Update - told the father

[emilee1]

So, I told the father today. I didn't really plan on it, but I saw him and I just thought maybe I should tell him before I lost the nerve. As much as I don't want to tell anyone, I'm tired of keeping it to myself too. I told him that I'm pregnant and he was just like "Oh." He didn't realize I was saying I was pregnant with his baby. So I actually had to say that it was his and then he still didn't really believe it. he said he felt sick and that he had to go and we couldn't talk about it right then because my brother was around and basically just ignored me after that. I don't know what to think now.

 

[justhoping]

let him sink it in..no matter what he will be made to pay child support so dont worry about it..there is a dna test the courts will make him do or child support will make him do and he will be having to do that..

he doesnt have to be in ur life or baby but give it sometime he may come around...it does take guys a bit longer....

ps once you tell your parents and if he refuses to tell his..u and ur parents should tell his so that they can help with there grandchild as well.

 

[lov3hat3]

I think it takes longer for it to sink in for them. When I told jamies father I was pregnant he took its badly and didn't want anything to do with it, now he has him every weekend. When I told OH about this baby all he said was "oh" and carried on playing cod Just give him a bit of time, maybe he'll come round, maybe he wont. If he doesn't then its his loss not yours

 

[amytrisha]

^ wss!
Let it sink in and if he decides he doesn't wanna be there it's his loss.
Babies are precious!

 

[emilee1]

H texted me today and said he was just really freaked out by it and didn't really know what to do. He asked me if I was sure. Why do they always ask that? Like, no, I told you I'm pregnant because I'm just assuming. Anyway, now even he is telling me I have to go to the doctor. I still haven't made an appointment. I was going to yesterday but got too scared. I told him I was scared to go to the doctor and he basically yelled at me. But he said he was sorry and that he just wants to know what's going on and doesn't want anything to happen to me because it'll all be his fault. He said he will go to the doctor with me, which I didn't expect at all, at least not this soon. So, I hope he follows through with that because i was mostly scared of having to go by myself. He begged me not to tell my brother (his friend) yet, but I'm in no hurry to tell anyone else anyway.

 

[amytrisha]

That's lovely he seems to want to be there for you. Make an apt with your doctor, its honestly nothing to worry about. Are you in the UK? If so the doctor will do nothing but take a few details (your last period) and refer you to a midwife.

Good luck x

 

[emilee1]

I'm in the US.

 

[amytrisha]

Ah in that case I'm not 100% sure what happens at your first apt but either way you'll be fine, especially with support. X

 

[justhoping]

your first app they will examine you, u can ask for a women if you feel more comfy that way, they will ask you ur medical history and family history... they will do a pap smear dont worry it doesnt hurt. Its just to make sure everything is on the up and up..you may spot after but that is normal. they will send you out for prenatal blood work and basically that is it till the next four weeks...
they always very supportive especially if you say ur scared...the nurse will hold ur hand if you wish during this whole thing if you wish....
they will also prescribe you prenatals....and if you want can help you tell ur parents if you wish the support..if not there not allowed to say anything u dont want them too..

xx

 

[slg76]

Good for you for telling the father!! It is understandable that he was shocked and quiet at first. great news that he is offering to go with you to the doctor. I would suggest that you tell the dr this is your first ob visit and that you are nervous. Ask them to explain what is going on and remember that you can refuse anything you aren't comfortable with. Hang in there. You are doing great.

 

[x__amour]

Give him time. I hope he comes around.

 

[Balloo]

**not a teen just stalking**
Hey Hun, having jut read ur previous post and this one I just wanted to respond. I'm so glad u have told the father, he deserves the chance to be involved and hopefully he will be supportive. If u r scented of going to the doctor why don't u ask him to go with u? Not exactly an ideal situation I know, but at,east it will give u some support, and to be fair he is probably just as scard and confused as u r. As far as telling anyone else, just go to the doctors and talk everything through with them. Ask all the questions u can think of (even if he hey sound stupid I ur head) and then talk seriously with the father about telling ur parents. Maybe telling them together will help to give u the confidence to tell them. Good luck with everything lovely and if u ever need to talk just drop me an email x

 

[skyesmom]

glad to hear he is coming around! you did a great thing to tell him, and you'll see it will get better in time, but as all pp said, you have to go to the doctor asap it's nothing bad or scary and it's the best you can do both for yourself and your baby. and it's great if he comes with you.

 

[xforuiholdonx]

They will also probably gove you an ultrasoubd if youre already 10-11 weeks

 

[mayb_baby]

Glad he seems to want to be there for you, make an appointment and start taking your vitamins. I'm in the UK but I think in the US they get early scans and I know a lot has to do with medical insurance in the US and I don't know how that all works.
Hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months

 

[emilee1]

So, I haven't been here in a little while because a lot has been going on. I went to the doctor and the father came with me. As of today, I am 13 weeks, 1 day, due on June 18. The appointment was just like all of you said - not as scary is I thought.
My birthday was on Dec. 9 and I wanted to wait until after then to tell my parents, but I sort of got in an argument with my mom about my birthday and I told her. They are really upset still. My mom's just been crying about it a lot. The father told his parents and they seem like they're even more upset than my parents.
Surprisingly, my brother has been the most supportive toward me even though it's his friend who is the father and he doesn't even want to talk to him.
I feel like I've let everyone down.

 

[slg76]

HI Emilee. I was just wondering about you yesterday. I'm so glad that you have gone to the doctor and told your parents. I'm so sorry that they are still so upset. I suppose that is to be expected. I'm sure this isn't what they envisioned for you. But, you must feel so much better for not having to keep a secret anymore. They will come around because they love you. I'm glad your brother is being supportive.

Sounds like the baby is doing well. How are you feeling?

 

[justhoping]

im glad u went to the doctor and told everyone, dont worry, i know the beginning seems rocky, but give it time. People will start warming up to the idea and back up to you...its just a shock is all

 

[emilee1]

HI Emilee. I was just wondering about you yesterday. I'm so glad that you have gone to the doctor and told your parents. I'm so sorry that they are still so upset. I suppose that is to be expected. I'm sure this isn't what they envisioned for you. But, you must feel so much better for not having to keep a secret anymore. They will come around because they love you. I'm glad your brother is being supportive.

Sounds like the baby is doing well. How are you feeling?

I knew they would be upset, but now it's just awkward. I'm avoiding having to be around them as much as possible. In a way it feels better to not be hiding it, but I wish I hadn't told them yet.

The baby appears to be fine. I'm feeling sick but I don't know if it's the pregnancy or just the sickness I feel over my parents knowing.

 

[slg76]

hang in there