unsure if complete

[lilesMom]

I'm not sure if ill ttc again.
I had a mmc
Then my beautiful son.
He is brilliant but has cp, epilepsy and possibly aurism
So hands full
I've had 2 more MCs this year.
So I really don't know if u can face ttc again.
If someone guaranteed me id get my baby I would.
But with the uncertainty
I'm not sure I can put us all through more MCs.
Anyone wavering too?

My recent mc was only 3 weeks ago so i could change my mind.

But I'm already looking forward to maybe having a little me time
When preschool hits next year 😊

 

[marie-louise]

Hiya, you've had a rough time! I'm so sorry for your losses! I would advise just taking some time before making any decisions ! Start thinking about you, maybe take up a hobby and look after yourself. I too had a mmc and then a traumatic birth with my son. I had post traumatic stress disorder and my son was diagnosed with autism as he turned 4, he was under assessment from before age 2. I had decided that one child was enough and to be grateful to be blessed as we were. When our son started preschool I took some time for me, I took up horseriding, started eating better and lost weight. I also made more of an effort arranging play/coffee dates with other parents. My husband was always keen to have another so I kind of agreed to be open as personally, I was in a better place. I laid out my expectations, ie. I would be frightened and would need a lot of support from husband, it would be my last pregnancy no matter the outcome. Here I am 31 weeks pregnant and feeling quite positive. My son is 5 and a half and we have put in a lot of preparation with him, he is at a good age to understand what is going on and is In a good routine. I wouldn't have been ready a few years ago, physically, emotionally or mentally to have another child and am now so glad I took the time to find me again!

 

[lilesMom]

Thanks for ur reply xx
We hve similar situation.
Ur so right.
I'm not ready yet
I wont be making definite decision for awhile.
I'm kinda trying to see how id feel if I was done now.
I think id be sad things didn't work out
But I wouldn't be devastated cos I hve my lil boy.
But I think I'm more leaning to trying again
I'm 35 so cant wait too long

How are u now?
U must be tired at the mo?
Hope things are going well for u x

 

[lilesMom]

It took along time to diagnose didn't it
My lil guy been in early intervention since birth
I asked about autism ages ago but told way too young to know
Recently his psychologist said its time to start thinking about autism testing
Id be surprised if he isn't on the spectrum to be honest
But he does hve sensory problems and cp
So there is a lot of crossover

 

[OmarsMum]

I feel the same

I had 3 mcs in a row, and a chemical before conceiving DS.

I'm still scared to ttc again, I don't have easy mcs I have to go for D&Cs, and with the nature of my uterus & cervix, there are risks to go for more D&Cs.

I went for some tests recently, but all came back normal, I still have to go for more tests.

I'm 37, hubby is 51 , we are not young anymore, we've been ttc without success for over 2 yrs now.

 

[lilesMom]

Hugs hon.xx
Its so hard to know if going on is worth it.
If I could know for sure I hve another child
Id go again.
But I could just be signing up for more mc s
I had d and c first two times too.
This time I went for med management
But I've had two lots if antibiotics foe infection.
Got clots again last week ( nearly 4 weeks after mc)
Feel like not done
So could end up with d and c 4 weeks after.
Sigh!!!
Its starting to feel not worth it.
I want another child
But I'm not sure how many mcs I can handle before I hve to give up.
I've had blood tests just done but all came back normal
Except my thyroid which I already knew about ��
Sorry I've gone rambly.
Are u ttc now?
Or hve u decided yet hon.
Hope u get peace with whatever u decide xxx

 

[OmarsMum]

No we're not ttc, I'm not ready, I don't even know if I'm going to be ready anytime soon. I'm going for the tests to know the reasons but until now we got nothing from the tests.

 

[lilesMom]

I've been referred for early preg loss clinic for more tests too
But could be 6 months or more before I'm seen.
One day I decide Il ttc soon.
Next day I'm back to never ��
So I'm not ready either.
I wish i could stop thinking about it
And just take a break
But I cant seem to.
I'm not sure what tests if any they will do for me.
In Ireland its three in a row mc before tests.
But I hve my boy in middle.
So...
Not sure if they will help.
They only referred me cos I asked everyone I met in hospital for testing ��
Hee hee
Would love some answer and something to fix
But don't think Il get it
At least they r ruling out more serious things though xxx

 

[lilesMom]

I just noticed ur ticker with mc at 12 weeks scan twice
That is rough hon.
Giant hugs xxx
Mc is always horrible but the further u get the harder it hits
Xxx

 

[marie-louise]

Hi liles mom, thankfully all is going well. Yes the assessment process took a long time, however, being honest, I feel that as the child gets older the autism becomes more obvious. I look at my boy and wonder how we ever could have doubted his autism! It's been a tough journey but gosh, I wouldn't change him for the world! The only think I hate is his anxiety! I see you are irish! From where?

 

[lilesMom]

I'm thinking the same with squish even now.
The older he gets the more pronounced his quirks seem
I suppose its natural u would notice more when older
Cos there is more expected of them when older .
Glad alls well with u xxx

 

[lilesMom]

Sorry I'm from cork ��
Nearly missed that Qs x

 

[marie-louise]

Ah, I'm from tyrone. You really do have your hands full at the minute! Just remember that things always work out as they are meant to, no amount of worrying will change the outcome.

 

[lilesMom]

Ur not too far away ��
Yeah I'm ok about things now.
I'm putting off decision making either way for a bit
I'll get me back to normality first ��
Thanks xx
Hope u hve a nice weekend

 

[lilesMom]

Came upon my own thread.
I had two more preg.
A cp and my lovely little gurl Emily
Now unsure on third!!!
Sometimes feel done.
Sometimes dont.
I feel greedy after re reading thus thread
Extra cuddles for my two squishes this eve
Hope u all found happiness and peace in your decisions xxx