TTC after miscarriage before AF

[Natnee]

So sorry to hear about your losses. I can't imagine how tough it must be to have a still birth as well. My OB, while still being helpful, just thinks it is a numbers game. We are still trying to prevent any underlying issue just in case, but I keep hearing just like you "just one of those things" and I'm having a hard time accepting that and can't sit here and do nothing. I really hope things work out for all of us soon.

It is quite simply the worst thing I have ever had to go through, and still go through. This past year has just been horrible. Sometimes it feels like it's all a dream, then the reality hits. It is getting a little easier as time goes on but then each time I get my hopes up for my rainbow, it gets shattered again. I got my latest BFP a week before Poppy's angelversary and it kind of sweetened the pain a little bit, and now i'm like back to square one all over again. xx

 

[Natnee]

Hi ladies, I've just read through all the posts this afternoon. So sorry for everyones losses.

I had my 2nd mc last week. Just really stopped the spotting over this weekend. I knew something was up when I had a lot of cm type stuff, then lo and behold the next day I started bleeding. It was on my daughters 5th birthday, I was 5+6. It was all the exact same as my mc last October, so when I went to the Epac last Tuesday for a scan I knew the worst had happened again.

I'm lucky to have a bereavement midwife I can go to as she organised the scan for me, and because my 2nd little girl was stillborn last year, I have now got an appointment with a consultant on 2nd June. Plus I'm 39 so I haven't got years and years to be waiting about.

I was told the whole wait a cycle, but they said it's purely for dating reasons. I'm keen to start ttc asap but a bit hesitant in case there's an underlying reason for the 2 mc's both being at 6 weeks. (There were no problems or anything wrong with me or Poppy who was stillborn - just 'one of those things') They suggested to take baby aspirin when I get a bfp just in case there's a blood clotting thing going on. I'm wondering whether it's more a hormonal thing due to certain things, but I'm possibly just reading too much and becoming a hypercondriact!

After my last mc in October we decided to wait a few months and didn't start ttc until the new year, when it took 4 cycles to fall. I got af back after 6 weeks to get af back last year, so who knows if it will take that long this time. I don't temp or chart, tried opk's a couple of cycles earlier this year but think I got more confused with them! This last cycle I just went by ewcm and managed it!!

I'm so so sorry for the losses you've had I really hope and pray you get your sticky bean soon I'm glad you're joining us here.

My cycles are everywhere atm. I looked back though and it seems they were a bit everywhere before the losses except the difference being I could still tell when I was ovulating then. Now I'm just having ewcm whenever and my cervix had been open twice so far this cycle so who even knows. Probably should have actually taken this month off like we planned but are ntnp.. Well he is. I'm still obsessing

Hope all you ladies are doing well

Thank you Yeah my cycles were a little bit weird after the 1st mc. After I got af back after having Poppy they were all 29 days, then it was 33 days after mc (counting 1st day of mc as day 1). Then it went 25, 28, 29, 27 and 26. So while not madly irregular, they were still all out a few days each time.
(I suppose 33 days isn't too bad, it's not as much as I thought)

I'm not clued up about cervix at all, I occasionally check but I don't know what's what plus I don't like poking about in there too much!! Although I did check today and I 'think' it's open a bit, but who knows lol!!

Oh I'm just such in a predicament at the moment… rock - and - hard - place spring to mind. To try again straight away (which I sort of want to) but then do I wait til I see the consultant and see if there's something wrong. I suppose I'm assuming I'd fall straight away but i suppose that's not a given!

That's a really hard decision. Do you consider yourself super fertile then? I read this the other day and found it interesting.https://m.livescience.com/22706-super-fertility-recurrent-miscarriages.html

I read that on a different site too but now can't find that one. I don't know if it is us and explains anything. I do seem to get pregnant very easily but just having trouble carrying them now. :/

Looking back even past the first mc it seems my cycles went between being 28 days and 32 so not a huge difference I guess.

TinyLynne, it could be bad luck but it's good to take care of yourself. I have read thyroid issues can cause miscarriages and thyroid problems do run in our family. Would be good if I could get tested but can't right now so on vitamins that are supposed to help if I do and maca is supposed to help some as well if that is my problem. I also have baby aspirin on hand for when I get another bfp I'll try that I'm thinking.

Really hoping whatever we are doing works to create a healthy place for our little babies to stick and grow

I don't know if I'm super fertile or not. It took 1 cycle to fall pregnant with both Belle and Poppy, I was 33 and 37 respectively. Last years mc it took 2 cycles, and this time it was 4th cycle. I just hope it doesn't take another 4 cycles again!

 

[TinyLynne]

It took me 3 cycles for #1 and after then 4 cycles after that mc to get #2. I'm right there with you in hoping it doesn't take another 4, it seemed excruciating to wait through, and it doesn't help that my cycles are longer than average. I really have a good feeling that it will happen easier for us this time. I used Preseed for the first time last cycle and I really think it had an impact on getting pregnant (even though I make plenty of cm on my own, lol) so we will be using it again this cycle, I really feel it is going to work again. That combine with the progesterone supplements my OB prescribed for after O, should hopefully mean that I get to keep my next one. I really do have high hopes, it is the only thing that gets me up and on with my day some mornings.

 

[mimdan]

Hi Girls

Thought I'd pop in and update. Although unfortunately theres not a great deal to update about Lol

Well I'm on CD33 today...have not tested at all this cycle YET. I dont have much in terms of symptoms of AF/BFP. Boob hurts very slighty on top near armpits this morning and been a little off emotionally which to me is typical AF. Atleast theres hope this isnt going to be another 60+ day cycle like last time. Based on previous cycles I'm not late for AF just yet. I'd say anything past CD37 is late for me. I have to go shopping today so may pick up some PG tests although In all honesty I'm not expecting a bfp so i may try to be strong and hold off for a while more. Whichever I decided I will update with result when I do POAS.

Hope everyone else is well ? Anyone else testing soon ? If so, GOOD LUCK

 

[mimdan]

Caved...tested...BFN

 

[happynewmom1]

Caved...tested...BFN

Oh no I'm sorry I hope it turns positive for you! I'm SO happy to see you here even if for a moment. I did message you but I know you aren't here all the time. I'm glad to hear an update though.

 

[mimdan]

Thanx happy x I'm ok though...think I've gone past caring at this point
Lol

How are you hun ? I will reply to your message tomorrow if not Saturday...Thank you for replying to me

 

[happynewmom1]

Thanx happy x I'm ok though...think I've gone past caring at this point
Lol

How are you hun ? I will reply to your message tomorrow if not Saturday...Thank you for replying to me

I'm ok. Dh has been very back and forth on what he wants. We had a fight like 2 weeks ago as he decided he never wants to have more kids. I think he is scared.. I am too. He was very supportive of having more after the first mc and now he is saying he'd like to wait a month and re-evaluate which I'm definitely more open to. But we basically have been ntnp up until yesterday so there is actually a chance we got ovulation before using protection this cycle. It's all so confusing but I am hoping we caught it and it's healthy. If we lose more I don't know what we would do he blames himself more than he should as I don't think we did anything wrong so sorry to ramble! It's been a challenging few months now.

 

[Babylove100]

Ah so sorry happynewmom, keeping everything crossed you caught and it's a super sticky one!

Aim nothing much to report, 2-3 dpo today, didn't bd as much as when I got my bfps but I guess it only takes one little swimmer and we're time it well so fx!! Will start testing next weekend! I can't wait!!!

 

[Rhi_Rhi1]

Good luck baby love =)

 

[oox_tasha_xoo]

Hi ladies thought I'd give an update... Been 7 and a half weeks since my miscarriage and I got a BFP on an ic yesterday and a BFP on a frer today. Feeling very nervous about it,the miscarriage certainly sucks the initial fun out of finding out your expecting. Going to book a doctors appointment in the week to discuss baby aspirin As iv had 3 miscarriages in 2 years xx

 

[Teeny Weeny]

Hi ladies thought I'd give an update... Been 7 and a half weeks since my miscarriage and I got a BFP on an ic yesterday and a BFP on a frer today. Feeling very nervous about it,the miscarriage certainly sucks the initial fun out of finding out your expecting. Going to book a doctors appointment in the week to discuss baby aspirin As iv had 3 miscarriages in 2 years xx

Congratulations. Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months. Xx

 

[Floralaura]

Hi all I'm 14 days post mc today and hoping to get a bfp rather than a af! Think I'm about to ovulate so heres for hoping ☺

 

[Teeny Weeny]

Hi all I'm 14 days post mc today and hoping to get a bfp rather than a af! Think I'm about to ovulate so heres for hoping ☺

I hope you catch that eggy. Sorry for your loss. Xx

 

[TinyLynne]

Congrats Tasha! It does suck that our previous MCs take that excitement away from us. I really hope all works out for you! Keep us posted!

 

[mssk]

Hey ladies. I am back again and hoping I can join you in your journeys. I suffered a mc 3/31/15 and started ttc right away. My DH and I were cautiously excited about getting our BFP before AF on 5/1 and just found out today at our 8 week scan that our baby is a blighted ovum. Needless to say we are devastated. But, we are determined to get our sticky bean and ready to ttc after we hear back from our Dr.

 

[TinyLynne]

So sorry for your loss mssk I know you guys must be heartbroken. hopefully in a couple of months we can all leave this thread behind. But for now, we are here for you.

 

[happynewmom1]

Oh mssk, I'm so sorry tinylynne is right. We are here for you. I hate you have to be in this section but glad you decided to join us

Welcome, FloraLaura! Good luck this cycle!

Congrats, Tasha!!! That's very exciting! Hope you have a very happy and healthy 9 months!

So I have been feeling pregnant but not sure where in my cycle I am. I'm guessing about 8dpo (am on cd 28) looking at my notes. I took a first signal cheapie test this morning and I'm not sure if it's faulty or something as it took forever to stream across to show lines. Ok.. Not forever. Maybe 5 minutes but a line started appearing as soon as it was slowly going over the Test part if that makes sense. It does look pinkish in real life. I'll be getting more tests.. I just don't have anymore. Not getting excited at all yet but I've taken a couple of these tests earlier this month and there was nothing on them at all.

 

[TinyLynne]

I do see something Happy! Get a frer! Fingers crossed for you!!

 

[happynewmom1]

I do see something Happy! Get a frer! Fingers crossed for you!!

Thank you!!! We will be going out later so will pick something up!!