MummyMummy
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i've made two posts in the past about it, well today just had a phone call from my grandad who had been told by my nan (maybe... just maybe she does like me after all!!
considering she didn't want me to be excluded/feel upset about everybody else knowing) to give me a call to 'let me know, because it isn't on'.
well... what do you girlies make of this?
last night aunty and uncle went down - this is the gossip aunty that i said originally had told my nan. they got talking about sister and her kid and said she was 26weeks preg (!!!!!) and apparently baby due in august (ours due 6th june!) and my grandad (him being a bloke as you can imagine doesn't get into the ins and outs and tbh doesn't take an interest/bother with my mum/her kids due to the way she was with me when i was younger etc etc) and he said 'i'm sure our *my name* already knows' and uncles g/f said 'well not really you see they've not told her because she texted, not phoned'
WTF?! as i mentioned in my last post i had texted saying 'is *name* knocked up?' (knocked up is what i used to say to my mum/sister about me being preg and they'd tell me i was disgusting for calling it that) and then tried phoning but phone was off. what's the big secret? what's the need to phone? if they wanted to tell me themselves then surly they would have done it before telling everybody else? or tell me when i went down on easter?(yes, as in a week or so ago) not the sentimental type as you can prob tell
the other day i was really upset but you know what? i actually feel not too bad about not knowing (obviously i'm still hurting but whatever)... but more fool them two tbh, considering i'm just about to have a baby and all my baby stuff will be well looked after (and neutral might i add as we are having a surprise!) there would have been an awful lot of vests/baby gros to give, same with me having our car during the day it would make for alot of trips out, my mum lives in a 3bed house which has 2 double bedrooms and 1 box room (thousands... as in over 50thousand! worth of debt) with her and her husband and 3boys and 3girls... were as we have not alot of extra money but some so we could have helped her and her baby out, same with had them stay over with us if they wanted when we move to give them so peace and quiet and fresh air (mum smokes constantly as does my oldest younger brother), the house is a mess too... holes in walls that she and oldest younger brother have kicked/punched/threw things at, dirty, messy etc etc... but obviously as i'm not an important person to tell i wont need to do any of the above
which works for me. if only they would have thought their sly plan out before hand.
i said in original post i don't know if i could support her, as i've said i'd never tell her and i'd do what i could reguardless because that's what family does right? they made it clear though that i'm not a part of that family, so no support needed from me
i feel so sorry for that baby and really ashamed tbh. my sister often stays out for days/weeks (even before she turned 16!) at a time... not even a phone call, kicked out of school, no plans to get a job/go back to education, hangs around street corners, friends she used to have told me she was a 'slag' and gets around
, has a criminal record actually it wasn't too long ago that she got in trouble with the police when they found her dna on a can of beer that was next to a broken into shed (nothing happened re: that though as there was no deffinite proof she broke into shed)... what kind of mother will she make? considering she's 26weeks preg at easter she was chasing our younger brother who's around 13 maybe around the house and upstairs shouting 'get here you little fucking shit! i'm going to fucking hit you, get here now!' way to go mummy!!! and that was infront of our youngest sister who just turned 2!!! my lord.
my grandad said, as many of you girlies did to not worry about them as that 'wont ever happen with my 2'
wow all i can think is 'good luck' :\
xXx
update added: apparently she's having a boy! we both had boys for our 1st babys, this should deffinitly be a bonding/sharing time.
considering she didn't want me to be excluded/feel upset about everybody else knowing) to give me a call to 'let me know, because it isn't on'.well... what do you girlies make of this?
last night aunty and uncle went down - this is the gossip aunty that i said originally had told my nan. they got talking about sister and her kid and said she was 26weeks preg (!!!!!) and apparently baby due in august (ours due 6th june!) and my grandad (him being a bloke as you can imagine doesn't get into the ins and outs and tbh doesn't take an interest/bother with my mum/her kids due to the way she was with me when i was younger etc etc) and he said 'i'm sure our *my name* already knows' and uncles g/f said 'well not really you see they've not told her because she texted, not phoned'
WTF?! as i mentioned in my last post i had texted saying 'is *name* knocked up?' (knocked up is what i used to say to my mum/sister about me being preg and they'd tell me i was disgusting for calling it that
) and then tried phoning but phone was off. what's the big secret? what's the need to phone? if they wanted to tell me themselves then surly they would have done it before telling everybody else? or tell me when i went down on easter?(yes, as in a week or so ago) not the sentimental type as you can prob tell the other day i was really upset but you know what? i actually feel not too bad about not knowing (obviously i'm still hurting but whatever)... but more fool them two tbh, considering i'm just about to have a baby and all my baby stuff will be well looked after (and neutral might i add as we are having a surprise!) there would have been an awful lot of vests/baby gros to give, same with me having our car during the day it would make for alot of trips out, my mum lives in a 3bed house which has 2 double bedrooms and 1 box room (thousands... as in over 50thousand! worth of debt) with her and her husband and 3boys and 3girls... were as we have not alot of extra money but some so we could have helped her and her baby out, same with had them stay over with us if they wanted when we move to give them so peace and quiet and fresh air (mum smokes constantly as does my oldest younger brother), the house is a mess too... holes in walls that she and oldest younger brother have kicked/punched/threw things at, dirty, messy etc etc... but obviously as i'm not an important person to tell i wont need to do any of the above
which works for me. if only they would have thought their sly plan out before hand.i said in original post i don't know if i could support her, as i've said i'd never tell her and i'd do what i could reguardless because that's what family does right? they made it clear though that i'm not a part of that family, so no support needed from me
i feel so sorry for that baby and really ashamed tbh. my sister often stays out for days/weeks (even before she turned 16!) at a time... not even a phone call, kicked out of school, no plans to get a job/go back to education, hangs around street corners, friends she used to have told me she was a 'slag' and gets around
, has a criminal record actually it wasn't too long ago that she got in trouble with the police when they found her dna on a can of beer that was next to a broken into shed (nothing happened re: that though as there was no deffinite proof she broke into shed)... what kind of mother will she make? considering she's 26weeks preg at easter she was chasing our younger brother who's around 13 maybe around the house and upstairs shouting 'get here you little fucking shit! i'm going to fucking hit you, get here now!' way to go mummy!!! and that was infront of our youngest sister who just turned 2!!! my lord.my grandad said, as many of you girlies did to not worry about them as that 'wont ever happen with my 2'
wow
all i can think is 'good luck' :\xXx
update added: apparently she's having a boy! we both had boys for our 1st babys, this should deffinitly be a bonding/sharing time.
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i'm not trying to have a go or cause and argument..but do the kids consent to having their hair straightened cos i wouldn't say thats awful if they consent..understanderbly if they were to refuse and the 2 yr old yes.
and i doubt the kids at that age really understand what she's doing enough to make an informed decision about that or anything else tbh. my mum used to tell her off for doing it and she'd just be like 'yeah? so what?' if they try to escape they get a 'well fuck off then' shouted at them. reeeally don't think straightening a young child/babys hair is the best considering how damaging straightners are to our hair, with serums etc on and how fine little ones hair is. not to mention them moving and being burnt on 200degree heat. it's making mecringe just thinking about it. i would kill anybody who tried to straighten my childs hair with the bloody straightener cord 
