UGH...another facebook pregnancy announcement!

[babyonmymind]

ha those stupid tickers are the worst! I don't want to know what your baby looks like right now!!! Some of them seem almost daily!

Littlebird, I completely understand about being judgemental! I'm active army, and planned on getting out when I got pregnant(they give you that option), and a girl back home in the national guard just had a baby 2 months ago and is freaking out about having to go to training for those meesly 2 weeks/yr that they go in the summer. I kept thinking to myself "if she doesn't like it she should've gotten out" or "it's only 2 weeks, at least its not a 12 month deployment", it's terrible, I feel like I can't be sensitive to the situation :/ I've definately had better moments

 

[littlebird28]

UPDATE: honeymoon girl just bleached her hair while pregnant. Tisk tiskkkkkkk. I love getting my judge on to make myself feel better sometimes.

 

[Stinas]

Personally....Im not a fan of announcements like this on FB. I think its a bit personal and god forbid something happens...its horrible enough to go through an experience like that, but then for all of FB to know and possibly ask questions. I would be horrified. I just feel like there are some things that should be left private. Nothing is private anymore. Like seriously...I dont care if you just checked into the movies/mall/work...no one cares. Call me old fashioned, but some things should just be left to word of mouth...let them find out from a random gossiper...not internet gossip.

 

[Hena]

I'm with you, Stinas! DH and I have already decided when we finally get the BFP, in-person annoucements and phone calls to our families and closest friends only...and that only after a "safe" amount of time. Anyway, I've been avoiding FB so much lately that it would look like I was only getting on to brag at this point and that's the LAST thing I'd want to do now that I know how it feels for any of my friends who might be quietly ttc.

 

[littlebird28]

I know! Taking a picture of your positive pregnancy test the DAY OF and posting it on facebook seemed like a bad idea. But, that's just me. My best friend told everyone about her getting pregnant (it took them 10 months) immediately and she ended up miscarrying. It was torture for her to tell everyone she wasn't pregnant anymore when they asked, I felt so terrible for her. She said she'd never heard of waiting for a safe amount of time to pass before announcing.

 

[pinksprinkles]

Ugh! I know what you mean- I think it's why my BF has finally decided to TTC this month. After watching me cry every time another friend got pregnant with their 2nd/3rd/4th child (while I've been wanting to TTC #1 for the last couple years!!!) finally got to him I think. At least we're trying now!

Of course, Iound out 2 wks ago that my best friend from HS is pregnant with her FORTH and she's only 28 while I just want to have my FIRST by 30! And then this past weekend TWO MORE couples announced their 2nd babies. And they're both younger then me and my BF. It's hard to get BF in the mood when he's been seeing me all day! Crying girl = not so sexy.

 

[wana b a mom]

I know the feeling! also, many of my friends are getting prego... and they are all asking me: "when are YOU going to get pregnant" .. well, I am trying!!!! I think me and my husband are doing what we can, follow the CBFm, eat right, work out, I pray every day for a baby!
We have been trying for 5 months but it feels like for ever! it took me a year before we started TTC because after the pill I got all messed up... so maybe that's why it feels like forever.

Good luck everyone!!!

 

[wana b a mom]

I know!! I tend to get snappy and judgemental to cope, which is bad! Here are some mean examples: My boss is 49 and very overweight, but got pregnant immediately. Another girl just announced she got pregnant during her honeymoon which was a few weeks ago (way too early to announce a pregnancy, in my humble opinion) but when she uploaded her honeymoon pictures she was chugging screwdrivers in every picture. Not saying drinking before knowing you're pregnant is bad, but I keep trying to follow every rule in the book (even gave up glorious coffee!) and still no luck. Maybe I should replace coffee with vodka.

it seems like the ones really trying to have a baby are struggling and the ones who may seem as "non deserving" are actually getting pregnant. I feel the same way you do. One of my closest friends loves to party and was just starting to TTC and voila, she got it the first time around! not fair

 

[Stinas]

OMG tell me about it!!!
Ive been married one year and I swear if I hear someone ask me "hurry up its your turn" or "what are you waiting for" or "are you trying?".....like seriously people....isnt it a bit personal to basically ask me when I am BD my husband? lol Uhhh it frustrated me beyond belief!!

 

[littlebird28]

Oh god...and don't even get me started on "16 and pregnant". Its ALWAYS on, so of course I ALWAYS watch it, and it makes me want to throw stuff at the tv. I am currently watching it (don't know why I do it to myself!) and this girl in particular wants to "lose weight" while pregnant because she's afraid she's too fat. She even went into the hospital for not eating for days. Blegh.

 

[Stinas]

That episode had me yelling at the tv!! What a moron!!! Eat you idiot! I get the whole eating disorder but it's not your choice when you are growing a little person inside of you. If you can't handle it go see a therapist and they can help you through eating while preg. Don't even get me started on her mother!!

 

[littlebird28]

Oh god...that Mother! I actually felt sorry for the pregnant girl at the end. The whole "with your discipline with the eating disorder, you could help me lose weight!" thing was seriously depressing. You're trying to get your daughter with anorexia to diet with you? Wow. Worst..idea...ever.

 

[Armywife84]

Not only are the "I'm pregnant" statuses and any other pregnant related statuses are annoying, but what's even worse is the ultrasound, and bump pics. That just shoves the thorn further in my side.

I've almost deleted my FB a couple of times, but I decided deleting those who were expecting was a better idea. I now only have a total of 3 pregnant girls on my status. 1 who is older and pregnant, but she's about due. Another who had problems ttc, finally became pregnant and now her baby has CDH. Then there's the other, who doesn't boast about her pregnancy. If they don't brag constantly about their pregnancy then I keep them on my friend's list. But if every other status is " another week down, so many to go" then they're gone. There comes a time when enough is enough.

I understand that they have bragging rights, but you could be a least a little bit considerate to those friends who you are aware of their struggles in TTC. Because of that, I've made a vow to myself to not blast my pregnancy all over FB.

 

[Armywife84]

When and if that time ever comes.

 

[Hena]

Your time will come Armywife84 and when the time comes you'll know how to share your joy while showing sensitivty to others.
I felt too bad deleting people so I've just hidden them all that way I don't have to see it, and they'll never know that I'm ignoring them.

 

[Stinas]

Totally agree with you Army!!
I just feel that some things should be a bit private. Even joyous things.

 

[elliep]

I'm with you all on this.
Only today have I seen someone on fb with their scan pics up and the girl who I work with has told me she is 8 wks pg.
Its got me down

 

[RaspberryB]

I agree, seeing all the FB pregnancy statuses is really hard even though I'm pleased for them too and I've only been trying 3 months (wanting to for aaaages though). I think I just have one preggers person on mine atm, thankfully! I might hide her if she gets too full on. 2 that have just had their babies though.

The worst statuses I find are the ones where people go on about how horrible and uncomfortable they are and how they "wish this damn baby would get out NOW!" or whatever when they are only about 32 weeks .

 

[mg80]

Get this one then. DH's friend started trying a few months before us. At the time he hadn't long got back together with his fiance after calling off their wedding as there were major probs in the relationship. She was gutted about the wedding being cancelled so when they patched things up she came off the pill instead to try for a baby. He told my DH at the time "Thing is, it's not going to fix a bad relationship is it". He also said something along lines of "Thankfully nothing has happened because I've been working away so much." This was in March 2010.

Sure enough, yesterday he has posted scan pics and a few posed pics of him and his 7 months pregnant fiance! I was like GRRRRR!!!! It should be OUR turn dammit, not theirs! As much as it hurts tho I can't stop looking at the scan pic and reading all the messages of congrats and wishing it was me

Their "fix up" baby is due a week before my first wedding anniversary. I want to throw things and scream - a lot.

 

[Armywife84]

Get this one then. DH's friend started trying a few months before us. At the time he hadn't long got back together with his fiance after calling off their wedding as there were major probs in the relationship. She was gutted about the wedding being cancelled so when they patched things up she came off the pill instead to try for a baby. He told my DH at the time "Thing is, it's not going to fix a bad relationship is it". He also said something along lines of "Thankfully nothing has happened because I've been working away so much." This was in March 2010.

Sure enough, yesterday he has posted scan pics and a few posed pics of him and his 7 months pregnant fiance! I was like GRRRRR!!!! It should be OUR turn dammit, not theirs! As much as it hurts tho I can't stop looking at the scan pic and reading all the messages of congrats and wishing it was me

Their "fix up" baby is due a week before my first wedding anniversary. I want to throw things and scream - a lot.

Wow, I can't stand those women who trap their man. What they fail to realize is a baby DOES NOT fix a relationship/marriage..it actually makes it much worse. I feel sorry for that child down the road when he/she has to deal with a divorce.

I've done that too, longingly looking at other people's ultrasound and silently wishing it was me.