twin mamas to be when are you due and what/who are you having?

[trgirl308]

Oh the twin feeding cushion is the greatest thing ever! For the first 24 hours in NICU I fed one at a time, but then the nurse helped me and since I have always tandem fed them and it is going really well. I didn't have a section, but I still had to wait 2 hours before I could see them and then I did skin to skin and feeding came on its own. I'm sure you'll be ok.

 

[MamaMac123]

Oh the twin feeding cushion is the greatest thing ever! For the first 24 hours in NICU I fed one at a time, but then the nurse helped me and since I have always tandem fed them and it is going really well. I didn't have a section, but I still had to wait 2 hours before I could see them and then I did skin to skin and feeding came on its own. I'm sure you'll be ok.

Oh wow, a 2 hour wait to see them?? That would make me go crazy! Glad the feeding is going well. Do you feel like bonding and everything going okay even with them spending time in NICU and having the delay of seeing them and skin to skin. That's one of my worries.

 

[trgirl308]

Oh the twin feeding cushion is the greatest thing ever! For the first 24 hours in NICU I fed one at a time, but then the nurse helped me and since I have always tandem fed them and it is going really well. I didn't have a section, but I still had to wait 2 hours before I could see them and then I did skin to skin and feeding came on its own. I'm sure you'll be ok.

Oh wow, a 2 hour wait to see them?? That would make me go crazy! Glad the feeding is going well. Do you feel like bonding and everything going okay even with them spending time in NICU and having the delay of seeing them and skin to skin. That's one of my worries.

Oh yes, DH got to see them, but I was the first to be able to pick them up. Even though they were in NICU after the initial wait I could go anytime I wanted and hold them for as long as I wanted so that was fine. But they weren't ventilated or anything, so it was easy and safe to pick them up. If they had been in NICU for something serious then maybe it would have been different...

Ultimately you can't control how things will happen at delivery or afterwards... but you hope for the best and keep an open mind. I had brought my pump to the hospital, as well as my nursing pillow and I waited to see how things went. And I did use both, and I am extremely thankful for how well things are going.

 

[snd80]

May I join you girls?!

I am 12 weeks pregnant with twins and am due Oct 16, although they said I wouldn't make it past Sept. Not sure what we are having yet but are hoping for a boy and a girl since this will be our one and only time!

I am very nervous! Hope some of you ladies can help put my worries to ease!!!

Hope everyone is doing well today!

 

[jury3]

Welcome snd80! You could totally make it to October! Not guaranteed of course, but you never know lol What are you nervous about?

 

[MamaMac123]

Snd - welcome and congrats!!!! Looks like from your signature you guys had quite the fertility journey! You must just be over the moon! You're only a couple weeks ahead of me! we're also hoping for boy/girl but of course will be thrilled no matter what.

 

[PinkPeony]

Welcome snd80 and congratulations! My twins are through ivf too. Can definitely relate to the worrying... It does get better after a while but I haven't fully stopped worrying. I think I won't feel at ease till they're in my arms. Then it's a whole new set of things to worry about I guess.

 

[snd80]

Thank you ladies for the warm welcomes!!!

I guess the first thing is we weren't expecting twins! All the stories we heard were you transfer two embryos and only one takes... and after all we went through to get to this point, I never dreamed it would work, let alone BOTH take!!! My husband has end stage kidney failure and is on dialysis, so my main worry is will we be able to manage it, especially on his dialysis days when he is weak, and since I am the main bread winner working 46 hours a week. I guess it will all pass in time, but I tend to overwhelm myself sometimes.... and Sept is ONLY 5 months away!!!

Anyways, how is everyone else today?

 

[jury3]

We were definitely surprised by twins too...we were just on clomid and really didn't think it would happen. I think you guys will be ok, seems like people always find a way It's helpful to have all these ladies to talk it out with though.

We are 36 weeks on Monday. Wasn't sure I'd make it this far. Doc checked me wed and no dilation. Bh have increased and I'm pretty sure a few of them are real ones. Nothing consistent, but I feel like my body is preparing a little. C-section is the 23rd but I'd be ok going a little earlier...just hanging in there trying to finish last minute preparations the best I can!

 

[Stinas]

Jury we are only a few days apart! I have no BH....dont even know what they feel like.

 

[Bcinla]

We were definitely surprised by twins too...we were just on clomid and really didn't think it would happen. I think you guys will be ok, seems like people always find a way It's helpful to have all these ladies to talk it out with though.

We are 36 weeks on Monday. Wasn't sure I'd make it this far. Doc checked me wed and no dilation. Bh have increased and I'm pretty sure a few of them are real ones. Nothing consistent, but I feel like my body is preparing a little. C-section is the 23rd but I'd be ok going a little earlier...just hanging in there trying to finish last minute preparations the best I can!

Jury and stinas, I cant believe you have made it this far! That is awesome. I have been MIA since the babies arrived. Life has been busy with twin newborns and an almost 3 year old. My mom has been staying withbus for the past month helping and we still can barely get anything done all day other than feed and take care of babies! It is wonderful, though, and I am enjoying every.moment. good luck to you both with your deliveries. Looking forward to seeing pics when your babies arrive.

 

[jury3]

Jury we are only a few days apart! I have no BH....dont even know what they feel like.

Lucky you! Lol mine used to just be tightenings. Now I get a weight on my chest, like an anxiety attack or something where I feel like I need to take deep breathes. Sometimes I can't feel the tightening, sometimes I can. It's strange.

Bcinia-I don't know how any of you ladies find time to be on here after having your babies! Lol DW and I held a 7 week old today and I think it's starting to hit us a little that these babies are almost here! Excited but a little scared...

I'm officially at my goal of 36 weeks!

 

[Blue12]

Congrats bicinla!!! Gorgeous avatar. My mom is staying with us too. Busy but amazing right!!!

Jury congrats on 36 weeks. That's so amazing for your babies growth.

 

[Ibelieveitwil]

Congrats on all the wonderful twin babies, we so excited to meet ours!

Jury, congrats on your 36 week mark, when does your dr think the babies will be here?

 

[trgirl308]

I come on here when I breastfeed... so I'm still on here everyday. lol. I'm too addicted.

 

[MamaMac123]

Jury - congrats on 36 weeks! That's awesome!

Fun to hear from all the Mommy's whose babies have arrived!

10 1/2 weeks here and doing pretty well. Feeling like I'm getting a bit more energy so that's good.

I shared last week how I had to face the reality that this birth will not be any I the things id hoped for since it's twins. After taking all of that in the past week I've got a lot of thoughts swirling around. I know a lot of you have opted for a scheduled c section. Never thought I'd think this but I'm actually considering it as well. I was so set on wanting a natural home birth and when I think about labouring in a hospital and delivering in an OR room with nurses and doctors all over the place watching and everyone stressed and on edge and expecting complications and having to have the epidural etc etc the whole vaginal birth experience looses all it's appeal to me. It transforms from an empowering experience to a torturous nightmare in my head.

But of course there's arguments that if you can do it then vaginal may be better and recovery easier. So.....those who have had or opted for a c section, I'd love to hear your thoughts on how you came to that decision. Same with any of you planning to go for vaginal or who did to vaginal. I'd love to hear any thoughts, opinions, advice and experiences you have to share. I'm really torn about what I want to do right now. I definitely have time to research and consider the options. But I'm a planner and the longer I go without a plan in my mind the more stressed I'll become so since my birth plan has had to change so drastically I really want to set my mind on a new one as soon as I can

Thanks in advance!

 

[trgirl308]

For the first half of my pregnancy the babies were breach and it would have been a scheduled c-section and there was a part of me that was relieved to not have to choose. I had a natural birth for my first so I more or less cared to relive that.... but the recovery of a section with twins and a toddler would not have been fun. In the end both babies turned and spent the last 8 weeks head down and I figured I had to at least try vaginal, even though a section for the second remains a possibility. I had an amazing doctor and both were delivered very well and easily and it was a really great experience, and I feel great afterwards..... but I was lucky it could have gone very differently. I can't tell you how to choose, and you have plenty of time to change your mind over and over....

 

[PinkPeony]

You might want to take a tour of your hospital. You won't necessarily be labouring in an OR room. I'm in the same province as you so this may be the same deal at your hospital - at mine you're in a labour room the same as anyone else. They're quite private and comfortable and have big baths which are used as a comfort measure while you're labouring. As long as your babies are doing well they room with you.
I'm having a sheduled c section just because one of my twins has a complication that would make a vag birth dangerous, otherwise I think I'd be going for it. On the one hand it's definitely nice to know I'll be avoiding some of the scary scenarios and I know the exact day (most likely) that it's all going down so I can plan my life around it. But on the other hand I'm a little freaked out about having surgery and then being expected to take care of 2 newborns, and worried how the recovery will be and if it'll effect breastfeeding etc.
It sounds like what's troubling you is the feeling of uncertainty around it all which I can totally relate to that. All you can do is familiarize yourself with your hospital's practices and resign yourself to the fact that your control over the situation is limited. In that sense, it's not any different than a singleton birth. Plans go awry all the time it seems.

 

[MamaMac123]

Good advice from you both. Thanks I think you're right, the uncertainty is really tough for me but that is birth so I need to just get used to it! I think touring the hospital is a great idea too. Seeing where the birth would take place and finding out their procedures for sure will be very helpful! Thanks!

 

[jury3]

Ibelieveitwil-Doc hasn't really said when she thinks they'll be here. So far my cervix has been closed nice and tight, so she thinks I could make it to our c-section date. DW is convinced I'm going to have them this week though lol

MamaMac123-I still would love to try for a vaginal delivery. Definitely not what I had in mind, but I would much prefer that over a c-section. I very seriously doubt baby a will flip though. That's the only reason I'm scheduled for a c-section is bc baby a is breech. I would still much rather experience pushing them out and having them put on my chest, recovering quicker, etc than getting cut open and not being able to feel what is happening.
I agree that you have time to think about it though. I would talk to your doc more and do the hospital tour. You can talk to a doula too. Researching my hospitals expectations and talking to outside sources made me feel better about my choices. We took a c-section class and a multiples class at our hospital, I highly recommend both.