mamamac-I completely understand. I had my heart set on a home birth or at least birthing at our local birthing center. I was so upset when I found out that wouldn't be possible with having twins. It took a while for me to accept that, but in the end I know it's what will be safest for my babies. I was hoping to at least be able to have a vaginal/natural birth, but baby a is breech so we are looking at a c-section.
Just a heads up, I don't know if you know this, but most hospitals require you to birth in the operating room and tend to encourage an epidural. When baby A comes out, sometimes baby B can flip around and need to be turned (reason for epidural) or baby B is stressed from all of baby A's labor and more likely to be stressed/require a c-section (reason for OR and for epi). Make sure you discuss all this with your doctor and see what their requirements are. We talked to a midwife who actually gave the names of some doctors/hospitals that were more open natural methods, so maybe you could talk to the midwife about that.
Hang in there, I know it sucks to have your plans ruined before you even get close to the labor part...