" TTC.

It really hit me suddenly that I am going to have to get preggers in the next few months if I want to be a mum before I'm 30. Fingers crossed the years of BC get out of my system quickly so I know where I am.

Its all so scary and exciting all at once! I am currently reading up on the FAM and will be charting this month just to get to know exactly when I ov etc. but we are taking the casual and enjoyable approach at the moment, lol!

Good luck to all us 'oldies', I hope you all get your bfp's soon

 

[wannabemummyb]

I was also planning on having a baby before I was 30 - I have now missed that boat! Now I would like to conceive before I am30! So I have until nov. I find it ironic that I spent my whole early twenties actively trying to prevent pregnancy and now my late twenties I am struggling to get pregnant!
Tbh I don't care when I have a baby, as long as I do have one and it is healthy!

 

[nuffmac]

think of the money we could have saved on BC if we had known - lol. I'm keeping my fingers X'd for all of us ladies