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Last year was horrible. We had three miscarriages, one after another, my sister told me she didn’t want me in her life anymore as it was ‘too hard’ (I didn’t get an explanation), I was diagnosed with CIN3 and had treatment for that (my test of cure came back this month HPV negative) and my husband was diagnosed with a varicocele (basically a varicose vein in his testicle, which can cause infertility).
So, not the best year, but thankful for what we have. We both wanted to try for one more baby and after the miscarriages I was referred to the fertility clinic. I have had loads of bloods done, one returned a bit off which we need to do again, but other than that everything else has been ok. I had a pelvic scan and vaginal swab which were both fine too. My progesterone levels were checked and were spot on. The only thing we can think is that my husband now has a varicocele which can cause low count, motility problems and damaged DNA. The fertility clinic won’t hear it. They have said if I get pregnant before my next face-to-face in five months, I am to use progesterone, but they will not listen to me when I say varicocele can cause infertility. I don’t know why and I don’t know how to make them listen. Husband is on a waiting list for surgery to fix it, but the longer it’s left the more damage is done I think. I read a study which said only 35-50% of couples got pregnant after successful surgery for it. I’m already 39, so age isn’t on my side.
Currently on day 4 of my cycle and have started soy isoflavones because I want to increase the chances of egg quality being ok. We had trouble conceiving Castiel, until I took soy isoflavones, got pregnant first cycle on it. I’m not expecting a miracle. I’m worried I will miscarry again if I do get pregnant. But I don’t feel like I have the luxury of time to just wait I don’t know how long until my husband’s surgery. What if one good swimmer finds its way there? We would have waited for nothing then. But what if an unhealthy one does instead and I miscarry again… rock and hard place
So, not the best year, but thankful for what we have. We both wanted to try for one more baby and after the miscarriages I was referred to the fertility clinic. I have had loads of bloods done, one returned a bit off which we need to do again, but other than that everything else has been ok. I had a pelvic scan and vaginal swab which were both fine too. My progesterone levels were checked and were spot on. The only thing we can think is that my husband now has a varicocele which can cause low count, motility problems and damaged DNA. The fertility clinic won’t hear it. They have said if I get pregnant before my next face-to-face in five months, I am to use progesterone, but they will not listen to me when I say varicocele can cause infertility. I don’t know why and I don’t know how to make them listen. Husband is on a waiting list for surgery to fix it, but the longer it’s left the more damage is done I think. I read a study which said only 35-50% of couples got pregnant after successful surgery for it. I’m already 39, so age isn’t on my side.
Currently on day 4 of my cycle and have started soy isoflavones because I want to increase the chances of egg quality being ok. We had trouble conceiving Castiel, until I took soy isoflavones, got pregnant first cycle on it. I’m not expecting a miracle. I’m worried I will miscarry again if I do get pregnant. But I don’t feel like I have the luxury of time to just wait I don’t know how long until my husband’s surgery. What if one good swimmer finds its way there? We would have waited for nothing then. But what if an unhealthy one does instead and I miscarry again… rock and hard place
