TTC after miscarriage before AF

[Rhi_Rhi1]

really sorry

 

[eme]

Oh happynewmom, what's happened?? Keeping everything crossed for you!

Started spotting yesterday and now it's really heavy so I'm almost sure it's over

Do you know anything about the rhogam shot? I had it with my first two as I'm rh-, but I didn't realize I should have it after miscarrying.. Do you know if I do? Different articles say different things but I'd feel so horrible if it's causing the miscarriages by not getting it.

Firstly I just wanted to say how sorry I am that you're going through another one. I lost two babies last year (1 at almost 12 weeks, another at 6 weeks only two months after I lost the first) I took a break from these boards as I just needed to..........

I'm RH-......I had the shot after my first one as we were at the point of sharing a blood supply since I was so far along. I did not have one with my 2nd miscarriage last year as baby and I were not at the point of sharing our blood yet. I would double check with your OB just to be sure, but you shouldn't need one based on how far along you were when the mc began.

 

[eme]

Can anyone help me?

Okay first off, my name is Britney and I've been googling and searching for any answers with what I'm going through.. I'm driving myself crazy I'm pretty sure because I feel like I have no one to talk to really about what is going on with me.. I've talked to doctors and they tell me I have to wait for a positive test to come in.. So here is my story, I was 6w4d when I miscarried, our baby had no heartbeat so we decided on doing a D&c because I didn't want to miscarry at home.. I did my d&c on March 20th.. (Worst day of my whole 21 years of living) my fiancé and I had been trying to conceive for 6 months and I fell pregnant and we miscarried. Doctor said that I could start trying when I was done bleeding and I stopped bleeding after 3 days.. On the third day me and my fiancé started doing the deed everyday about 3 or 4 times a day up until now, (April 28th) I have irregular periods and I'm not sure when I ovulate or anything like that because I've never charted or kept track.. Whenever I did I had my periods like on day 30 or 31 instead of 28 days. No later. I did hcg blood work it was at 22, then down to 13 two days later.. So I knew that it was from my previous pregnancy I took a pregnancy test about 2 weeks or 3 weeks ago it was faintly positive, but I knew it was from my miscarriage from left over hormones. I took one today and it's negative. But I still have not gotten my period..my symptoms, well... Ive googled and googled and googled and every forum says its early pregnancy symptoms.. I've had back aches cramping and usually I get cramping like I'm going to have my period but I'll start bleeding 20 minutes later, I've been having cramps off and on for the last week or so. And they don't deel like mensteral cramps. They feel like tingling and pulling. Almost if Im hungry or something but I eat and they don't go away. Especially at night. It's just weird. I've also had (tmi) like watery milky discharge which I haven't had before I was tested for std and it was all negative.. I'm just having more then I usually do.. I've had headaches, my food appetite is crazy I'm always wanting to eat. I get dizzy when I stand or even when I'm sitting. So down to the point, am I testing too early if I am pregnant? Should I wait another week or so.. I have to go to the doctors Thursday because they want to do another hcg test so I will see on Thursday what that is. Has anyone had any of these things happen to them? I'm just confused on why I have not gotten my period. When I was younger i had a d&c and I remmeber getting my period right after 2 weeks later I got it. This time I haven't. I am getting my hopes up so much by reading things on the Internet and how badly I want to be pregnant again I'm literally driving myself crazy with this. So my questions: has anyone has anything like this? Does anyone think I could be pregnant and I'm just testing to early? All of your replies are greatly appreciated and I hope and pray for all of you with your TTC journeys.

I can so appreciate and relate to what you're going through. Firstly, take a big deep breath and give yourself a hug. You've been through A LOT both physically and emotionally. Our hormones are a wonderful yet crazy, confusing thing! Your hormones are STILL adjusting from all that you've recently been through. Is it possible to get pregnant directly after a miscarriage and before having your first real period, absolutely. Is it likely? Not usually.

I'm only answering this way to help you from driving yourself crazy with wondering, worrying, and researching. It may help to look at it this way....if you are pregnant, you will most certainly know soon enough! And if you are not, you just have to be patient with your body while it tries to find a new normal.

I had two losses last year and to this DAY my body is still adjusting. I think I have a new normal now. I used to be a 28 day cycle with ovulation on day 18 like CLOCKwork. Now?? My cycles range from 28 days to 36 days and ovulation happening whenever the heck it pleases! Makes it a little hard to get back to TTC but I'm just being patient with my body and trying to learn the new "normal".

Aside from the physical effects of elevating and dropping hormone levels, it takes a toll on your emotions (as we all know)....be kind to yourself! The best thing you can do for yourself is to be patient with your body. Unfortunately, there's nothing we as women can do (aside from a healthy diet and lifestyle) to hurry some of these things along. Kinda sucks when that's the case regarding one of the (if not THE) biggest event our bodies will ever go through!

I know it's hard, it's hard to process all of it, it's hard to be patient....but maybe take a step back and pause to take a look inside. Many times feelings of impatience, frustration, worry, etc are all lingering side effects of the grieving process. We're all here for you when you need...vent all you want, we've been through much if not all of it as well.

I really hope you get the answers you're needing (either way) soon so that you can focus on what the next steps are

 

[happynewmom1]

Oh happynewmom, what's happened?? Keeping everything crossed for you!

Started spotting yesterday and now it's really heavy so I'm almost sure it's over

Do you know anything about the rhogam shot? I had it with my first two as I'm rh-, but I didn't realize I should have it after miscarrying.. Do you know if I do? Different articles say different things but I'd feel so horrible if it's causing the miscarriages by not getting it.

Firstly I just wanted to say how sorry I am that you're going through another one. I lost two babies last year (1 at almost 12 weeks, another at 6 weeks only two months after I lost the first) I took a break from these boards as I just needed to..........

I'm RH-......I had the shot after my first one as we were at the point of sharing a blood supply since I was so far along. I did not have one with my 2nd miscarriage last year as baby and I were not at the point of sharing our blood yet. I would double check with your OB just to be sure, but you shouldn't need one based on how far along you were when the mc began.

This is helpful. I don't have an ob yet. We were in search but hoping we had some time. So I likely didn't lose this baby because I didn't get the shot after the last mc? I just feel so guilty.. Like I'm doing something to cause them

 

[eme]

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[SammyBat]

happynewmom - I am so sorry to hear. It is so hard not to take MCs as something we did wrong, but they are not. There is nothing you did or didn't do!

When I had my MC, my doctor's office called right away to ask if I was rh+ or -. I do believe you need to get the shot.

Sending hugs your way!

Rosie - hang in there too! TTC is so unpredictable to begin with and then adding a MC on top of it makes it even less predictable. Fx for you!

 

[eme]

Oh happynewmom, what's happened?? Keeping everything crossed for you!

Started spotting yesterday and now it's really heavy so I'm almost sure it's over

Do you know anything about the rhogam shot? I had it with my first two as I'm rh-, but I didn't realize I should have it after miscarrying.. Do you know if I do? Different articles say different things but I'd feel so horrible if it's causing the miscarriages by not getting it.

Firstly I just wanted to say how sorry I am that you're going through another one. I lost two babies last year (1 at almost 12 weeks, another at 6 weeks only two months after I lost the first) I took a break from these boards as I just needed to..........

I'm RH-......I had the shot after my first one as we were at the point of sharing a blood supply since I was so far along. I did not have one with my 2nd miscarriage last year as baby and I were not at the point of sharing our blood yet. I would double check with your OB just to be sure, but you shouldn't need one based on how far along you were when the mc began.

This is helpful. I don't have an ob yet. We were in search but hoping we had some time. So I likely didn't lose this baby because I didn't get the shot after the last mc? I just feel so guilty.. Like I'm doing something to cause them

Correct, not getting the shot did NOT cause this, those complications come later in pregnancy....honestly at 6 weeks, there's nothing aside from maybe shooting up with crack that you could do to cause a mc I know you were doing everything that you should have!!! When I lost my first baby I questioned everything.....the melatonin I took to sleep one night, that bumpy road we drove down that caused me to cramp up, "was THAT why I lost the baby?!?!", the time I slipped on the stairs and slid down a few steps, etc etc etc My OB ASSURED me that there was nothing I did that caused either of mine. Later I found out, my body just simply doesn't produce enough progesterone, as well...I have insulin resistance. Those two things together are not good odds for a newly growing baby.

I tried to read through....since you don't have an OB....did you have bloodwork done to ABSOLUTELY confirm that you were below 5hcg? Reason I ask, the first month after my mc in March last year, my hpts slowly faded to negative....and then started showing a line again. I thought I was pregnant....after multiple blood draws, my OB confirmed that my hcg levels were weirdly fluctuating and that even though I wasn't pregnant...depending on the time of day, the hcg would show more concentrated in my urine. Leading to the "negative" then "positive" test. Is there any way that the negative test (I saw the pics) was a fluke and the hcg was still working its way out of your system from your previous pregnancy?

Either way, I know how very hard it is to have this awful rollercoaster, I really hope that you go easy on yourself right now....get a lot of rest, remember to drink a lot of water, and if you're able to find a doctor that will help with getting more accurate answers

 

[happynewmom1]

Oh happynewmom, what's happened?? Keeping everything crossed for you!

Started spotting yesterday and now it's really heavy so I'm almost sure it's over

Do you know anything about the rhogam shot? I had it with my first two as I'm rh-, but I didn't realize I should have it after miscarrying.. Do you know if I do? Different articles say different things but I'd feel so horrible if it's causing the miscarriages by not getting it.

Firstly I just wanted to say how sorry I am that you're going through another one. I lost two babies last year (1 at almost 12 weeks, another at 6 weeks only two months after I lost the first) I took a break from these boards as I just needed to..........

I'm RH-......I had the shot after my first one as we were at the point of sharing a blood supply since I was so far along. I did not have one with my 2nd miscarriage last year as baby and I were not at the point of sharing our blood yet. I would double check with your OB just to be sure, but you shouldn't need one based on how far along you were when the mc began.

This is helpful. I don't have an ob yet. We were in search but hoping we had some time. So I likely didn't lose this baby because I didn't get the shot after the last mc? I just feel so guilty.. Like I'm doing something to cause them

Correct, not getting the shot did NOT cause this, those complications come later in pregnancy....honestly at 6 weeks, there's nothing aside from maybe shooting up with crack that you could do to cause a mc I know you were doing everything that you should have!!! When I lost my first baby I questioned everything.....the melatonin I took to sleep one night, that bumpy road we drove down that caused me to cramp up, "was THAT why I lost the baby?!?!", the time I slipped on the stairs and slid down a few steps, etc etc etc My OB ASSURED me that there was nothing I did that caused either of mine. Later I found out, my body just simply doesn't produce enough progesterone, as well...I have insulin resistance. Those two things together are not good odds for a newly growing baby.

I tried to read through....since you don't have an OB....did you have bloodwork done to ABSOLUTELY confirm that you were below 5hcg? Reason I ask, the first month after my mc in March last year, my hpts slowly faded to negative....and then started showing a line again. I thought I was pregnant....after multiple blood draws, my OB confirmed that my hcg levels were weirdly fluctuating and that even though I wasn't pregnant...depending on the time of day, the hcg would show more concentrated in my urine. Leading to the "negative" then "positive" test. Is there any way that the negative test (I saw the pics) was a fluke and the hcg was still working its way out of your system from your previous pregnancy?

Either way, I know how very hard it is to have this awful rollercoaster, I really hope that you go easy on yourself right now....get a lot of rest, remember to drink a lot of water, and if you're able to find a doctor that will help with getting more accurate answers

We did not get blood work done. I took a ton of tests throughout the month and they were all negative up until last weekend when a line appeared again and got darker. This feels exactly like the last mc.. I'm fairly certain this is one but would be between 4-5 weeks this time. I so appreciate the time you took to reply and the answers help a ton. I do feel like I should probably see someone about this so looking for a doctor or ob who might be able to help.

 

[eme]

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We did not get blood work done. I took a ton of tests throughout the month and they were all negative up until last weekend when a line appeared again and got darker. This feels exactly like the last mc.. I'm fairly certain this is one but would be between 4-5 weeks this time. I so appreciate the time you took to reply and the answers help a ton. I do feel like I should probably see someone about this so looking for a doctor or ob who might be able to help. [/QUOTE]

Okay, if you got multiple negatives that's a bit different then. I'm so sorry, for me my first mc last year was HARD...watching Peyton's heartbeat grow strong and then get weaker and weaker by each week was really tough. By the time I had my second mc a few months later, I honestly think I was still numb from the previous one so it didn't hit me as hard as the first. I know it's different for everyone.

It's possible that maybe the lining in your uterus was either too thin or too thick (only way to know is through follow up ultrasounds) or there could be other underlying issues. There's always, also, the possibility that it was just really unfortunate 'luck'. I really do hope you are able to find a good OB (don't settle for the 1st one you go to see, if you don't 'gel' keep looking! I didn't like the first one I saw so I found a different one and she's amazing! It truly makes all the difference in the world!).

Go in to your appointment with questions for your OB too....like what their approach is to different situations. The first OB I saw did not like to do too much medical or medicinal intervention in the first trimester aka I had VERY low progesterone and she would NOT prescribe me medication saying she didn't like to intervene in the body's natural way of doing pregnancy. Ummmmm.....yeah. I immediately sought out another OB who prescribed it right away, but unfortunately at that point it was already too late. After going to see a fertility specialist, he said that with naturally low progesterone levels, if you aren't supplementing from ovulation...by the time you get a positive pregnancy test, it's already too late to supplement. So I don't blame that first doctor, but I need to know that I have a doctor that's going to try everything and fight just as hard as I am for the life of my baby.

 

[happynewmom1]

We did not get blood work done. I took a ton of tests throughout the month and they were all negative up until last weekend when a line appeared again and got darker. This feels exactly like the last mc.. I'm fairly certain this is one but would be between 4-5 weeks this time. I so appreciate the time you took to reply and the answers help a ton. I do feel like I should probably see someone about this so looking for a doctor or ob who might be able to help. [/QUOTE]

Okay, if you got multiple negatives that's a bit different then. I'm so sorry, for me my first mc last year was HARD...watching Peyton's heartbeat grow strong and then get weaker and weaker by each week was really tough. By the time I had my second mc a few months later, I honestly think I was still numb from the previous one so it didn't hit me as hard as the first. I know it's different for everyone.

It's possible that maybe the lining in your uterus was either too thin or too thick (only way to know is through follow up ultrasounds) or there could be other underlying issues. There's always, also, the possibility that it was just really unfortunate 'luck'. I really do hope you are able to find a good OB (don't settle for the 1st one you go to see, if you don't 'gel' keep looking! I didn't like the first one I saw so I found a different one and she's amazing! It truly makes all the difference in the world!).

Go in to your appointment with questions for your OB too....like what their approach is to different situations. The first OB I saw did not like to do too much medical or medicinal intervention in the first trimester aka I had VERY low progesterone and she would NOT prescribe me medication saying she didn't like to intervene in the body's natural way of doing pregnancy. Ummmmm.....yeah. I immediately sought out another OB who prescribed it right away, but unfortunately at that point it was already too late. After going to see a fertility specialist, he said that with naturally low progesterone levels, if you aren't supplementing from ovulation...by the time you get a positive pregnancy test, it's already too late to supplement. So I don't blame that first doctor, but I need to know that I have a doctor that's going to try everything and fight just as hard as I am for the life of my baby.[/QUOTE]

I've thought about the uterus lining.. I guess we need to look into that. I didn't have issues with my first two pregnancies at all and suddenly am having problems. Is progesterone levels a thing that can change over the years suddenly effecting me? I don't get it as I've been so much better about vitamins, exercising and healthier foods than I ever was with my first two.

I'm so sorry for the losses you went through I'm glad you know what's wrong.. I hope you are able to get your bfp now

 

[Rosie88]

Can anyone help me?

Okay first off, my name is Britney and I've been googling and searching for any answers with what I'm going through.. I'm driving myself crazy I'm pretty sure because I feel like I have no one to talk to really about what is going on with me.. I've talked to doctors and they tell me I have to wait for a positive test to come in.. So here is my story, I was 6w4d when I miscarried, our baby had no heartbeat so we decided on doing a D&c because I didn't want to miscarry at home.. I did my d&c on March 20th.. (Worst day of my whole 21 years of living) my fiancé and I had been trying to conceive for 6 months and I fell pregnant and we miscarried. Doctor said that I could start trying when I was done bleeding and I stopped bleeding after 3 days.. On the third day me and my fiancé started doing the deed everyday about 3 or 4 times a day up until now, (April 28th) I have irregular periods and I'm not sure when I ovulate or anything like that because I've never charted or kept track.. Whenever I did I had my periods like on day 30 or 31 instead of 28 days. No later. I did hcg blood work it was at 22, then down to 13 two days later.. So I knew that it was from my previous pregnancy I took a pregnancy test about 2 weeks or 3 weeks ago it was faintly positive, but I knew it was from my miscarriage from left over hormones. I took one today and it's negative. But I still have not gotten my period..my symptoms, well... Ive googled and googled and googled and every forum says its early pregnancy symptoms.. I've had back aches cramping and usually I get cramping like I'm going to have my period but I'll start bleeding 20 minutes later, I've been having cramps off and on for the last week or so. And they don't deel like mensteral cramps. They feel like tingling and pulling. Almost if Im hungry or something but I eat and they don't go away. Especially at night. It's just weird. I've also had (tmi) like watery milky discharge which I haven't had before I was tested for std and it was all negative.. I'm just having more then I usually do.. I've had headaches, my food appetite is crazy I'm always wanting to eat. I get dizzy when I stand or even when I'm sitting. So down to the point, am I testing too early if I am pregnant? Should I wait another week or so.. I have to go to the doctors Thursday because they want to do another hcg test so I will see on Thursday what that is. Has anyone had any of these things happen to them? I'm just confused on why I have not gotten my period. When I was younger i had a d&c and I remmeber getting my period right after 2 weeks later I got it. This time I haven't. I am getting my hopes up so much by reading things on the Internet and how badly I want to be pregnant again I'm literally driving myself crazy with this. So my questions: has anyone has anything like this? Does anyone think I could be pregnant and I'm just testing to early? All of your replies are greatly appreciated and I hope and pray for all of you with your TTC journeys.

I can so appreciate and relate to what you're going through. Firstly, take a big deep breath and give yourself a hug. You've been through A LOT both physically and emotionally. Our hormones are a wonderful yet crazy, confusing thing! Your hormones are STILL adjusting from all that you've recently been through. Is it possible to get pregnant directly after a miscarriage and before having your first real period, absolutely. Is it likely? Not usually.

I'm only answering this way to help you from driving yourself crazy with wondering, worrying, and researching. It may help to look at it this way....if you are pregnant, you will most certainly know soon enough! And if you are not, you just have to be patient with your body while it tries to find a new normal.

I had two losses last year and to this DAY my body is still adjusting. I think I have a new normal now. I used to be a 28 day cycle with ovulation on day 18 like CLOCKwork. Now?? My cycles range from 28 days to 36 days and ovulation happening whenever the heck it pleases! Makes it a little hard to get back to TTC but I'm just being patient with my body and trying to learn the new "normal".

Aside from the physical effects of elevating and dropping hormone levels, it takes a toll on your emotions (as we all know)....be kind to yourself! The best thing you can do for yourself is to be patient with your body. Unfortunately, there's nothing we as women can do (aside from a healthy diet and lifestyle) to hurry some of these things along. Kinda sucks when that's the case regarding one of the (if not THE) biggest event our bodies will ever go through!

I know it's hard, it's hard to process all of it, it's hard to be patient....but maybe take a step back and pause to take a look inside. Many times feelings of impatience, frustration, worry, etc are all lingering side effects of the grieving process. We're all here for you when you need...vent all you want, we've been through much if not all of it as well.

I really hope you get the answers you're needing (either way) soon so that you can focus on what the next steps are

Thank you so very much for your kind words and advice you have no idea how much it means to me.. I have decided to calm the heck down and let my body do the talking and just listen to it instead of my negative thoughts. I go today for a hcg test so hopefully I will get some good results. I took a test and the negative line was there but also a very very faint postitive I had to shine it differently in the light and call my fiancé if he saw it too.. Maybe old hormones but maybe something better. I'll find it out and if not then I will keep trying and tracking what my body is doing but just not be so worried

 

[SammyBat]

I am hoping to be sensitive to everything that everyone is feeling right now here. But, I also wanted to share my hopefully good news as well as the interaction I just had with the nurse on the phone. I figured you all would be the best to understand!

I did put some space here in case you did not want to read below.




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Apparently the whole TTC after MC, but before AF has the nurse at my OB's office a bit confused. (spoiler: Got a this morning!)

Me: I made my regular recommended pregnancy visits with the scheduler, but wasn't sure if there was anything else I need to do, such as early blood work, before my first visit since I had a MC last month.

Nurse: Wait, I think I am a little confused. You had a quantitative hcg test done on the 17th and your value was a 2. That wasn't even 2 weeks ago. You got a positive test this morning? That is strange. Hmmm...let me check with the doctor and I will call you back.

Me: (Well what I wanted to say to her) Yes, I ovulated the day after that blood work. Doesn't seem strange to me Oh, did I forget to mention that I purposefully was trying to get pregnant again before my first cycle?

They are having me come in for a "stat" quant hcg test. I am optimistically positive right now. Last time we did this it resulted in the dreaded "Your numbers are really low..." phone call...

 

[happynewmom1]

I am hoping to be sensitive to everything that everyone is feeling right now here. But, I also wanted to share my hopefully good news as well as the interaction I just had with the nurse on the phone. I figured you all would be the best to understand!

I did put some space here in case you did not want to read below.




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Apparently the whole TTC after MC, but before AF has the nurse at my OB's office a bit confused. (spoiler: Got a this morning!)

Me: I made my regular recommended pregnancy visits with the scheduler, but wasn't sure if there was anything else I need to do, such as early blood work, before my first visit since I had a MC last month.

Nurse: Wait, I think I am a little confused. You had a quantitative hcg test done on the 17th and your value was a 2. That wasn't even 2 weeks ago. You got a positive test this morning? That is strange. Hmmm...let me check with the doctor and I will call you back.

Me: (Well what I wanted to say to her) Yes, I ovulated the day after that blood work. Doesn't seem strange to me Oh, did I forget to mention that I purposefully was trying to get pregnant again before my first cycle?

They are having me come in for a "stat" quant hcg test. I am optimistically positive right now. Last time we did this it resulted in the dreaded "Your numbers are really low..." phone call...

Congrats. I hope everything goes well for you this pregnancy

 

[happynewmom1]

Well every urgent care and walk in clinic I called I had to explain to them what a rhogam shot even is and they didn't have them. Now been on hold for the women's hospital for 20 minutes just wanting some advice. But very emotionally drained at this point.

 

[Babylove100]

Whohoo AF arrived today!! I am so happy to finally be moving on!!

 

[Rhi_Rhi1]

Great news . Good luck this month

 

[Babylove100]

Thanks Rhi!! I wonder when I'll Ovulate, I'm hoping its earlier than I used but whenever it happens is fine by me!

 

[Rhi_Rhi1]

Well I was hoping for Earlier than usual...but I'm CD 13 today and my tests are very light. My normal day for ovulation is CD 20 so it looks like I got a a week to wait yet ... Pftt

 

[happynewmom1]

That's great news, babylove. Good luck to you both this cycle

 

[Babylove100]

Thanks Happy! How are you holding up?