TTC after multiple losses

[Trying4first1]

Hey ladies

I am going to be ttc again after suffering three first tri losses. Feeling very nervous and dreading the whole ttc process as it's just not fun anymore.

I have had my testing come back and all is clear . Me and DH want to give it one more shot before spending out a fortune on private testing. Praying it doesn't take forever to fall again this time. If it's going to be a non viable pregnancy again, I would rather I knew sooner, rather than trying for months on end to then find out (if that makes sense).

Anyone else in the same boat!? X

 

[LouOscar01]

I fall pregnant easily (with the help of Clomid) but struggling to cope with the worry and fear that accompanys every day. How anyone gets to 12 weeks I don't know! Really hope you get pregnant easily and that it stays.

All my tests have come back to show nothing wrong. Even the links between PCOS and miscarriage I don't seem to have those problems. My testosterone and progesterone are fine, LH hormone is already corrected by Clomid. So I'm wondering if I've just been unlucky or that my diet has improved my PCOS symptoms.

 

[lilmisscaviar]

Trying I'm glad to see that you're going to try again. I was in your August group and I just wanted to give you my support because I also suffered 3 first trimester losses in a row before I ended up pregnant with the baby I'm carrying now. I did all the testing before becoming pregnant again and all came back normal.

I was so frustrated I practically yelled at my doctor, asking her why this was happening. She told me that I have a "conductive uterus". She explained that not all eggs are good quality for making babies. In most people, these eggs are naturally rejected, even if fertilized and simply don't implant. In others, like me, the uterus accepts all eggs, whether good or bad. When these "bad eggs" stop developing normally, you miscarry.

It really sucks that this happens but it explains a lot. After my third miscarriage, my body must have finally realized that not all my eggs were good, and finally began automatically rejecting the bad ones because it took me 6 months to get pregnant with this baby whereas it usually only took me 1 or 2 cycles at most.

I'm not sure if they're available in the UK but in the US they actually just started making test strips similar to opk test strips that tell you if your egg quality is good or bad each cycle. Here is the link: https://www.early-pregnancy-tests.com/fshfetest.html

I wish you all the luck in the world and lots of baby dust! TTC really is a frustrating time...

 

[Trying4first1]

I fall pregnant easily (with the help of Clomid) but struggling to cope with the worry and fear that accompanys every day. How anyone gets to 12 weeks I don't know! Really hope you get pregnant easily and that it stays.

All my tests have come back to show nothing wrong. Even the links between PCOS and miscarriage I don't seem to have those problems. My testosterone and progesterone are fine, LH hormone is already corrected by Clomid. So I'm wondering if I've just been unlucky or that my diet has improved my PCOS symptoms.

Hi LouOscar.
I got pregnant very quickly the first row times but third took ages. Like you I also wonder how anyone gets through the first tri. Seems impossible. I just can't imagine ever getting there. I completely understand how you are feeling right now. Praying this is a sticky bean for you!

It's so frustrating isn't it when all tests come back as normal. You kind of wish there was something that could be fixed so you know what the issue is.
Maybe your diet has helped your PCOS which is fab!
I guess it's just taking things a day at a time. That's what I did last time. I didn't look ahead too much and was greatful for each week I made without any issues. My last loss was still a shock as I was so sick and I never eha that before. Was so convinced all would be ok.
Hopefully next time things will work out.
Praying you now get your rainbow!

 

[Trying4first1]

Trying I'm glad to see that you're going to try again. I was in your August group and I just wanted to give you my support because I also suffered 3 first trimester losses in a row before I ended up pregnant with the baby I'm carrying now. I did all the testing before becoming pregnant again and all came back normal.

I was so frustrated I practically yelled at my doctor, asking her why this was happening. She told me that I have a "conductive uterus". She explained that not all eggs are good quality for making babies. In most people, these eggs are naturally rejected, even if fertilized and simply don't implant. In others, like me, the uterus accepts all eggs, whether good or bad. When these "bad eggs" stop developing normally, you miscarry.

It really sucks that this happens but it explains a lot. After my third miscarriage, my body must have finally realized that not all my eggs were good, and finally began automatically rejecting the bad ones because it took me 6 months to get pregnant with this baby whereas it usually only took me 1 or 2 cycles at most.

I'm not sure if they're available in the UK but in the US they actually just started making test strips similar to opk test strips that tell you if your egg quality is good or bad each cycle. Here is the link: https://www.early-pregnancy-tests.com/fshfetest.html

I wish you all the luck in the world and lots of baby dust! TTC really is a frustrating time...

Hi lilmisscaviar
I remember you from the thread and glad all is going well! Really hope everyone else was ok and I was the only loss on that thread.
Thank you for your message. It's great to know that pregnancy can go well even after multiple losses.
I have heard about the women's uterus accepting the bad eggs when they shouldn't even be able to implant. I wonder if this is the case for me? I fell pregnant quickly the first 2 times (4 and 3 months) however the last time took 9 but I still miscarried, but maybe that one was a sporadic cause?
It is all so frustrating as everything looks perfect. Maybe it has been bad luck? I feel like it will happen again but we need to try otherwise we will never know. Also we have no children so we can't give up that easily. I will keep trying no matter how much it breaks out hearts each time. The pain will be worth it. If we get a rainbow 😊
Thank you for Letting me know about those tests. I will see if they are here in the UK. Hoepfully they are.
Me and DH were going to try again next cycle. I havnt ovulated yet so thinking maybe this cycle? I had my hysteroscopy on Monday and the lady said that I could have sex in just a few days! But I am still spotting from the procedure not sure what to do. I'm tempted to BD on Friday spotting or not.
I am on CD 14 with no positive OPK but got some EWCM today. I will prob ovulate later as is is only my second cycle post MC. I just want to get back on the wagon now as need to know the outcome either way.

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Hi Trying! We are a couple of the miscarriage threads together. I have had 6 losses this last year and have been told that I too have a "non-discriminating" uterus. We get pregnant even when it doesn't seem possible but haven't made it past 12 weeks since my dd. I am working with a ND, getting Accupuncture 2x/week and take 7 different supplements and have cut out gluten and dairy. My frustration is through the roof as I feel like I get my hopes up every time and my dreams are ripped away with every miscarriage.
I'm supposed to be wtt until end of April but I don't want to miss out on a good egg. I feel a little torn as to what I should be doing.
My fx'd that your rainbow comes soon!

 

[Trying4first1]

Hi ready!
So sorry you are also going through this. It is so frustrating and each loss makes you lose that little bit more hope. 6 miscarriages in a year is a lot, so maybe it is your body accepting the bad quality eggs after all? I wonder if this is our problem. I guess we are averagely fertile, I lost 3 in the space of 17 months. I have heard of acupuncture but no one has mentioned to me about a change in diet. How does that help? Also which supplements do you take?
I take omega 3 and D3 and folic acid (pregnacare) I stopped the omega and d3 last time when I got my BFP. Next time I will carry on taking to see if that makes a difference. Also will try baby asprin even though my tests were clear as it may help. I just feel like I need to try something new.
I hate that torn feeling. The doctor who did my procedure just said to wait a few days before having intercourse when I asked. So maybe this weekend will be fine if I don't ovulate before then. Are you waiting for your first cycle post MC?
I hope you get your rainbow soon too

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Trying-Accupuncture has so many benefits. I am using it to lessen the inflammation in my body along with the diet changes. So many of our health issues these days are do to inflammation (diet-processed, high sugar, dairy, gluten) which causes a mAjor inbalance in our bodies. A Paleo diet seems to decrease this as does the Accupuncture. I believe this to be one of my problems as does my naturopath. Symptoms I had/have heartburn/acid reflux, back and joint pain, fatigue, extreme cold, sluggish bowels, headaches, nausea. When I follow the Paleo diet I have none of these.
The supplements I take are: Vit d3, Vit c(immune boosting), multi prenatal, probiotic(gut health), omega 3, collagen(cell building to ensure nutrient rich womb), coq10(improve egg quality), nourish the essence (blood building traditional Chinese medicine botanical), holy basil (adrenal support). My ND created this due to my symptoms.
A great site I recommend for any that connect with traditional Chinese medicine (I'm not too pro conventional as I don't think they get to the root of the problem) www.makingbabiesprogram.com. There is a questionnaire that determines your type and supplement/diet/exercise or not to do.
As for waiting I'm conflicted. My body does really need a break from being pregnant but what if the cycles I mess have good eggs? We did have another slip up but I don't think I have ovulated yet so may be ok.

 

[Carybear]

Hi... I'm so sorry for your losses. I had a loss at 6 weeks and another at 9 weeks. It took us 2 1/2 years for the first pregnancy and 2 1/2 years for the second one. It's been almost ten months since the last mc. Dh and I really want children but we are just trying without all the temping. Our insurance will not pay for anything so testing, IVF, etc. Is out for us

 

[LouOscar01]

Carybear, I can't imagine having to TTC for that long just to miscarry xxxx Fingers crossed for next time

 

[Trying4first1]

Trying-Accupuncture has so many benefits. I am using it to lessen the inflammation in my body along with the diet changes. So many of our health issues these days are do to inflammation (diet-processed, high sugar, dairy, gluten) which causes a mAjor inbalance in our bodies. A Paleo diet seems to decrease this as does the Accupuncture. I believe this to be one of my problems as does my naturopath. Symptoms I had/have heartburn/acid reflux, back and joint pain, fatigue, extreme cold, sluggish bowels, headaches, nausea. When I follow the Paleo diet I have none of these.
The supplements I take are: Vit d3, Vit c(immune boosting), multi prenatal, probiotic(gut health), omega 3, collagen(cell building to ensure nutrient rich womb), coq10(improve egg quality), nourish the essence (blood building traditional Chinese medicine botanical), holy basil (adrenal support). My ND created this due to my symptoms.
A great site I recommend for any that connect with traditional Chinese medicine (I'm not too pro conventional as I don't think they get to the root of the problem) www.makingbabiesprogram.com. There is a questionnaire that determines your type and supplement/diet/exercise or not to do.
As for waiting I'm conflicted. My body does really need a break from being pregnant but what if the cycles I mess have good eggs? We did have another slip up but I don't think I have ovulated yet so may be ok.

Hi ready
Thank you so much for all of the information 😊 I have heard so much about acupuncture but have never tried it. I am very sceptical about it so I don't think it would work for me. Although I know it has helped other ladies.
I take a couple of the vitimins you have suggested but I would like to try and boost my egg quality as maybe I have bad eggs? I am only 30 but I didn't start my periods very young.
I had unprotected sex on Friday night and got a blazing positive OPK yesterday on CD 17. In guessing this will be a longer cycle. So we BD again yesterday and thought what the hell! It took a while to conceive last time so may as well start trying.
I won't get my hopes up as I know that it is unlikely that we will conceive so soon after a D&C, just thought be good to get back into the swing of trying again. So a practice run

 

[Trying4first1]

Hi... I'm so sorry for your losses. I had a loss at 6 weeks and another at 9 weeks. It took us 2 1/2 years for the first pregnancy and 2 1/2 years for the second one. It's been almost ten months since the last mc. Dh and I really want children but we are just trying without all the temping. Our insurance will not pay for anything so testing, IVF, etc. Is out for us

Hi Cary

So sorry to hear about your losses. How heartbreaking especially after trying for all of that time X
I don't blame you for not temping. I am not doing it this time round as it stressed me out so much last time that I have it up. I am just using OPKs. Last time I fell pregnant I was just using OPks, so all the temperature taking was not nessassary.
If you don't mind me asking, are your cycles regular?

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Trying-2 supplements that keep popping up for egg quality are royal jelly and coq10.

 

[Trying4first1]

Thank you ready
I feel like I need to start taking somehing new

 

[Trying4first1]

Well I am not convinced that I have ovulated this month
I usually got sore BBs 3 days after and I have nothing what so ever. Thing is I don't temp and I don't want to as I have found it too stressful. But I know it's the only way to confirm ovulation as OPks just indicate an LH surge. Guess will have to see how things go for a while and wait for my cycles to sort themselves out

 

[ReadynWaiting]

My naturopath wants me to start temping again but it really makes me feel each day drag by. I don't think I have been ovulating when I "should" be either but I haven't had a full cycle not post miscarriage in over a year.
I'm sure our bodies are out of whack following multiple losses.
Have you decided on what you want to take or do to get ready for the next pregnancy?

 

[Trying4first1]

Hi ready
Oh it sure does with temping. Plus I find that it disturbs my sleep as I have in my mind all night that I must not forget. So I don't think mine are ever that accurate.
I think the body must need time. Being pregnant one minute and then not the next all the time must confuse things in there!

I am taking omega 3 and D3 and will carry on with a BFP. I will run and out get a low dose asprin as soon as I get a BFP too. Also thinking of using the Royal jelly for egg quality. I'm going to town next week so will see what I can find 😊 I just feel like I'm being left to get on with things. Having all the tests has provided no help what so ever. It's so frustrating 😕

 

[ReadynWaiting]

That is exactly how I felt. After 6 losses not one dr or specialist followed up or was proactive about testing. The specialist only wanted to test egg quality and sperm which to me is only scraping the surface. I sought out my own care which led me to the naturopath. Their belief is to get to the root of the problem and fix you from the inside out. It is costing me a lot out of pocket but I feel like I'm on the right path if anything to be my healthiest self.

 

[Trying4first1]

It's awful isn't it how it just isn't taken seriously. I havnt even had my egg quality tested as they wouldn't do it 😕
I think you do need to get to the root of the problem. Me and DH are looking at a clinic this week. Be interesting to see what they offer

 

[wannabemummyb]

Hi ladies, I've now had four 1st trimester losses - we've been trying for over 6 years in total now and have nothing to show for it.

Since mc 4 in Nov '15, AF has bee playing up too! Took forever to turn up after mc and now is AWOL again!