TTC #1- Looking for buddies!

[SarahLou372]

Hi ladies

Sorry for such a late reply, my appointment went quite good thanks, so first of all because my OH isn't my first sons dad, they ant to test his fertility before they give me any fertility treatments.

Also my appointment was over the phone due to Covid-19 nut with me moving over 100 miles its a brand new area and GP surgery, and the doctor was really nice and considerate and was willing to listen, He did say I may not e eligible for fertility treatment and may have to go to a private clinic and pay for the medicine due to me already having one child which to me and so the doctor agreed that this isn't fair especially when you have a health condition you cannot help. He did say he make the referral to gynaecology fertility services at the hospital to see if he can get a referral appointment with them for me, so It a matter of sitting and waiting reach really sucks when you cant just get pregnant

My BMI is in range at 31 and they said they wont see me if its 35 or more. So at least my diet is working a little.

 

[AmberR]

Sorry you are stuck waiting now, how frustrating! Hopefully you hear some good news from the fertility clinic soon!

 

[SarahLou372]

@AmberR Thank you

I haven't heard anything yet from the fertility clinic I don't even know if they will even accept me for an appointment.

However my OH has managed to book an appointment for 3rd December at the hospital for his tests so at least we will know something I guess

 

[Dream143r]

Hey guys,

So AF is due this week and we were planning to start TTC this cycle. BUT I got a new job last week so we're going to pause TTC#2 until the spring. It's bittersweet. I'm so ready to start now but i'm also so happy and thankful for this new job. I want to put in some time there and establish myself as an asset to the team before disappearing on 12 or 18 month maternity leave.

How's everyone else doing?

 

[AmberR]

Sarah- hope you hear something soon!

Dream- Congratulations on the new job! Sorry it puts TTC on hold though

We are doing well. Going a little stir crazy being mostly stuck inside this winter with cold weather and nowhere to go. Emmett is 3 months old already!

 

[SunnyBe]

Sarah; hope everything comes back fine! The waiting is the worst though

Dream; congrats on the new job!! But noooooo don't put off TTC-ing I only say that because I kinda want my old cycle buddy back haha. I think we're ready to start trying again. Something just came over me this week and I'm like; yes... let's do this! Maybe more like a not trying not preventing-kinda thing at first.

Amber, how is Emmett 3 months already! That's crazy. Sorry about the shitty weather though. I lived in climates like that the first 25 years of my life and I just couldn't stand it anymore. But I bet it's 10 times worse now that you can't really go anywhere with COVID.

It's 81 degrees here in SW Florida today and definitely don't regret the move. Downside; no family

 

[tbfromlv]

Sunny- I’m super jealous of your weather!! Also- so exciting about you TTC!! Hopefully it’s faster than 1

Dream, congrats on the job!! Hopefully that doesn’t delay your TTC for too long!

Amber- 3 months?! How come time goes by so much faster now that kids are in the picture lol

Ok girls, I splurged on a Black Friday sale and bought the Sneak Peek test. I know it’s not 100% (but really neither is an ultrasound so..) but results came back as... a girl!! We are so excited!!

 

[SunnyBe]

Omgggg congrats Tb!!!! I'd love another girl (we both would). Your girls are going to be so close!!!

Sneak Peek is accurate enough with girl DNA that you can be pretty sure that it's correct!

 

[tbfromlv]

Thank you Sunny! We are so thrilled and I hope this means best friend for life!

yes I read that if it reads girl you can take it to the bank but if it reads boy...there’s still a slight chance it was contaminated. I figured if it came back boy I’d be about 75% sure haha!

 

[tbfromlv]

How are you girls?? I hope everyone had a nice Christmas and Sunny hope your little one had a great birthday!

I had my 20 week ultrasound last week and surprise... still a girl! Lol I compared all the measurements with Kaydence ultrasound at that time and they were all veeeerrrry similar! The only difference is my placenta is anterior instead of posterior... anyone have that with theirs?

 

[SunnyBe]

So glad everything looked great Tb! How do you feel? What's it like combining work with a toddler and being pregnant?

We sort of started trying this month. I don't know how to feel about it yet lol. On one hand I'm excited and on the other I'm pretty terrified haha. Terrified of being pregnant with the uncertainties of the pandemic, terrified of NOT being pregnant and dealing with secondary infertility...

 

[AmberR]

Glad all is well Tb, yay for another girl!
I had an anterior placenta with Leon and then a posterior one with Emmett. The movements will feel more muffled and you won't be able to see them as much with an anterior placenta. At least that was my experience.

Sunny- totally makes sense to have all sorts of feelings both ways about TTC. Sending you hugs!

 

[tbfromlv]

Combining and juggling everything is actually not so bad. It was worse when I was pumping and nursing all the time lol so I’m sure having two and doing that will be TONS of fun. Hopefully I can get a better stash going this time so I don’t feel so stressed about keeping up while pumping! I’m also worried about Kaydence feeling jealousy towards the new one..
Amber- did you experience that any?

sunny I totally get the mixed emotions. The worry about not being able to get pregnant worried me a lot so I figured we’d keep trying. Maybe you’ll be one of those people that once you go through a pregnancy successfully, your body “gets it” and it won’t take much! Will you be sharing your tests?!

I’m kind of just hoping baby will come fast again and I’ll just give birth in the bathroom at home I don’t want to deal with all the mess at the hospital.

 

[SunnyBe]

You guys will be the first to know if I get my BFP, just like last time But don't hold your breaths because it took us 12+ cycles last time lol.

Have you thought about names yet Tb? Statistically speaking, this one has a pretty high chance of getting there fast! The average labor and delivery times go down with every birth

Amber, have you gotten vaccinated yet?

 

[tbfromlv]

Well Sunny I will keep my fingers and toes crossed anyway! You never know!

we have some names on a list but.. DH wants more involvement with picking this one since Kaydence was predetermined since I was 12 and he had no say. I get that.. but He’s not fully giving into the names I love and it’s frustrating. He should just let me name them! Lol

So my mom had 3 of us.. first labor was 6 hours start to finish, 2nd was 3.5 hours start to finish and 3rd was 40 minutes! My grandma was the same way (got to the hospital already crowning with her kids!) well.. my first was 3 hours start to finish so if I follow anything like my family.. I’m looking at like an hour or less! Haha So I’d have to leave my house immediately after contractions start lol I’m a little nervous about where and when that will be... I may have to just kick my students out of my classroom and tell them to shut the door on the way out

 

[SunnyBe]

Omg hahahah hope you have a fast car

 

[Steph1012]

Hi girls!! How is everyone doing?

TB such fantastic news, so excited for you- when is she due??? I’d like to throw the name Stephanie into the mix please.

All the best with trying again Sunny, got everything crossed that it will be a lot easier (and involve fewer air miles) than last time!

You’ve all been having an interesting time over there I see... what a time to be alive, huh? What’s the situation with COVID where you each live?

We’re having an absolutely horrendous second wave. Back in lockdown again, everyone is pretty down and miserable and it’s hard to see light at the end of the tunnel at the moment. Husband and I are as grateful as ever that our jobs allow us to leave the house and carry on as ‘normal’. And because I’m an oncology nurse we try and remain a COVID-free ward as much as possible. And it seems most of us on my ward have had it now anyway. Got my Pfizer jab last week

I finally contacted our clinic just before Christmas. We have an appointment at the clinic on 27 Jan, just for height, weight, BP etc etc. And then a proper consultation the following week (online ) to discuss our FET. We have some annual leave booked at the beginning of March, although looks like our Cornwall trip will be cancelled... so I’m hoping to start medications after that. Guess if everything goes to plan we’d be looking at a mid-end April transfer, but to be honest I can’t really remember how long everything took for my last FET!

 

[SunnyBe]

Omg Steph!! So great to hear from you.

How exciting that you'll soon be getting ready for your next FET! Things are definitely looking up.

My husband and I both work exclusively from home, so unfortunately, no vaccines for us just yet (and so envious of all of my colleagues who all did get it already lol). It's pretty bad in Florida and although my 2-year old wears a mask when we go out, lots of other shoppers don't. So depending on how much worse it'll get (looking at you UK-variant of the virus hah), we might decide to stay at home as much as possible.

 

[tbfromlv]

Steph! Good to hear from you! I’m sooo excited for your FET! Eek! I can’t wait!

Baby girl is due May 27. Which is exactly one week after school let’s out! I told my fellow teachers to get ready to have an escape plan for me if I go early again hahaha

COVID is crappy here but i swear the majority of my state couldn’t care less. It’s kind of infuriating. We do all our grocery through the drive up/pickup and mostly stay home.

With things picking up again and the new strand out... and a new president, Im interested to see what will happen! Us teachers are in the next wave to get the vaccine and have been given sign up forms to do that (sometime in feb) but I’m not going to get one yet. There just isn’t enough study done on pregnant women yet for me to feel comfortable doing it yet.

 

[Steph1012]

Eurgh I jinxed it by writing on here- my husband tested positive on Monday so we’re indoors for ten days abc I’ve had to reschedule the appointments, bit annoying but hey ho. (He’s fine by the way, I’m not heartless )

Ha sorry about the UK variant Sunny, hopefully it won’t be too much longer until we start coming out of this mess. We can live in hope! What’s your plan with trying for numero 2, as in do you intend to try for X amount of time naturally before looking into treatments again? Hopefully TB and Amber will have given you some of their magic! (And if there’s any spare, please send some over here).

TB the next few months will just fly by! Have you always said you want 2 children, or may there be more somewhere down the line?! I definitely understand re the vaccine and pregnancy. I’m assuming it’s the same as the advice here which is to consider getting it if you’re in a high risk group, but if not to wait until the baby has been born?