U.S. Mommies To Be

[southerngal2]

aaahhhhhhh!!!!!!

So My friend was throwing me a shower and my SIL decided she wanted to help.
Then totally took over!
She totally goes overboard with everything! She's already driving me crazy!
I want to keep it simple, because of everything else going on. She laughs when I tell her I want it simple and she has already irritated my friend. She's freaking out cause I don't want to do it her way.
Why don't people listen to what you really want?
She keeps saying "Well I want to do this for you" "I want it to be nice for you"
Well if you are doing it for me then keep it simple!

OK...all better......just needed a little rant!

 

[MissFox]

So had 1 contraction during the NST. So much pressure though!!! Hope I go soon!!

 

[MrsK]

I know that the pay for leave etc in California is good but it also makes it very expensive and difficult to be an employer here and we do end up driving some businesses away. Sure, I'd love it if we had what Canada has or what most of Europe offers, but I also don't know how they can possibly afford it?

I'm originally from Germany, where my dad owned a company-- he eventually had to declare bankruptcy because it's so hard pay employees for at least 6 weeks of vacation every year, plus sick leave.

He now has the same business here in the States, and he's doing great-- mostly because he doesn't have to deal with all the hassle of paying employees who are being completely unproductive by taking time off.

So, it's not all good with being able to take so much time off. Germany's healthcare system is also slowly going down the drain. With time, all that "free" stuff really adds up for the government, like it or not.

 

[lisaf]

I know that the pay for leave etc in California is good but it also makes it very expensive and difficult to be an employer here and we do end up driving some businesses away. Sure, I'd love it if we had what Canada has or what most of Europe offers, but I also don't know how they can possibly afford it?

I'm originally from Germany, where my dad owned a company-- he eventually had to declare bankruptcy because it's so hard pay employees for at least 6 weeks of vacation every year, plus sick leave.

He now has the same business here in the States, and he's doing great-- mostly because he doesn't have to deal with all the hassle of paying employees who are being completely unproductive by taking time off.

So, it's not all good with being able to take so much time off. Germany's healthcare system is also slowly going down the drain. With time, all that "free" stuff really adds up for the government, like it or not.

I don't even know what I'd DO with 6 weeks vacation I don't think I need that much really!
But then again, I do 'steal time' a lot, lol... (you know, like coming on BnB during working hours ) So if I added up all that time its probably 6 weeks worth

I do wish we had better/cheaper healthcare. I've been trying to get an estimate on my hospital stay cost (out-of-pocket) and there are just so many loopholes that I can't get a good estimate.
We get lucky here that we often get more health services than countries that have to ration their care, but I know that the only reason we get those services is because somebody else isn't getting them who may need them, you know?
I wish there was a great solution to all of this!

 

[lisaf]

got signed off work!

Last day will be Friday. Kind of scary tbh!! This will be the longest time I've gone without working since freshman year of college!!

Bad news is that after measuring right on track every time... I'm now measuring 2 weeks ahead Of course my doc did say 'on you, its a little hard to tell for sure what is baby' (code language for 'you're too fat to measure easily' )
So I get to have a growth scan. She wants me to schedule it for 39 weeks though, so I still have a wait.
I guess if the ultrasound expert says the baby is measuring 10+ lbs, that we might be headed for a c-section or MAYBE an inducement. It was nice of her to admit that the ultrasounds aren't an exact science.. she said they can be +/- a lb or so.
Kind of scary to hear inducement and c-section with everything going so well for me so far... I really want that natural birth!!

 

[MissFox]

FML!!!
So the MW I don't like checked me after my ultrasound since I have low fluid. They wanted to see what would be needed for an induction and apparently I've gone from 1cm and 60% to LONG and CLOSED. What the fuck?!?!! I'm completely distraught since she also said baby is not engaged at all but I have so much pressure in my vag and bum and I've been losing plug all day!!! I really want to go into labor even more now. I can't believe today- and after all the painful contractions!

 

[MissFox]

OK well called back to talk and got some things cleared up - apparently there is no change in the cervix but she worded it differently and that really freaked me out. She said that I could very well go into labor at any point in time but my induction stays at getting cervidil Sunday night and Pitocin starting monday. I'm hoping the cervidil works wonders and I dialate enough to break my water to see if that helps and if I can skip the pitocin or maybe lower the dose if I get going? IDK> We'll see but they've made sure to schedule the induction for when it would be a midwife delivering instead of a Dr.
Still- I hope things keep up and I go on my own before then. My favorite midwife is on call tomorrow so that would be AMAZING! But again- not holding my breath.

 

[luckyme225]

Fingers crossed your LO decides to come tomorrow when your favorite midwife is on call. I know the feeling, I'm in a practice with 7 midwifes and while they all seem nice enough you just click with some better. There are two that I would be super excited to get during labor.

 

[JNA]

Of course my doc did say 'on you, its a little hard to tell for sure what is baby' (code language for 'you're too fat to measure easily' )

Ha my dr says the same thing lol

C-sections scare me but my best friend was induced with her 1st and said it felt like Freddy Krueger was trying to claw his way out of her

 

[lisaf]

I dunno, I'd rather be in pain for 20 hours or whatever with an induced labor than be in pain for weeks after with a c-section recovery!

 

[lisaf]

actually, I'd REALLY rather just blink my eyes and have a baby in my arms, no pain, no damage etc

 

[southerngal2]

actually, I'd REALLY rather just blink my eyes and have a baby in my arms, no pain, no damage etc

Me too!
Wouldn't that be awesome!

 

[DarlingMe]

We can go back to the 1930's when they knocked you out with ether and tied you down while ur hubby smoked cigars in the waiting room. Funny those women wanted to be awake!!

 

[MissFox]

I'd really like it if my belly button was an EJECT button. POKE POKE POKE! EJECT DAMMIT!
Here's my 40 week bump pic. Just took them.

 

[lisaf]

MissFox - hmmm, have you tried jumping up and down?

 

[Sweet_Mama]

MissFox you have a beautiful and perfectly round belly. I love it!

 

[southerngal2]

An EJECT button!

 

[MissFox]

Well none of the other "tricks" have worked so far lol. So at least I can make my own up about the EJECT button.
Diarrhea all day today too. COMMON! I WANNA BEAT INDUCTION!

 

[lisaf]

I walked to the corner to put a letter in the mailbox... on the way back I realized I wasn't short of breath anymore and my pelvis felt really dense/heavy. Thinking 'yay, he dropped'.
I walk back into my office then out to my car again and now I can't breathe, lol.
This sensation of suddenly being able to breathe keeps coming and going.
Do they slide in and out of engaging in your pelvis??

 

[MissFox]

Lisa- at a certain point they do. When I lay on my back she isn't very low but when I stand OUCH OUC OUCH!