TTC after miscarriage before AF

[SammyBat]

Great babylove! On to the next cycle. Fx for you!

Happy - how did everything go yesterday? So sorry it had to be so complicated and stressful.

 

[happynewmom1]

We didn't end up going anywhere yesterday. I spent most of the day on and off the phone and on hold with people forever only to have them tell me they can't give me advice over the phone. I read a lot saying under 10 weeks the risk is really tiny if we didn't get it so we didn't. I was jist emotionally drained by that point. My dh wants to wait a month or two to start trying again. I agreed to 1 month in case my body does need to heal but I don't think I could handle waiting two. I just keep thinking if I hadn't of lost the first baby, i would be getting close to 12 weeks so emotional right now about everything I guess. I don't know what's wrong with me. I am so grateful for my two kids.. I just want another too.

 

[SammyBat]

Happy - I can totally relate with feeling grateful and lucky but wanting another. We have been TTC #2 since Feb 2014. My DH would often say "don't stress. We have one beautiful healthy happy child. We are lucky." Yet even though I totally agreed I just knew I wanted another.

Hang in there. You know your body can do it. It is just waiting for the right one (another healthy one)!

 

[happynewmom1]

Happy - I can totally relate with feeling grateful and lucky but wanting another. We have been TTC #2 since Feb 2014. My DH would often say "don't stress. We have one beautiful healthy happy child. We are lucky." Yet even though I totally agreed I just knew I wanted another.

Hang in there. You know your body can do it. It is just waiting for the right one (another healthy one)!

Thank you I'm really happy for you. Hope this is your sticky bean you've been waiting for

 

[mssk]

Hi Everyone,
I am looking for some input. I have been driving myself crazy. My husband and I lost our last pregnancy at 6w4d on 3/31/15. My last HCG levels were taken 4/7/15 and I was already down to 19. We decided to TTC before AF. It felt like I ovulated around 4/16/15 but I developed a YI around the same time. So we figured I would not get pregnant. My breasts are sore again and I have some exhaustion and constipation. I tested this afternoon and got a positive result on a home test. I am really hoping it is a new pregnancy..but, is there anyway it is left over hormones from our MC? I don't want to have false hope or tell my husband (he was so crushed last time...we MC only 4 days after a positive test) unless I am sure and my OB is out of town. Losing my mind. I really hope it is a new BFP!

 

[mssk]

ohh and my bleeding only lasted 5 days.

 

[happynewmom1]

Mssk, did you find out? I'm so sorry there was no reply.. I've had a challenging week. Have you taken more tests? Or gotten a blood test? It sounds like it could be a new pregnancy if the line was dark but hard to say. If they get darker and there is progression, I'd say it's new. I'm so sorry about your loss and hope this is it for you

How is everyone else doing? It's been quiet around here

 

[firsttimer123]

Bfn for me... Again. Cd23 of 28

 

[happynewmom1]

Bfn for me... Again. Cd23 of 28

Still some time. Hope you see that bfp soon

 

[SammyBat]

Sorry to be MIA - traveling and work! How is everyone doing?

Mssk - any news?

 

[firsttimer123]

I feel symptoms but bfn again! Cd25 of 28... How are you guys?? Happynewmom?? How are you feeling?? I am so sorry ALL of us are in this boat... But at least we don't have to feel alone

 

[Babylove100]

Hey firsttimer. Fx your bfp is just around the corner! I'm on cd8 now! It's flying by, been really ill with a throat and chest infection, with zero sympathy from dh I may add, I've put it in the memory bank though so I'll get my revenge at some point!

 

[Teeny Weeny]

Yesterday was a bittersweet day. It was the first day of my first period post D&C, but also the day I was given Clomid to try next cycle. I sad we didn't catch the egg this time but I know we have a good shot with the Clomid the next few cycles. I am hoping that this cycle isn't a long one so that we can get back TTC.

Good luck to all the ladies still in the game. FX'd for some new BFPs. I'm rooting for you. Xx

 

[happynewmom1]

I feel symptoms but bfn again! Cd25 of 28... How are you guys?? Happynewmom?? How are you feeling?? I am so sorry ALL of us are in this boat... But at least we don't have to feel alone

Thanks for asking about me. I'm ok. This mc has just been mean to me in that at least with the first one at 6 weeks, symptoms immediately disappeared. This one I have been done bleeding a couple days now but still have had some symptoms. I wish they'd all just go. I will be getting a test just to make sure it's negative.. I know it will be but think I just wanna see it now.. However stupid that sounds lol my dh says he wants to wait 2 months to try now and it's probably best but my heart is just broken. I want another so badly. As much as I love my kids and love being a mom, I can't even get excited about mothers day this year. I think I'm a bit down about everything though. Oh well.

I'm so sorry about the bfn! It's so cruel to get symptoms like that and then bfns. I'm really hoping to see you get that bfp soon.

Teeny weeny, I'm so sorry. I hope this fresh, new cycle goes well for you.

Babylove, I hope you feel better soon! That sounds rough! I hope you are getting lots of rest! Definitely remember that one for later lol men are big babies when sick

 

[havefaith01]

Yesterday was a bittersweet day. It was the first day of my first period post D&C, but also the day I was given Clomid to try next cycle. I sad we didn't catch the egg this time but I know we have a good shot with the Clomid the next few cycles. I am hoping that this cycle isn't a long one so that we can get back TTC.

Good luck to all the ladies still in the game. FX'd for some new BFPs. I'm rooting for you. Xx

Sorry! Hoping this cycle is the one for you! I am in my TWW now and so nervous! We are also hoping to catch this month (after D&C but before af) What did you try? Did you use opks? How long did it take to get your cycle back? Sorry for all the questions... i don't feel like we will get our BFP this time and preparing myself for next cycle.

 

[mssk]

Sorry for the delayed reply it has been an emotional week. I did take more tests and I have great lines. I also went for a blood test on Tuesday and my levels were 419 for 4 or 5 weeks so that is good according to the chart I have. But my Dr. isn't ordering more blood work till this coming Tuesday at my appointment. It has been so emotional this time. Dating from the miscarriage it has been 5 weeks 4 days. We wanted to ttc right away after the miscarriage but now I find my self juggling being happy, sad, scared, ext. I hope that when I go for my exam everything is well and we have good levels. But, I am starting to wonder is I will be able to relax at all. Plus the Dr. was not supportive of ttc right away ,He is not who we will end up seeing if the pregnancy continues on the right track as he is not a high risk Dr.

 

[catinajar]

Hi everyone, can I join you? I've been looking for somewhere to talk about what's going on at the moment and this is the first place I've found that is actually talking about this period after MC!

I had a MMC diagnosed at 8 weeks...the baby lived to 6 weeks. I had surgical management 5 weeks ago today.

The doctors in the hospital were useless, but did tell me that I could TTC as soon as the bleeding stopped. As it turns out, I only had one night of bleeding and about 3 days of very very light brown spotting. We waited 13 days after the procedure to BD again...without protection.

I saw the doctor 8 days ago, and she was great...she told me that I was free to try again whenever I was ready (which was immediately, as i told her!) and she actually said that she had a miscarriage herself and never saw another period in-between her loss and a new pregnancy which she carried to term. She said I should expect AF in the next week.

That was last Friday. Now, by Sunday I hadn't seen AF, so I did a HPT and got a negative. It was a pack of two so I decided to wait a few days and try again. I tried again on Thursday this week and got a faint positive line. This has developed to a strong positive today.

I'm terrified that I'm imagining this development, and that the line isn't actually getting darker, but my DP says it's definitely darker too...which isn't something he'd lie about as he knows I rely on him for a sensible opinion!

I've had NO pregnancy symptoms except tiredness but I'm starting to get a bit excited now. I'm just worried about going back to the doctor as I will probably get someone different who will tell me it's probably leftover hormones (though I thought 5 weeks was quite a long time to still be getting a strong positive).

Has anyone been in this situation themselves? Regardless, it's lovely to be amongst people who have tried straight away and aren't going to tell me YOU SHOULD HAVE WAITED 6 MONTHS AND YOU'LL PROBABLY MISCARRY which I've had in other places

Hope everyone is well and on their way to BFPs all round!!

Gemma xx

 

[havefaith01]

Hi everyone, can I join you? I've been looking for somewhere to talk about what's going on at the moment and this is the first place I've found that is actually talking about this period after MC!

I had a MMC diagnosed at 8 weeks...the baby lived to 6 weeks. I had surgical management 5 weeks ago today.

The doctors in the hospital were useless, but did tell me that I could TTC as soon as the bleeding stopped. As it turns out, I only had one night of bleeding and about 3 days of very very light brown spotting. We waited 13 days after the procedure to BD again...without protection.

I saw the doctor 8 days ago, and she was great...she told me that I was free to try again whenever I was ready (which was immediately, as i told her!) and she actually said that she had a miscarriage herself and never saw another period in-between her loss and a new pregnancy which she carried to term. She said I should expect AF in the next week.

That was last Friday. Now, by Sunday I hadn't seen AF, so I did a HPT and got a negative. It was a pack of two so I decided to wait a few days and try again. I tried again on Thursday this week and got a faint positive line. This has developed to a strong positive today.

I'm terrified that I'm imagining this development, and that the line isn't actually getting darker, but my DP says it's definitely darker too...which isn't something he'd lie about as he knows I rely on him for a sensible opinion!

I've had NO pregnancy symptoms except tiredness but I'm starting to get a bit excited now. I'm just worried about going back to the doctor as I will probably get someone different who will tell me it's probably leftover hormones (though I thought 5 weeks was quite a long time to still be getting a strong positive).

Has anyone been in this situation themselves? Regardless, it's lovely to be amongst people who have tried straight away and aren't going to tell me YOU SHOULD HAVE WAITED 6 MONTHS AND YOU'LL PROBABLY MISCARRY which I've had in other places

Hope everyone is well and on their way to BFPs all round!!

Gemma xx[/QUOTE

Yay! Congrats on the bfp! don't worry what other people say or think. 6 months.....that is crazy....I couldn't wait that long! Excited to hear your updates!! praying for a healthy 9 months! I am not so patiently waiting for mine...lol

 

[catinajar]

Hiya

I just hope this IS a real BFP and not leftover hormones. It seems hard to believe that a pregnancy test can be wrong after trusting it so implicitly during my first pregnancy, but I'm totally wary of it at this stage. Need to go and see a doctor next week to see what's going on.

6 months does seem ridiculous, but I've read that some women are told to wait up to a YEAR to conceive again...which seems silly to me because of the increase in fertility after a MC.

ANYWAY, at least we aren't amongst those people! There's no need to be patient...Patience doesn't get positives!

xxx

 

[havefaith01]

Hiya

I just hope this IS a real BFP and not leftover hormones. It seems hard to believe that a pregnancy test can be wrong after trusting it so implicitly during my first pregnancy, but I'm totally wary of it at this stage. Need to go and see a doctor next week to see what's going on.

6 months does seem ridiculous, but I've read that some women are told to wait up to a YEAR to conceive again...which seems silly to me because of the increase in fertility after a MC.

ANYWAY, at least we aren't amongst those people! There's no need to be patient...Patience doesn't get positives!

xxx

Praying it is a new bfp for you! have you taken anymore test? My fingers are soooo crossed for you!!!! Keep us updated! How are you Feeling?