TTC 1st Child, naturally, 35, cycle #2

[MalaMae]

Well I caved. Took another FR, BFN at 8DPO so Im probably out. Not even a faint line.

(( hey, cheer up, lovely!! maybe u are, but it's too ealry ?! Who knows? Hope, hope, hope )
Nah, I'm not testing, my period is regular so I'll wait. If it's late, I'll test it. I know it's silly, but I want to see late period and wonder if I'm prego. Want to have that moment of :"OMG! My period is late!!" Plus I don't feel like spending more money or "negative" tests. I'm spending enough money on supplements.
It's DPO 6. 8-9 more days until AF.

 

[SloanPet77]

I really hope you get that super super late period, like 9 months late! I hate seeing the negative too but i feel too guilty drinking on the weekend unless I know its a BFN. I am 99% sure its going to stay negative. Next month will be my month.

 

[sassypants77]

Hey Sloan, maybe it is just too early to test? I am not very savvy when it comes to this stuff yet, I know just enough to be dangerous. What is an FR?

MalaMae, here's hoping for a late AF, and BFP to back it up!

Rose, hello as well!

Elpha, yeah, I overall want to get healthy, so I am up for whatever that brings. I really do like our RS, and we are incredibly fortunate with our insurance, and it does cover almost all of the testing. My preference would actually be to conceive without any assistance, but since it has been 2+ years and no dice, I think we are going to need a little nudge.

It amazes me how little docs will share with you about your own health. That being said, I also can't believe that I have let myself gain about 100 lbs in the last 15 years.....what the hell!

Anyway, hope you wonderful ladies have a nice and relaxing long weekend! We are certainly trying for that, and maybe some BD. hehehehe

 

[MalaMae]

I really hope you get that super super late period, like 9 months late! I hate seeing the negative too but i feel too guilty drinking on the weekend unless I know its a BFN. I am 99% sure its going to stay negative. Next month will be my month.

hahahahahaha....hilarious!!!! but true. I hope for that too!
Intersting, I thought the next month is mine as well. Maybe if all of us think of BFP next month, maybe we can influence and bring the cosmic energy or cosmic something (whatever it is) to us LOL

 

[SloanPet77]

Hey Sassy,

FR is First Response, they are supposed to be the best test for an early reading. With that said I tested again today, 9dpo and another BFN.

I am thinking its probably better since DH and I are fighting. Well hes not fighting but I am! Anyone have any advice on how to deal with in laws? Basically my DH's brother, sister, and mother all hate me, to the point where last night his brother told me to never call him again or ever invite him to anything. Of course my husband just sat there and didnt say anything because he doesnt like conflict. I feel like I have been sucking up tp them for 2 years and I just cant win. I feel awful though because before me my DH was close to his family and now I feel like all this rests on my shoulders? i am super depressed.

 

[Elphabaa77]

Hey Sassy,

FR is First Response, they are supposed to be the best test for an early reading. With that said I tested again today, 9dpo and another BFN.

I am thinking its probably better since DH and I are fighting. Well hes not fighting but I am! Anyone have any advice on how to deal with in laws? Basically my DH's brother, sister, and mother all hate me, to the point where last night his brother told me to never call him again or ever invite him to anything. Of course my husband just sat there and didnt say anything because he doesnt like conflict. I feel like I have been sucking up tp them for 2 years and I just cant win. I feel awful though because before me my DH was close to his family and now I feel like all this rests on my shoulders? i am super depressed.

Wow, I don't know what to say. That would be very stressful. Hubby should stick up for you and also try to figure out what their problem is with you so maybe you all can figure out a way to resolve it. ESPECIALLY if you guys want to have a baby! From what I have seen family stress can be a ticking time bomb waiting to explode, which is just more stress you don't need. (not mention stress can keep you from getting pregnant to begin with!)

My situation is the other way around... I can't hardly stand my Hubby's Dad and brother... or his Dad's side of the family in general! They are just some weird, irritating folks! My hubby's Mom left when he was young, but we still see his grandma, Aunt, and cousins on that side and I love them!!! It is just his Dad's side... and honestly his Dad! I hate how his Dad still treats him like a child most the time... plus his Dad has made bad choices in women and when these women basically abused hubby and his bro, he did nothing about it! My hubby got sent to juvenile detention center because the one ex-wife pressed charges saying he molested his brother!!! Stuff that NEVER happened and his Dad didn't even throw her out on the street! He just let hubby be shipped off to Juvie hall at age 16! Only thing he did was introduce his brother to porn magazines and he gets sent away and the witch got to stay!
Gahhhhh! Okay, sorry. Just thinking about the whole situation makes me angry! So I definitely have reason!

Sorry you are depressed Sloan. hubby should be sticking up for you regardless of whether or not he likes conflict! You are his wife and his family needs to treat you a lot better than they do! Good luck! Wish I had more insight. :-/

 

[MalaMae]

Sloan, holy s...!! Sorry you are going through sh.. like this. You don't need this when you're already going through infertility issues. You actually need to sit down with your husband and tell him in a way that he'll seriously understand that u are hurt and he should be the one to deal with his family. After all it's his family and he should be the buffer between you and his family. He needs to solve it.
Anyway how does he feel about the situation and about his family not liking you. And what is their problem with you?

Sassy, if you're getting the FR don't get the digital one, shuts down once detects positive test. I'm left with 15 useless strips

 

[SloanPet77]

Thanks girls! We had a long talk about it and hopefully it gets better, if not hubby said we will just cut his family off entirely.

 

[Elphabaa77]

Today is my official 'BACK TO DIETING' day! So far, so good! I shopped around the organic section of the local grocery store and found some good stuff for my low amylose diet. The only 'violation' of my low amylose diet right now is that I am going to have one IdealShape shake for breakfast. There is sugar and maltodextrin in that, but I figure a little bit shouldn't hurt the diet too much. I am headed off to the gym shortly to spend some much needed time on the elliptical trainer, then I plan on going home and having a delicious chicken Caesar salad for dinner! I found a new yogurt-based Caesar Parmesan dressing that doesn't have the added sugar normal dressings do, so hopefully it will taste delicious!

I had a dream Sunday night that I was holding my baby girl. She was so beautiful with tons of dark brown hair. When I showed her to my husband, she smiled at him. The dream was so real and I was so happy. Of course, then my hubby's alarm went off and woke me from it. Regardless, I have found a 'renewed' reason for wanting to lose weight. Hopefully the image of that beautiful baby girl will keep me on the weight loss track!

On a different note, I am stopping the FertilAid supplement almost as soon as I started it. I just found out that when you are on Metformin you shouldn't take anything that contains Gingko Biloba. *sigh* Well that is money down the drain! Oh well, things seem to be working better in my body just from the Metformin and Pregnitude. I had the most 'mild' AF I can ever remember! There was only one completely miserable day (usually have at least 2!!!) and all of the other days were super light. Instead of 6-7 days, it was only 5... and barely that. So I 'think' things are on the right track. I will just go back to my one-a-day prescribed prenatals and ditch the FertilAid. The prenatals are way cheaper anyhow!

Hope all is well with you guys! It's been quiet around here lately!

 

[MalaMae]

Welcome back girls! Nobody wrote- that means everybody enjoyed the long weekend
Mine was pretty peaceful and relaxing What did you do?

P.S. Anybody has good news?

 

[MalaMae]

haha... the whole weekend nobody and then we wrote in same time ))
WOW so many good news you have- working out, motivated, good AF and the dream- I hope you soon hold a baby girl in your arms

 

[SloanPet77]

Hi Girls!

Nothing exciting here! Getting along better with the DH and thinks are back to normal. Got 2 BFN on Sunday and Monday so now just waiting for good ole AF today or tomorrow. I am thinking this month its going to happen! I have the OPK all figured out and know which days to DTD, so I'm hopful for this month! I didnt do much this wekend, wine tasting all day saturday (followed by me crying and saying I wanted a divorce, eek too much wine!), sunday we went to a BBQ and then out drinking on the town! And yesterday we were hungover but managed to go pick up my dining room table.

Elpha so excited for you and your wright loss journey! I had an ideal shake for breakfast but it didnt feel me up at all? I'm still going to try though. Well to a new month girls!

Malamae did you even test?

 

[MalaMae]

hahaha, Sloan, you are so funny. No more wine for you but congrats for your new dining table
Nope, I did not tested- I have absolutely no prego symptoms, only AF symptoms - yesterday I felt so pissed off, I know the AF should be here before Saturday. Hopefully it won't arrive at all

 

[Elphabaa77]

That was funny MalaMae! Haha! Great minds think alike!

Sloan, I mix the chocolate shake with unsweetened almond milk, a tablespoon of PB2, and 8 ice cubes and blend it up. Tastes like a Reese's shake and it keeps me good for a couple hours, then I am ready for a mid morning snack. Today that was a small apple and a reduced fat Colby jack cheese stick. As long as I have a small, approx 100 calorie snack every 2 hours I am good. The PB2 Powder adds the protein and taste of peanut butter but not the fat and calories. I buy it at my gym, but it can be ordered online too. I also keep frozen fruit around to blend with the vanilla mix.

Are you doing just the shake mix and milk? That may be why you fon't feel satisfied. If I do it alone, I typically need a granola bar, cereal bar, or something small to go with.

 

[Elphabaa77]

Oh, and I take their ResveraShape supplement as well and I do believe it helps! Just gotta keep drinking water. It seems to make the pill more effective at curving my appetite... You know, when I stick to my diet. I am hoping 1 shake for breakfast won't burn me out on them so bad.

 

[sassypants77]

Hey Ladies! I am back. Had a long weekend with my side of the family, much craziness ensued and surrounded by kiddos, but a fun if not relaxing time.

Sloan, glad your hubby is supportive and has your back with his family, it can be sooo stressful. Hope Sept is your month for a BFP!

Elpha, awesomeness on the diet and gym! I gotta food detox after the glutton of food at my family's, it was insanity as always.

Malamae, hope a BFP is right around the corner for you!

AFM, I had my HSG test today. Not pleasant! At least it was quick and over with. There was some blockage on the right side, but they managed to flush it out. I also realized that this is the TTC NATURALLY thread.....and I am guessing that won't be us for much longer. Somehow I totally missed the naturally part! I still don't see us going beyond clomid or something similar. They do say that for the first 3 months after the HSG your fertility rates are improved because it is cleared out, so here is hoping! I imagine we will be meeting with the doc soon to go over results.

Have a lovely Wednesday ladies.

 

[MalaMae]

Hi sassy, glad you had fun weekend.

It is true. I heard of cases when after HSG women do get pregnant just beacuse their tubes was flushed.
I did the sonohysterography (which is the same thing only with ultrasound) and one of the tubes got flushed, but I wasn't one of those successful BFP stories. Then I even got a compliment from my FS: "Oh, you have beautiful uterus." Weird- yes!, but still a compliment

 

[Elphabaa77]

Hehe I think I would feel awkward if my doctor told me I had a beautiful uterus!

Well, I got my workout in early this morning and started getting super sick during it. I went to work for 2 hours but felt so icky I went home. I either have a stomach bug or food poisoning! I ate some Greek yogurt yesterday that tasted bad... but all Greek yogurt tastes spoiled and the date was good on it through September 9th. I just tried to eat dinner and ended up sick again. :-/ Sure hope this goes away soon whatever it is.

I have heard the same thing about women getting pregnant after HSG. Hopefully it will help you Sassy! I am only TTC naturally until January. Then my OBGYN wants to get more proactive with testing and then probably clomid. Really hoping it will happen before January so we can avoid all of the expensive tests my insurance won't cover! I am definitely going to work at doing my part by losing weight. Maybe this sickness well help me drop some weight! Not the 'healthy' way, but a start!

 

[SloanPet77]

Hi Girls!

Elpha I am so proud of you girl! I am only mixing the shakes with water to save on the calories but that is obviously not working because after my shake today i went to subway and got an egg white flatbread melt (330 calories), but not good! I think on Monday I am going to do this 3 day diet thing! who knows, all I do know is I had to go to the mall last night and buy new work clothes! went up a whole other pants size girls wth?

Elpha, fingers crossed for you dear. How was your weekend?

Sassy, you are already part of the group so we wont kick you out if you need some fertility help, we might be right behind you with that! On a good note one of my girlfriends tried go get pregnant for 5 years and had that test done where they run fluid whereever and it unblocks something (is that what you had?), anyhow she was pregnant a month later!!!

 

[SloanPet77]

Oh also, do you girls think we should rename this thread since its cycle three now? Any suggestions on new titles for the thread?

One Canadian, One mid-western, a Sassypants, and a drunk snooki look alike, TTC?
does that have a good ring? haha JK!!!