TTC for 7 months..feeling like I'm on my own...

[katherinegrey]

I've been ttc six months and am just about to start my 7th cycle ttc so I know what you mean about every month you get your hopes up for nothing. My OH refuses point blank to talk about ttc around ovulation time as it 'puts pressure on him to perform', which upsets me but then men just don't understand how horrible it is every month. My OH is NTNP, I'm ttc, that's how I look at it!

Hope you get your bfp soon honey xxx

 

[Shay3311]

My husband and I have also been trying for 7 months. My sister in law (who also is one of my best friends) and her fiancé were trying as well and for months I had her to talk to, but last month she got her bfp! I am soooo happy for them but now feel like I have no one to talk to because I don't want her to feel bad for being pregnant when I'm not yet.

What really makes me upset is the couple other people I have tried to talk to about it (my mom and other best friend) arent supportive of how I feel. Their response is "well apparently it's not supposed to happen now so just quit trying"!

 

[MrsHamstra]

My husband and I have also been trying for 7 months. My sister in law (who also is one of my best friends) and her fiancé were trying as well and for months I had her to talk to, but last month she got her bfp! I am soooo happy for them but now feel like I have no one to talk to because I don't want her to feel bad for being pregnant when I'm not yet.

What really makes me upset is the couple other people I have tried to talk to about it (my mom and other best friend) arent supportive of how I feel. Their response is "well apparently it's not supposed to happen now so just quit trying"!

Oh I hate that more than anything. I beleive in god. But.i think its pure science. Im torn.
But everyone older than us tells us.well it will happen when god sees fit. Grrrr shut up I want.a baby
Then there is this new tv show one born every minuet. What? Really?
I think they should be more understanding and say aww keep trying dont give up. I would never tell someone well it will happen when it happens. Or maybe its not ment to be. Until they walk in our shoes every cycle they shouldnt say anything negative

 

[Jaws]

Glad to see such great support here. I too, have been trying for 7 months. It is upsetting seeing friends and family with littles ones when you are having some difficulties having one of your own. Reach out to me anytime. I'll be here to listen.

 

[BGulley]

I am the same way. To top it off, Everyone else seems to get pregnant very easily. I think it is normal. I might suggest trying SoftCups and Preseed. We have been trying for 9 months and people seem to have success with it. If you ever need to talk.. Inbox

 

[lildebs]

we tried preseed this cycle///no cups though...hoping for a bfp by xmas...

 

[Clucky as]

Hey we are all in the same boat. Just come on here and vent. Me and oh 8months of trying. Opks are good temping maybe if u are organized. I found I am getting depressed too.talk to your husband, even write a letter to him o u can get your feelings out then he may understand better. Sometimes men switch off and not hear u properly? .I know mines like that.

 

[lildebs]

my hubby is a nonchalant kinda guy...every month i get my period i start crying...and every month he asks me why im so upset...um hellooooo....we have been tryin to have a baby for the last 7 mths...he just says it will happen dont worry about it..he wants a family as much as i do, but i obviously suffer more of the emotional part...the day i get my period im that much more upset...find myself in a slump, very depressed too. so grateful to be able to talk on here cuz it really has helped me...just feels good to get it out...

 

[LemonTea]

I'm chiming in a bit late, but I'm right there with you. I'm on month 6 / cycle 7 of actively trying (with a few months of NTNP before that). When I stop to think about how long we've been having unprotected sex, but with no BFP, it is truly depressing. All the time I spent worrying about birth control, and not to mention all the money I spent buying Plan B because I was afraid our birth control had failed - I regret all the worrying, I really do.

I was wondering if there were any other women here who are in that middle ground of over 6 months, under 12 months. It's a tough spot to be in because the novelty of TTC for the first time has long worn off, and the one-year trying mark seems to be fast approaching. I'm new to BNB, so I don't know how the 'buddy' system works, but if anyone in the over 6/under 12 category wants a buddy, let me know, as I could definitely use a few!

 

[jchic]

You are SO not alone! DH and I are in month 5 of ttc and its definitely a very sensitive journey! Who knew we had all these emotions! It will happen for all of us. I remember thinking that getting prego would be SO easy when it reality, its not! Even when timed perfectly, its not a guarantee each month. Just try to take it easy and vent away on here, we all listen!

 

[jchic]

Lemon! I am in Month 5 and on my first round of femara (which is like clomid). How do you like it? I ovulate on my own and DH sperm is completely ok, but doc saw I was getting ttc antsy and said this would help produce big "shiny" eggs, LOL
Are you monitored with it? I went for a u/s on Monday and had 3 follicles that were pretty big, but the right side was the one that was releasing the biggest egg.

 

[babydust818]

Hi Annabelle!

You're not alone! I too have been TTC for awhile now (since April). I did get pregnant in July but lost it shortly after. I've been TTC ever since and it seems like it's never going to happen. It gets so tough and definitely tests your patience. Hang in there dear. We're in this together.

 

[LemonTea]

Lemon! I am in Month 5 and on my first round of femara (which is like clomid). How do you like it? I ovulate on my own and DH sperm is completely ok, but doc saw I was getting ttc antsy and said this would help produce big "shiny" eggs, LOL
Are you monitored with it? I went for a u/s on Monday and had 3 follicles that were pretty big, but the right side was the one that was releasing the biggest egg.

Hey Jchic! Interesting that you're on Femara -- I'm thinking about asking our RE about it next time I see her, because I'm seriously worried about the fact that Clomid is said to dry CM.

So far so good though (but it's only the first month) -- I haven't had any major side effects that I can think of. I went by some suggestions I saw online, and chose to take it at night (so if I had hot flashes or anything like that, I'd just sleep through it). Do you have any major side effects with Femara?

Now I'm just waiting to O. My O date was all over the place before Clomid, so I have no idea when to expect it -- I'm on CD13, and still very faint lines on my OPK strips, so I'm not thinking it's anytime soon.

I am not being monitored -- the RE didn't mention it, and I didn't think to even ask her about it until I started coming on the boards and reading about ppl who are being monitored. I'm not too worried about it though. Clomid isn't known to cause OHSS in many cases so I'm not worried about producing too many follicles. And, I had some mild cramping around my ovaries (both sides) a couple of times during the five days I was on Clomid, and then off and on during the past couple days, so I'm pretty certain SOMETHING is happening.

I'm undecided about whether I'll be asked to be monitored next month. On the one hand, it would be neat to see for sure that the Clomid is doing something, and if so, exactly how many follicles I'm making. On the other hand, I think if I go to a doctor and see a bunch of follicles, and then later have a BFN, it will be all the more depressing.

What CD is this for you?

 

[jchic]

Hey Lemon!

I am on CD17 and I am pretty sure I ovulated yesterday according to my chart. Femara is fine, I had no side effects. I had a headache the first 2 days on and off, but nothing tylenol didnt fix! No hot flashes or anything. Femara dried my CM a bit too (not a HUGE difference, but still a bit drier) so I used the preseed. Have you used that at all?

 

[LemonTea]

Hey Lemon!

I am on CD17 and I am pretty sure I ovulated yesterday according to my chart. Femara is fine, I had no side effects. I had a headache the first 2 days on and off, but nothing tylenol didnt fix! No hot flashes or anything. Femara dried my CM a bit too (not a HUGE difference, but still a bit drier) so I used the preseed. Have you used that at all?

Yep, we've been using preseed for about four months now. I think it's been a big help this month for sure!

 

[Rebandy11]

Hope you guys dont mind me joining it, just found the TTC #1 forum on here. I am on my 6th cycle TTC with a year of NTNP before that. It is very discouraging praying for a every month and AF shows pretty much on time. I have never gotten a so that is even more discouraging and i have not had any medical intervention as we are both still young and gonna give it a while. I am starting to try herbal supplements though, taking prenatals, EVO 1000mg, B100 and baby aspirin. Gonna try Soy Iso CD2-6. I am charting and using OPK. It is so great to find people who are in the same boat as you. to us all and hopefully we get our soon and that we can learn from each others success