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TTC after multiple losses

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Wannabe-I'm so sorry for your losses and struggle. It's just so heartbreaking and frustrating. I see you suffer from pcos and hypothuroidism. What kind of treatment plan do you have?
Trying-GL with the clinic. I hope they can offer you some real help!
I am just waiting for af and then think we may give ttc a go this month. I'm feeling really positive with the past 3 months and everything I have been doing (diet changes, supplements, Accupuncture,etc) plus this is the most fertile time of the year. Everything is starting to grow again, weather is warming up. It just feels right!
 
ReadynWaiting said:
Wannabe-I'm so sorry for your losses and struggle. It's just so heartbreaking and frustrating. I see you suffer from pcos and hypothuroidism. What kind of treatment plan do you have?
Trying-GL with the clinic. I hope they can offer you some real help!
I am just waiting for af and then think we may give ttc a go this month. I'm feeling really positive with the past 3 months and everything I have been doing (diet changes, supplements, Accupuncture,etc) plus this is the most fertile time of the year. Everything is starting to grow again, weather is warming up. It just feels right!
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Thank you - on metformin for PCOS and Levothyroxine for the thyroid. When I had a scan after mc 4 they said that the PCOS was really mild now - which is good news.

The NHS won't do anything fr me until I lose weight but equally won't help me lose weight! Catch 22
 
That's frustrating! I have found eating Paleo has made a big difference for me. You don't have to track calories and fat just focus on eating whole foods. There are tons of cookbooks and recipes online. If you are on Pinterest there are all kinds of different ideas.
 
Sorry it took me so long to get back...

Trying, yes my cycles are regular. Most of the time they are 30 days like clockwork. Occasionally I will have a cycle where I am 4-5 days late but then will quickly return to 30 days the next month.

I'm 40 now but started trying when we got married 6 years ago...

Wanna I understand the six years and nothing to show for it.

The last mc was a blighted ovum. I mc at 9 weeks. I have never felt so much pain! I had been losing clots for about a week from a closed cervix! When I got to the ER I was having contractions. I no longer had a placenta the sac was in my cervix.

It took 6 weeks to go from 12000 HCG to 2. I have never had so many internal ultrasounds!

I was diagnosed with graves a long time ago, but my thyroid has been normal for about 3 1/2 years without medication. My endo wants to test for PCOS, but I have no symptoms. But, if they hadn't of felt my thyroid I wouldn't have known that I had hyperthyroid as I had no symptoms!

SO, we wait... I get loads of EWCM every month so I just time it around then...

It will be 6 years trying in July!
 
Cary- sorry that you are going through all of this! I hope your rainbow comes soon.
 
wannabemummyb said:
Hi ladies, I've now had four 1st trimester losses - we've been trying for over 6 years in total now and have nothing to show for it.

Since mc 4 in Nov '15, AF has bee playing up too! Took forever to turn up after mc and now is AWOL again!
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Hi wannabemummy and welcome 😊

So sorry for your losses. I understand the frustration of recurrent miscarriage. Everyday I worry about the future but I try to remain positive otherwise it will just drive me bonkers.
Have you had any testing?
All mine came back clear so no idea where to go now. DH wants to try one more time before going private as it will cost so much.
 
Carybear said:
Sorry it took me so long to get back...

Trying, yes my cycles are regular. Most of the time they are 30 days like clockwork. Occasionally I will have a cycle where I am 4-5 days late but then will quickly return to 30 days the next month.

I'm 40 now but started trying when we got married 6 years ago...

Wanna I understand the six years and nothing to show for it.

The last mc was a blighted ovum. I mc at 9 weeks. I have never felt so much pain! I had been losing clots for about a week from a closed cervix! When I got to the ER I was having contractions. I no longer had a placenta the sac was in my cervix.

It took 6 weeks to go from 12000 HCG to 2. I have never had so many internal ultrasounds!

I was diagnosed with graves a long time ago, but my thyroid has been normal for about 3 1/2 years without medication. My endo wants to test for PCOS, but I have no symptoms. But, if they hadn't of felt my thyroid I wouldn't have known that I had hyperthyroid as I had no symptoms!

SO, we wait... I get loads of EWCM every month so I just time it around then...

It will be 6 years trying in July!
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Hi Cary
That's great that your cycles are regular and that your getting EWCM.
Like you I have also had a BO with one of my losses. I had never heard of a BO but now I seem to hear of them a fair bit.
Maybe getting tested for PCOS will at least rule it out. I have heard that some women don't get any symptoms which is strange.
Let's hope this long ride in the TTC train ends soon :flower:
 
ReadynWaiting said:
Wannabe-I'm so sorry for your losses and struggle. It's just so heartbreaking and frustrating. I see you suffer from pcos and hypothuroidism. What kind of treatment plan do you have?
Trying-GL with the clinic. I hope they can offer you some real help!
I am just waiting for af and then think we may give ttc a go this month. I'm feeling really positive with the past 3 months and everything I have been doing (diet changes, supplements, Accupuncture,etc) plus this is the most fertile time of the year. Everything is starting to grow again, weather is warming up. It just feels right!
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Hi ready
Thank you. Hoping we find it useful and get some information at least. Be good to see what is on offer.
I love you PMA :thumbup:
All of those things will have definatley put you in the best shape for ttc. Spring is also a great time. It makes us feel better and our mood will impact on our fertility.
I can't wait for the summer now. After my last MC I went into depression and I really don't want to feel like that again. I can feel it creeping back in now, but I am determind to keep busy and to enjoy these lovely summer nights when they arrive 😊
 
Trying-it is hard to stay positive all of the time especially when it seems everyone around you is pregnant. I just feel like now new growth is amongst us and so are our rainbows!
 
I agree. It is so hard. I have a feeling that one of my friends is pregnant and she is hiding it from me. So that's going to be slightly awkward :wacko: feel so uncomfortable around pregnant women. I need to get over it.
I will go for that 😊 Spring means new life and in our case also new rainbows!
 
We just had 2 friends tell us over the past 2 weeks that they are pregnant. They are both on their 2nd baby while we have been trying for this one. I have had a couple of good cries to say the least. I don't think we need to get over it because our pain is real. Be gentle with yourself, feel what you need to and don't feel bad about it.
If you need to rant, scream, cry I'm hear to listen ��
 
Trying4first1 said:
Carybear said:
Sorry it took me so long to get back...

Trying, yes my cycles are regular. Most of the time they are 30 days like clockwork. Occasionally I will have a cycle where I am 4-5 days late but then will quickly return to 30 days the next month.

I'm 40 now but started trying when we got married 6 years ago...

Wanna I understand the six years and nothing to show for it.

The last mc was a blighted ovum. I mc at 9 weeks. I have never felt so much pain! I had been losing clots for about a week from a closed cervix! When I got to the ER I was having contractions. I no longer had a placenta the sac was in my cervix.

It took 6 weeks to go from 12000 HCG to 2. I have never had so many internal ultrasounds!

I was diagnosed with graves a long time ago, but my thyroid has been normal for about 3 1/2 years without medication. My endo wants to test for PCOS, but I have no symptoms. But, if they hadn't of felt my thyroid I wouldn't have known that I had hyperthyroid as I had no symptoms!

SO, we wait... I get loads of EWCM every month so I just time it around then...

It will be 6 years trying in July!
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Hi Cary
That's great that your cycles are regular and that your getting EWCM.
Like you I have also had a BO with one of my losses. I had never heard of a BO but now I seem to hear of them a fair bit.
Maybe getting tested for PCOS will at least rule it out. I have heard that some women don't get any symptoms which is strange.
Let's hope this long ride in the TTC train ends soon :flower:
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Yes, they have always been regular. I'm so ready for this train to stop and I get off with a baby or two in my arms :-)

This cycle is very different. I was 5 days late when AF came. It was not nearly as heavy as it usually is and lasted only 3 days. The third day was not heavy at all. Today is CD5 and I had a thick yellowy discharge. Not sure what that is...
 
ReadynWaiting said:
We just had 2 friends tell us over the past 2 weeks that they are pregnant. They are both on their 2nd baby while we have been trying for this one. I have had a couple of good cries to say the least. I don't think we need to get over it because our pain is real. Be gentle with yourself, feel what you need to and don't feel bad about it.
If you need to rant, scream, cry I'm hear to listen ��
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Oh ready. That must have been so hard for you. It just doesn't seem fair at all. I would have had a good cry after too.
Your right, I am being hard on myself. This pain is very real indeed and I need to except that my feelings are completely valid.
Thank you I appreciate and same to you :flower:
I went to the clinics his evening and can't say that I found out much as it was more geared towards IVF patients. I did ask some questions and the chap asked me when my last MC was. He then told me that after each MC it will take me longer the fall pregnant. WTH! I was so dumbstruck I didn't ask why. How can this be true? Yes it took us much longer last time but I found out I had cervicitus. Soon as that went I fell the following month. I wonder if he was using scare tactics?
 
Carybear said:
Trying4first1 said:
Carybear said:
Sorry it took me so long to get back...

Trying, yes my cycles are regular. Most of the time they are 30 days like clockwork. Occasionally I will have a cycle where I am 4-5 days late but then will quickly return to 30 days the next month.

I'm 40 now but started trying when we got married 6 years ago...

Wanna I understand the six years and nothing to show for it.

The last mc was a blighted ovum. I mc at 9 weeks. I have never felt so much pain! I had been losing clots for about a week from a closed cervix! When I got to the ER I was having contractions. I no longer had a placenta the sac was in my cervix.

It took 6 weeks to go from 12000 HCG to 2. I have never had so many internal ultrasounds!

I was diagnosed with graves a long time ago, but my thyroid has been normal for about 3 1/2 years without medication. My endo wants to test for PCOS, but I have no symptoms. But, if they hadn't of felt my thyroid I wouldn't have known that I had hyperthyroid as I had no symptoms!

SO, we wait... I get loads of EWCM every month so I just time it around then...

It will be 6 years trying in July!
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Hi Cary
That's great that your cycles are regular and that your getting EWCM.
Like you I have also had a BO with one of my losses. I had never heard of a BO but now I seem to hear of them a fair bit.
Maybe getting tested for PCOS will at least rule it out. I have heard that some women don't get any symptoms which is strange.
Let's hope this long ride in the TTC train ends soon :flower:
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Yes, they have always been regular. I'm so ready for this train to stop and I get off with a baby or two in my arms :-)

This cycle is very different. I was 5 days late when AF came. It was not nearly as heavy as it usually is and lasted only 3 days. The third day was not heavy at all. Today is CD5 and I had a thick yellowy discharge. Not sure what that is...
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Oh Carybear that would be amazing 😊 I would love even just one right now. Hopefully our stop will be soon. Had enough of this long ride now.
I too have varying flows sometimes so I guess thats normal? Like some months it's so light and some months it last 3 days and others 5. Maybe it depends on how much lining needs shedding?
Ohhhh no idea about the discharge? Have u had it before?
 
Ready... So sorry for the announcements. Both my nephew's wife and my niece are expecting. I'm pretty sure my nephew's wife got pregnant on the honeymoon or shortly thereafter... Sigh!!!

Trying... I've Never had the discharge right after AF. I usually have it right before AF. I've had a little bit of cramping off and on too... But AF has been over for a couple of days. Today I noticed a tiny amount of EWCM... What??? on cd6??? Guess we will get busy and see what happens.

I've been so exhausted lately. After only being up for a few hours I'm ready to go back to bed. I'm thinking to make a DR's appt and see if I'm low in B12 or something...

My niece didn't send me an invitation to her baby shower. (I wouldn't have gone anyway as I live 14 hours away) BUT... It hurt a little. I've only ever showed excitement for her. I may have cried alone, but never where she could hear of it. I know that she feels bad because of my two MC's but I don't think she realizes how it hurts to be excluded too. I went ahead and bought a gift and a book for her anyway. I mean who doesn't love an excuse to buy adorable little baby girl clothes :-)
 
Trying-When I saw the specialist in Jan I left feeling disappointed and more convinced to direct my own care. I think a lot of those clinics go straight for the kill (drugs and Ivf) rather than getting to the root of the problem and fixing things. It's absolute bullshit that it takes longer to get of after each mc. I have been of 6 times in a year...no problem getting pregnant just staying of but I don't believe that has anything to do with the miscarriages.
My decision to see a naturopath was driven by wanting my body to do things on its own. I believe once it's balanced I will sustain a pregnancy. I have 2 children and know my body is capable. I am older but I think that is only a small factor.
Cary-I'm sorry your niece made the decision she did but goon on you for still getting the baby something. I'm sure her decision was based more on geography than anything. I wouldn't expect anyone to drive all day long for a shower.
 
Was hoping I could join in. I've had three loses all around 6 weeks :(. I'm starting to come round with the idea of trying again. I had my appointment today with the results of the blood tests I had done regarding the losses. Which I'm kind of annoyed with but I know it's good news. On a good note they did say I could take aspirin with the next pregnancy. Anyone any advice about aspirin? The doctor was lovely and I feel a bit more confident about trying again. My period should have been yesterday but still not sign took a test but it was negative... Wasn't really trying this month but want to know where my period is flip sake.

Trying4first1: I feel the same way I should be due next month but I'm not starting to TTC again and it just sucks. The only thing I have by my side is I get pregnant quickly.

Louoscar: I'm wishing you the best of luck for a sticky bean. Sending you lots of positive thoughts.

Lilmisscaviar: glad everything is going well for you :)

Readynwaiting: hiya, I think I've bumped into you here before :). I'm so sorry for your losses. I'm keeping my FX for you to have your rainbow baby.

Carybear: so sorry to hear. I can't imagine how hard that must be.

Wannabe: I'm so sorry to hear about your losses.
 
Hi Vicky! Sorry for all of your losses! What were the Results of your tests? All look fine? Why did your dr recommended aspirin? I ask because I have read so much that says aspirin really has no affect either way yet so many people are told to take it as a precautionary thing. I have been contemplating taking it with my next bfp just to see.
There is so much mixed info out there for so many things. You hear success stories when someone took aspirin or had Accupuncture or took Vit d (etc). Any test I have had comes back normal and I feel less and less like there will be an exact answer for what will work for me. I'm sure so many feel the same way.
Anyways, just wanted to say welcome!:hi:
 
Oh sorry I copied and pasted a bit from another thread so I didn't have to write it all out again lol. The test results all came back normal. Well... The doctor didn't say for me to take aspirin but I kind of... begged haha. I was like either give me something or sterilise me I just wanted something changed for me to have some hope of having a successful pregnancy. I know it might not make any difference but I just wanted something. It would be brilliant if there was just a magic pill eh? Thank you :) xx
 
Carybear said:
Ready... So sorry for the announcements. Both my nephew's wife and my niece are expecting. I'm pretty sure my nephew's wife got pregnant on the honeymoon or shortly thereafter... Sigh!!!

Trying... I've Never had the discharge right after AF. I usually have it right before AF. I've had a little bit of cramping off and on too... But AF has been over for a couple of days. Today I noticed a tiny amount of EWCM... What??? on cd6??? Guess we will get busy and see what happens.

I've been so exhausted lately. After only being up for a few hours I'm ready to go back to bed. I'm thinking to make a DR's appt and see if I'm low in B12 or something...

My niece didn't send me an invitation to her baby shower. (I wouldn't have gone anyway as I live 14 hours away) BUT... It hurt a little. I've only ever showed excitement for her. I may have cried alone, but never where she could hear of it. I know that she feels bad because of my two MC's but I don't think she realizes how it hurts to be excluded too. I went ahead and bought a gift and a book for her anyway. I mean who doesn't love an excuse to buy adorable little baby girl clothes :-)
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Hi Cary
That is very strange. I wish I could offer some insight. F your getting some EWCM I would def BD incase so you have all bases covered :thumbup:
Maybe the exhaustion is due to a lack of something? Definatley worth getting checked out.
So sorry to hear that you didn't get an invite to the shower. In a sense that is worse. At least if you get invited you can make the choice about whether to go or not. Shopping for little clothes etc is lovely. I still love bying for my friends babies and my nephew. No matter how heartbroken I am about my losses
 
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