Ultimate Venting Thread

[Just_married]

Just married, I hope my comment didn't offen anyone.

It's just very frustrating at the minute as I so desperately want the help but won't get it till I turn thirty. Kinda hurts to be told someone else's criteria means I have to wait to be a mother

No, your comment wasn't aimed at me, it was aimed at daft criteria, the same criteria which deems me too old to deserve treatment, ever. So our frustration is aimed at the same thing, just glad at least you have that at some point x

 

[Armywife84]

Aimed at daft NHS...Seriously, what age is appropriate for fertility assistance? I hear of where they're turning women away because they're too old or have one already (it's called secondary IF, you twats) and of where they're too young!

If they're going to offer assistance, then they need not be so picky!! Infertility is very black and white, no serious IF woman should be turned away!!

 

[Zfbaby]

Unfortunately because of where we live (Wiltshire) we would not be eligible for nhs help until I hit thirty which is next August. we are not in a position to pay for ivf privately as at £5000 ish a round it's a big gamble on our savings. Due to dhs job we also can't move which I have suggested before so we can get help.
I get so angry that we pay towards the nhs and very rarely get the help we need or at least not without jumping through hoops or battling their minefield of blunders.
Also, nhs pays for some of the stupidest procedures for some but won't help more people with if!!!!

Their criteria is also aimed at my weight. I'm 5.4ft and when we 1st went to ifs i was a size 16. Id have to lose quite a bit by the time I get to 30 to qualify. I've already lost a dress size And I'm trying slimming world now too. I'm not going to finally get to thirty and be knocked back!!!!

 

[wonderstars]

I just had to stop by and express my shock and disgust at the NHS. Unreal.

Many many good thoughts headed your way, ladies.

 

[Zfbaby]

Oh also I had to get this mini rant out. I work in retail and we have some customers in our shop that I have known for years and are very friendly with. A couple came in yesterday and we began to chat. Her daughter is pregnant with # 3. I had to stand there and make all the expected ahhs and ohhs whilst she told me her daughter is really upset it's another boy!!!!!!!!!!!!
I don't think I need to say much more as I'm sure all you ladies can guess how I felt

 

[BearsMummy]

That's what else is upsetting me about them fucking up, I have until I'm 34 to get treatment on the NHS, I'm 33 in a couple of weeks, so I don't have much time and they have just wasted nearly 3 months of potential treatment.

But I am now presuming I will be declined for funding after what the girl at the PCT said to me.

I hate living in this limbo, I know Pauline will find out everything for me. But I just want to know where my paperwork is and get it sent off! I'm just wasting time.

 

[timeforababy]

hi guys, I lurk on this thread a bit but haven't dared to post as we're not quite LTTC yet.

But as everyone is venting about the NHS, I'd like to vent about mine too.

I can't get referred to a fertility specialist at all in my PCT because my husband has children from a previous marriage. So I will get NOTHING on the NHS.

 

[Just_married]

Bears, like Pauline said, she is not a decision maker, hang in there. It is always your referral age that is used, that way wIting lists (or inefficiency) won't disqualify you.

Keep your chin up chicken! X

 

[zanDark]

I want to vent about not being able to keep away from the venting thread

 

[Just_married]

My tiny rant for today:

Don't whinge about not wanting to have children and say things like "why does everybody seem to have an opinion on my ovaries" etc then 6 months later post photographs of silver cross prams asking your FB friends if we think it's worth saving up for as a walking pram.

I think I smell an attention seeker!

Over and out x

 

[wonderstars]

Vent:

When did it become wrong to protect yourself?! I don't understand that at ALL.

And I really really really don't get why anyone would pop back into LTTC to give advice. I'm not even being a cow about it, I sure as hell wouldn't and wouldn't blame anyone for getting their panties in a knot.

My panties are in a big knot this morning.

 

[rosebud_01_99]

Vent:

When did it become wrong to protect yourself?! I don't understand that at ALL.

And I really really really don't get why anyone would pop back into LTTC to give advice. I'm not even being a cow about it, I sure as hell wouldn't and wouldn't blame anyone for getting their panties in a knot.

My panties are in a big knot this morning.

hi
getting so sick of it as well, this whole forum is turning into a real hassle, i get a sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach every time i log in now just wondering who will be posting us HOPE or ADVICE or criticising us on our feelings. i wish these women would just appreciate how lucky they have been and pause for a minute to think how shit it is for us left behind but other than post under sucess stories stay away from posting in lttc because no matter how nicely its worded they are rubbing our faces in their joy.

rosebud

 

[NavyWife84]

THERE IS A SUCCESS STORIES SECTION FOR A REASON!!!!!
I feel better now.
But seriously, why keep posting after you have been told that you are hurting the ladies reading it? I'm beginning to think that being pregnant brainwashes you!

 

[Wobbles]

I'm sorry but there is always a select few who ruin these kind of threads.

Cross posting is against the TOS and so is anti-forum/anti-social behaviour. I suggest if people cannot stay within the rules or don't want to be on the forum because it's a hassle then logout, nobody can force you to login!